so a friend of mine, she was a really good friend of mine okay. Like I really liked her and I put a lot of efforts bec i wanted to get to know her and I wanted a good female friendship, and she seemed nice, so i put in a lot of efforts and i adjusted a lot, just to recently realise that it was all one sided and she is not what i thought, it kinda hurts but i noticed that she is only my friend to use me, she will use me acc to her convenience and will only come to me when she needs help or just a company when she feels lonely, and in class, she pretends as if she doesn’t even know me and weirdest part, she is trying to get closer to my other friends, like i told her yday that my friend kept a seat for me and today I saw her sitting right beside my other friend, in the seat I told her that he keeps for me. So that is fine, she can seat there, like but that kinda felt like she wants everything and everyone that I have. For eg- i mentioned that I have good roommate and then she told me, can your roommate shift w me?! Like WTF? I tell her this is good, next thing she does is, will buy that thing. Like is she jealous? Insecure or what?
I really thought she was a nice smart girl, so I approached her, but after noticing these things I am maintaining a distance from her. I know she is not a friend. She is just using me. And even when I’m maintaining distance, the moment I see her, I feel angry and frustrated and like I feel like I wasted my energy on this piece of shit! I get angry at myself and I overthink sm abt it to the point my head hurts even when I try not to, subconsciously I do!
Damn I understand. I had a friend just like u . In fact unfortunately she was my room mate . Did everything to put me down . But I brushed her aside and treated her like the shit she is . Now I no longer am with her . She even tries to flirt with all the guys I talked even once with . That’s the kind of bish she is . Try to be far away from such ppl , and if ever put in a situation with them never show mercy . Be confident , unabashed and flaunt what u got . Make then know u understand your worth and won’t hesitate to throw it at their insecure face
ikr! Ur right, I should be confident in who i am and focus on myself. Instead of her. Such a bitch fr👾 i really wanna vent abt her lol sm but ig I won’t waste my energy on her or thinking abt her anymore and thank you so much for your affirming words. Really means a lot!
I get it, and that really stinks. You put in a lot to build a solid friendship, and it’s rough to find out it’s one-sided. It’s smart to step back from someone who’s not treating you right. Remember, it’s not about you wasting energy – it’s about her behavior. You deserve better vibes. Surround yourself with those who truly value you. Time will help ease the frustration and hurt. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk more.
how is it abt her behaviour and not abt wasting my time? I feel like I need this perspective shift, can you explain please? And thank you sm for ur affirming words!
Start making new friends online and offline. Try to get involved in fun activities and pursue any hobbies.
Spend your time wisely.
Don’t waste your feelings for someone who doesn’t deserve it.
I completely understand your situation. I have experienced the same thing but she was not my friend. We just talked once or twice but I felt that girl was kind of jealous or something. It feels she wants everything that I have. She would talk to everyone who are my friends and whom I talk to but she would not talk to me. And whenever I look at her, she is already looking at me. Like girl are you obsessed with me and want to be my friend but you can’t or you are just jealous of me.
You should just ignore her now. Normal hi hello is fine but don’t give her much importance. And don’t lose your genuine friends because of her. You can also discuss this with your genuine friends so they might understand what is going.