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So Hereโs the shit!
I give my all when I try to woo a girl, and at that moment it feels like she is the oneโฆ But when I get in relationship with her, I start losing interestโฆ It doesnโt have to do anything with physicality or intimacy of relation but I feel like I get thrill from the chase and when itโs done, I lose interest tooโฆ
Am I messed up?
How long do u take before u start to woo a girl?
The Edits @savagely_yours
Depends on the girl
Stillโฆ What is the longest time you took?
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So there should be a mutual trust n respect between me nd the girl before I start making a moveโฆ After tht maybe a week or 2 at most
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But how does that even matter?
Try not to woo a girl for at least a month or 2 and with mutual trust and respect try to take a bit more time and get to know her betterโฆ If she is the one not matter how long you take sheโll be there for youโฆ
This is my thoughtโฆ
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I will try itโฆ Though I m damn impulsive so i dont know if it will actually work
Iโm suggesting this because Iโve seen someone who did same thing as u mentioned and he tried this and it workedโฆ
So it depends on uโฆ Still Iโll recommend u try this at least onceโฆ
Hopefully it will workโฆ ๐ค๐ค
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Yeahโฆ I hope so tooโฆ Thnks a alot sir/mam
Jessica Shah @jessshah46
Youโre very welcome sir/mam
Wooju @wooju
Just think about it and get an answer for this question. What made you woo her or fall for her?
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Well I have tried thisโฆ Thatโs how I know problem is with me and not the girlโฆ Because she was the same as the day I met her it was me who lost interest
Wooju @wooju
So what are you expecting in a relationship?
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Just stability and transparencyโฆ Rest all i can manage
Wooju @wooju
And before you expect this from the other person are you ready to be stable and transparent or have you ever been like that
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I have been transparent thatโs for sureโฆ Though I havenโt been stable cuz as I said alot of time alreadyโฆ I lose interest as soon as the chase is overโฆ But I have never cheated on a girlโฆ Or even lied to woo her or give some foolish reason for break upโฆ That just is not me
Wooju @wooju
Stability find the reason for stability not for being transparent
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Thatโs the whole point of this post sir/mamโฆ Thatโs what I have been asking myself why canโt I be stable ? Why do I lose interest in someone whom I thought to b the one so easily! But thx for the help anyway
Wooju @wooju
I said you the reason boss insecurity is the reason where you are not being stable โฆ
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What possibly cud I be insecure of?? Like that doesnโt make sense to meโฆ
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I am not some washed up cheap chep pervert who canโt get girlsโฆ I know m financially stableโฆ I know m physically goodโฆ I know the girl m with loves me Or atleast thats what she thinksโฆ What cud be the reason then?
Wooju @wooju
Insecure about yourself may be the way you be with her or the way you want someone to be the way you potray yourself the way you look the work you do it might be any tiny thought which you might not even know makes you feel loose intrest on other person
Wooju @wooju
I never said you are someone like thatโฆbro I am just trying to help you donโt get it wrong I donโt ever judge any person though
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Arey nahhโฆ I m not offended or anythingโฆ I was actually stating obvious reason to be insecureโฆ Nd since I donโt have any of thoseโฆ I just tryna figure outโฆ What cud it b
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But this will surely take time nd sir/mam thanks for ur help but dont want you to invest so much of ur time over hereโฆ I might seem clingy to yaโฆ So maybe till next time
Wooju @wooju
If you are sure about you are not insecure about anything Then you might have never tried to love that person. Maybe you thought you loved that person but ended up only Liking them.
Wooju @wooju
Just call sweety and itโs okay Iโm not wasting any time it would be great if you find an answer At least I would feel happy that i helped a friend
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Ohh just like that schooltime infatuation that used to feel like turu lob ๐ but at the end was just attractionโฆ That might actually be it
Wooju @wooju
As I said yeah it might be an attraction
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Donโt mind if I keep calling u mam instead of sweety cuz uh know if we wana stay anonymous then the best way is by not even taking a single stepโฆ
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Yeahโฆ Finally a sensible conclusion โฆ Really thx alot for that mamโฆ Needed it!
Wooju @wooju
Yeah what ever you call I donโt mind
Wooju @wooju
See in a relationship all you need to be yourself and accept your partner how ever they are and same goes for themโฆas u said u were not able to be transparent find the reason for thatโฆ Because the thought or feelings you have right now is because of insecure feeling. Not the insecurity about the girl but yourself.
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Yoโฆ I think u didnโt read it properlyโฆ I said I have been transparent cuz thatโs the only way to live I knowโฆ
Wooju @wooju
Yes i misread it sorry for that
Wooju @wooju
Tell me one thing do you love yourself?
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Ohh hell yeah