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The Edits @savagely_yours

So Here’s the shit!
I give my all when I try to woo a girl, and at that moment it feels like she is the one… But when I get in relationship with her, I start losing interest… It doesn’t have to do anything with physicality or intimacy of relation but I feel like I get thrill from the chase and when it’s done, I lose interest too…
Am I messed up?

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Anonymous

How long do u take before u start to woo a girl?

The Edits @savagely_yours

Depends on the girl

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Anonymous

Still… What is the longest time you took?

The Edits @savagely_yours

So there should be a mutual trust n respect between me nd the girl before I start making a move… After tht maybe a week or 2 at most

The Edits @savagely_yours

But how does that even matter?

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Anonymous

Try not to woo a girl for at least a month or 2 and with mutual trust and respect try to take a bit more time and get to know her better… If she is the one not matter how long you take she’ll be there for you…
This is my thought…

The Edits @savagely_yours

I will try it… Though I m damn impulsive so i dont know if it will actually work

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Anonymous

I’m suggesting this because I’ve seen someone who did same thing as u mentioned and he tried this and it worked…
So it depends on u… Still I’ll recommend u try this at least once…
Hopefully it will work… 🤞🤞

The Edits @savagely_yours

Yeah… I hope so too… Thnks a alot sir/mam

Jessica Shah @jessshah46

You’re very welcome sir/mam

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Wooju @wooju

Just think about it and get an answer for this question. What made you woo her or fall for her?

The Edits @savagely_yours

Well I have tried this… That’s how I know problem is with me and not the girl… Because she was the same as the day I met her it was me who lost interest

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Wooju @wooju

So what are you expecting in a relationship?

The Edits @savagely_yours

Just stability and transparency… Rest all i can manage

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Wooju @wooju

And before you expect this from the other person are you ready to be stable and transparent or have you ever been like that

The Edits @savagely_yours

I have been transparent that’s for sure… Though I haven’t been stable cuz as I said alot of time already… I lose interest as soon as the chase is over… But I have never cheated on a girl… Or even lied to woo her or give some foolish reason for break up… That just is not me

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Wooju @wooju

Stability find the reason for stability not for being transparent

The Edits @savagely_yours

That’s the whole point of this post sir/mam… That’s what I have been asking myself why can’t I be stable ? Why do I lose interest in someone whom I thought to b the one so easily! But thx for the help anyway

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Wooju @wooju

I said you the reason boss insecurity is the reason where you are not being stable …

The Edits @savagely_yours

What possibly cud I be insecure of?? Like that doesn’t make sense to me…

The Edits @savagely_yours

I am not some washed up cheap chep pervert who can’t get girls… I know m financially stable… I know m physically good… I know the girl m with loves me Or atleast thats what she thinks… What cud be the reason then?

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Wooju @wooju

Insecure about yourself may be the way you be with her or the way you want someone to be the way you potray yourself the way you look the work you do it might be any tiny thought which you might not even know makes you feel loose intrest on other person

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Wooju @wooju

I never said you are someone like that…bro I am just trying to help you don’t get it wrong I don’t ever judge any person though

The Edits @savagely_yours

Arey nahh… I m not offended or anything… I was actually stating obvious reason to be insecure… Nd since I don’t have any of those… I just tryna figure out… What cud it b

The Edits @savagely_yours

But this will surely take time nd sir/mam thanks for ur help but dont want you to invest so much of ur time over here… I might seem clingy to ya… So maybe till next time

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Wooju @wooju

If you are sure about you are not insecure about anything Then you might have never tried to love that person. Maybe you thought you loved that person but ended up only Liking them.

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Wooju @wooju

Just call sweety and it’s okay I’m not wasting any time it would be great if you find an answer At least I would feel happy that i helped a friend

The Edits @savagely_yours

Ohh just like that schooltime infatuation that used to feel like turu lob 😂 but at the end was just attraction… That might actually be it

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Wooju @wooju

As I said yeah it might be an attraction

The Edits @savagely_yours

Don’t mind if I keep calling u mam instead of sweety cuz uh know if we wana stay anonymous then the best way is by not even taking a single step…

The Edits @savagely_yours

Yeah… Finally a sensible conclusion … Really thx alot for that mam… Needed it!

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Wooju @wooju

Yeah what ever you call I don’t mind

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Wooju @wooju

See in a relationship all you need to be yourself and accept your partner how ever they are and same goes for them…as u said u were not able to be transparent find the reason for that… Because the thought or feelings you have right now is because of insecure feeling. Not the insecurity about the girl but yourself.

The Edits @savagely_yours

Yo… I think u didn’t read it properly… I said I have been transparent cuz that’s the only way to live I know…

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Wooju @wooju

Yes i misread it sorry for that

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Wooju @wooju

Tell me one thing do you love yourself?

The Edits @savagely_yours

Ohh hell yeah

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