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@divijdoshi7

So I had been indulging in self-harm for the last 9 years, I had stopped last 2 years back when I started dating someone.4 months back that person broke up out of the blue, My insecurities were brought out, my entrance exam results came out and everything just piled on where I pushed myself into self-harm. As it was 4 days after the break up I was still close to that person and when she asked me to send the self-harm pictures I did. After 4 days I come to know the pictures were leaked in my class group, my friends stopped talking to me as I was boycotted because they chose her in every situation knowing she was wrong. After 2 weeks she claimed she wanted to break up from the last 6 months. In short, I really loved this person but never got closure from her and here I am finding ways to let go of her but am not able to because I have so many questions. She says sorry also so casually which makes me so angry and triggers me more. What should I do to achieve some closure?
*Have stopped harming myself 2 months back

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I donโ€™t think that you need anymore closure. You sent her something so personal and she leaked it? Isnโ€™t that clear enough that why you shouldnโ€™t be stuck at her?

She clearly doesnโ€™t care about you enough. Iโ€™m glad that you have stopped the self harm thing, itโ€™s absolutely no point of doing it.

Find a hobby, do what you like. Iโ€™m sure there must be something which interests you. Keep yourself busy.

You really need to let her go and you should learn to love yourself. I know itโ€™s easy to say than to do but we can atleast let het go? You already have your closure, you are just not able to see it, my friend.

@divijdoshi7
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What about the questions I have as to why did you do this,or why did she lie to me and all ?I mean am over her as my gf but these questions just keep arising again and again which is why I get nightmares of her like molesting meโ€ฆ
Plus all my friends(18 years of friendship) also left me and I dont understand why ,I mean through this tough phase I wanted someone to stand by me.

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Have asked these questions to her? I think you have and she has casually said sorry? If thatโ€™s the case, ask her why?

And talking about your friends, if 18 years is the duration youโ€™re telling me, then you should really talk jt out to them. Sometimes we overthink. There must be something that they arenโ€™t supporting. Confront them maybe.

@divijdoshi7
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Thanks a lot for hearing me out!!

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My pleasure! All the best ๐Ÿ˜„

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Anonymous
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I am really really sorry for what you are going through and whatever happened I have been indulged in self harm too I know how it feels and I know how being boycotted feels I can just tell you this itโ€™s not better now but it will get better I promise and I know itโ€™s anonymous but you can talk to me whoever you feel like this lots of loveโค๏ธ

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