So , i broke up with my boyfriend because I was more involved in this relationship , so I told him whatever I was going through because of him, i told him each and everything like everytime whenever he hurted me , whenever he made me feel bad , and it made him emotional he apologized but then he said that I was never his true love, he just had feelings for me so i told him that if he don’t have true feelings and he don’t love me then we should break up because I can not suffer more it hurts a lot but then first he said that we should continue the relationship , i said if he know that he’ll leave me again then leave me right now and he was like it’s not what I’m saying we should continue this relationship …i said that when you and i both know that it’s not gonna happen in future …this is just me who loves you so much then what’s the point and he said …ok then i know it’s not gonna happen in future , so we should not waste time , but please keep in touch with me , we can be friends i said ya ok …
And as we both have opted same courses , he is in front of me everytime and it hurts to him , i can not be friends with him …i cannot even stay away from him …it was very tough for me to choose to breakup but now I’m feeling like I shouldn’t have done this …but if I hadn’t done this then also I was hurting myself by loving him…
What should I do now … it’s so hard …he don’t even care , he never cared …it was always difficult for me … whether to stay in relationship or to leave him …
And now he told his friends that we broke up , and one more thing recently happened that one of his friends like me , he proposed me , i said no …so now he’s asking me what his friend said , what was my reply and all that …
i don’t understand what he wants …when I was with him he didn’t care …when we broke up he’s pretending like he cares a lot …and also he told everyone that we broke up …he is doing all that what he shouldn’t do and I’m very confused rn , I’m hurt …idk what is this going on in my life …it’s so messed up from every side …
Do you like to continue the relationship
i want to continue this relationship but i know if I’ll continue it , it’ll hurt me more …so i don’t want to continue again :((((
Jugal Patel @jugal
Hey look! I don’t know you. But I can assure you that I’ve been going through the same situation. Only difference is that its SHE in my case. I had lots of struggle in the beginning too … All I can tell is that if you stay in touch with him it’ll Hurt you…and he is pretending like he cares… you are just a time pass to him. Realize your worth… you are more than that. You are a person who deserves better than him and he does not deserve you at all … I know it’ll hurt you not talking to him and all… But trust me… You can become lovers from friends but you cannot become friends from being lovers. It never works. You can’t go back.
yes you are right , but please can you tell me what should I do so that it’ll not hurt me even whenever he’s is front of me
Jugal Patel @jugal
Yes I can share my experience and what I did to you. But it wasn’t easy for me and so it’s not gonna be any easy for you too.
What I did is made peace with it. I recently learned something that the more you fear of something happening…the more it’ll happen and I learned the thought " make peace within and everything will just fall into place. You can do this.
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Everytime you see him remember what happened and what he did. If you know hindi… there’s a saying… " loha hi lohe ko kaat ta h" or " poison kills poison". Remember the hurt to kill the hurt. Use pain to kill the pain. But also know that you may start to hate this person in this process.
That’s the reason I didn’t do this and instead made peace. The only way to kill the true love is to turn it into hate. And I didn’t wanted to hate the women who was once my everything. These can help you.
If you Have any questions or want someone to talk then I’m here. You can ping me and I’ll try my best to support you 🙂
Ps: Have patience and some hope. Life will be better
thank you so much for your advice , it’ll help me a lot 🥺
Jugal Patel @jugal
Sure. If anything else you need just feel free to contact me. I’ll be here. 😉
