so a friend of mine, she was a really good friend of mine okay. Like I really liked her and I put a lot of efforts bec i wanted to get to know her and I wanted a good female friendship, and she seemed nice, so i put in a lot of efforts and i adjusted a lot, just to recently realise that it was all one sided and she is not what i thought, it kinda hurts but i noticed that she is only my friend to use me, she will use me acc to her convenience and will only come to me when she needs help or just a company when she feels lonely, and in class, she pretends as if she doesn’t even know me and weirdest part, she is trying to get closer to my other friends, like i told her yday that my friend kept a seat for me and today I saw her sitting right beside my other friend, in the seat I told her that he keeps for me. So that is fine, she can seat there, like but that kinda felt like she wants everything and everyone that I have. For eg- i mentioned that I have good roommate and then she told me, can your roommate shift w me?! Like WTF? I tell her this is good, next thing she does is, will buy that thing. Like is she jealous? Insecure or what?
I really thought she was a nice smart girl, so I approached her, but after noticing these things I am maintaining a distance from her. I know she is not a friend. She is just using me. And even when I’m maintaining distance, the moment I see her, I feel angry and frustrated and like I feel like I wasted my energy on this piece of shit! I get angry at myself and I overthink sm abt it to the point my head hurts even when I try not to, subconsciously I do!
I completely understand your situation. I have experienced the same thing but she was not my friend. We just talked once or twice but I felt that girl was kind of jealous or something. It feels she wants everything that I have. She would talk to everyone who are my friends and whom I talk to but she would not talk to me. And whenever I look at her, she is already looking at me. Like girl are you obsessed with me and want to be my friend but you can’t or you are just jealous of me.
You should just ignore her now. Normal hi hello is fine but don’t give her much importance. And don’t lose your genuine friends because of her. You can also discuss this with your genuine friends so they might understand what is going.
