The Edits @savagely_yours
So Hereβs the shit!
I give my all when I try to woo a girl, and at that moment it feels like she is the oneβ¦ But when I get in relationship with her, I start losing interestβ¦ It doesnβt have to do anything with physicality or intimacy of relation but I feel like I get thrill from the chase and when itβs done, I lose interest tooβ¦
Am I messed up?
How long do u take before u start to woo a girl?
The Edits @savagely_yours
Depends on the girl
Still⦠What is the longest time you took?
The Edits @savagely_yours
So there should be a mutual trust n respect between me nd the girl before I start making a move⦠After tht maybe a week or 2 at most
The Edits @savagely_yours
But how does that even matter?
Try not to woo a girl for at least a month or 2 and with mutual trust and respect try to take a bit more time and get to know her betterβ¦ If she is the one not matter how long you take sheβll be there for youβ¦
This is my thoughtβ¦
The Edits @savagely_yours
I will try it⦠Though I m damn impulsive so i dont know if it will actually work
Iβm suggesting this because Iβve seen someone who did same thing as u mentioned and he tried this and it workedβ¦
So it depends on uβ¦ Still Iβll recommend u try this at least onceβ¦
Hopefully it will workβ¦ π€π€
The Edits @savagely_yours
Yeah⦠I hope so too⦠Thnks a alot sir/mam
Jessica Shah @jessshah46
Youβre very welcome sir/mam
Wooju @wooju
Just think about it and get an answer for this question. What made you woo her or fall for her?
The Edits @savagely_yours
Well I have tried thisβ¦ Thatβs how I know problem is with me and not the girlβ¦ Because she was the same as the day I met her it was me who lost interest
Wooju @wooju
So what are you expecting in a relationship?
The Edits @savagely_yours
Just stability and transparency⦠Rest all i can manage
Wooju @wooju
And before you expect this from the other person are you ready to be stable and transparent or have you ever been like that
The Edits @savagely_yours
I have been transparent thatβs for sureβ¦ Though I havenβt been stable cuz as I said alot of time alreadyβ¦ I lose interest as soon as the chase is overβ¦ But I have never cheated on a girlβ¦ Or even lied to woo her or give some foolish reason for break upβ¦ That just is not me
Wooju @wooju
Stability find the reason for stability not for being transparent
The Edits @savagely_yours
Thatβs the whole point of this post sir/mamβ¦ Thatβs what I have been asking myself why canβt I be stable ? Why do I lose interest in someone whom I thought to b the one so easily! But thx for the help anyway
Wooju @wooju
I said you the reason boss insecurity is the reason where you are not being stable β¦
The Edits @savagely_yours
What possibly cud I be insecure of?? Like that doesnβt make sense to meβ¦
The Edits @savagely_yours
I am not some washed up cheap chep pervert who canβt get girlsβ¦ I know m financially stableβ¦ I know m physically goodβ¦ I know the girl m with loves me Or atleast thats what she thinksβ¦ What cud be the reason then?
Wooju @wooju
Insecure about yourself may be the way you be with her or the way you want someone to be the way you potray yourself the way you look the work you do it might be any tiny thought which you might not even know makes you feel loose intrest on other person
Wooju @wooju
I never said you are someone like thatβ¦bro I am just trying to help you donβt get it wrong I donβt ever judge any person though
The Edits @savagely_yours
Arey nahhβ¦ I m not offended or anythingβ¦ I was actually stating obvious reason to be insecureβ¦ Nd since I donβt have any of thoseβ¦ I just tryna figure outβ¦ What cud it b
The Edits @savagely_yours
But this will surely take time nd sir/mam thanks for ur help but dont want you to invest so much of ur time over here⦠I might seem clingy to ya⦠So maybe till next time
Wooju @wooju
If you are sure about you are not insecure about anything Then you might have never tried to love that person. Maybe you thought you loved that person but ended up only Liking them.
Wooju @wooju
Just call sweety and itβs okay Iβm not wasting any time it would be great if you find an answer At least I would feel happy that i helped a friend
The Edits @savagely_yours
Ohh just like that schooltime infatuation that used to feel like turu lob π but at the end was just attractionβ¦ That might actually be it
Wooju @wooju
As I said yeah it might be an attraction
The Edits @savagely_yours
Donβt mind if I keep calling u mam instead of sweety cuz uh know if we wana stay anonymous then the best way is by not even taking a single stepβ¦
The Edits @savagely_yours
Yeah⦠Finally a sensible conclusion ⦠Really thx alot for that mam⦠Needed it!
Wooju @wooju
Yeah what ever you call I donβt mind
Wooju @wooju
See in a relationship all you need to be yourself and accept your partner how ever they are and same goes for themβ¦as u said u were not able to be transparent find the reason for thatβ¦ Because the thought or feelings you have right now is because of insecure feeling. Not the insecurity about the girl but yourself.
The Edits @savagely_yours
Yoβ¦ I think u didnβt read it properlyβ¦ I said I have been transparent cuz thatβs the only way to live I knowβ¦
Wooju @wooju
Yes i misread it sorry for that
Wooju @wooju
Tell me one thing do you love yourself?
The Edits @savagely_yours
Ohh hell yeah