She's so cool.. She's so nice

Out of 10 I'll give her 9.

Dedicated to a girl members.. 💕🙈👏

Aditya Sahu

lucky kushwaha

Affirmations

If a girl likes/loves you but not ready for a relationship with you yet afraid of losing you. She still somewhat can’t get over her ex yet only hangs out with me all the time everyday/night only with me every second of the day. I love her a lot and I’ve been proving every time/day/ every second that I am the man thats willing to give her the world for her and would grow old together with her through anything no matter what. I want a relationship whom I want to grow, build and motivate together whether spiritual, mentally, physically or emotionally through thick and thin ride till die. I’ve already met everyone in her family, everyone in her family likes me and even thought we are dating. Should I keep going with her, with this whole non-relationship/complicatedship to see if we will start a relationship OR leave her/move on? So what should I do now in a situation like this? 

I’m 21 and I moved to France from Nigeria a few months ago to study. I met a girl, a student of the school who has been so nice to me. We met each other on the school’s Facebook group and been close friends even before I got to France. We started to fall in love with each other and became so close. We almost started dating but just a few weeks ago, she sent a message saying she doesn’t wanna date anymore. She won’t even be close friends with me anymore. I’m really sad about this. She means the whole world to me. Asked her why she decided not to be with me anymore but she says it has nothing to do with me. I really think about her so much

Breakup

I said to her call me when you get home and she hasn't called yet looks like she is homeless

Girlfriend

It hurts seeing her late replies though i like her but she needs me as a good friend but gives mixed signals.
Any suggestions?

Confusion

Thank you everyone for their positive and kind words on this site.

I met my girlfriend during the pandemic on Tinder. We matched although we lived on different continents. The connection became deeper and I went to visit her (all safety precautions taken considering the pandemic) to see if this was what we thought it was. And guess what? It was. I stayed with her over 2 months where we worked from home, did chores, watched tv and all the boring couple things as well as date nights. We fell into normalcy so effortlessly. When I returned we made plans to make this work. My work enables me to move around easily so that was the first step, and then her meeting my friends and family which was also ongoing. However, in the last month she started to withdraw, stressed, overwhelmed and so on. She has a lot of responsibilities and her work is incredibly stressful. We had a few arguments where often she 'blew up.' Then finally, she had one huge blow out and blocked me from contacting her apart from on social media. It took over a week and a half for her to respond where she said, this all felt 'impossibly difficult' and felt we would get hurt eventually and wants to end it. Even though my work was set for me to move to her, my friends and family were open and supportive. It felt so out of nowhere. Just as things were ready to go from my side.

I have been reading a lot about attachment theory. And she has expressed she is an avoidant. I am largely secure, until this last month where i displayed a lot of anxious behaviour. This last month is the only time our relationship has been tumultuous and it makes sense on how  we had been acting to one another. 

What can i do? Give her time to think it all over and risk losing her altogether. Or step in with what introspective information i know. I know she's struggling with her thoughts and feeling chaotic and overwhelmed. I know some understanding would help massive and potentially repair our relationship but i dont want to push and risk her running altogether.

Long Distance Relationship

I met a girl on a trip and meeting her changed everything for me, this was the first time i had felt something like this, All i did was think about her all the day and I didn't even find other girls attractive anymore, I knew something was wrong😂. We both had so much fun together on the trip. But then I got back home, we stopped talking and meeting, now we just follow each other and my feelings started to fade away.
A month has passed now since the trip, she put a story yesterday of her and as soon as I saw it, all those feelings came back, I realised i still like her, i miss her so much and I even cried.
I don't want this to fade away again. 

Crush

**"confused about your relationship"**, this line has settled in my mind as some disturbing memory. Just like every cliche romantic bollywood movie, I saw her, she saw me, we liked each other and blah blah, but what these movies never tell is the science, struggle, confusion involved between getting into a relationship and maintaining one. She broke up with me saying, you're confused about your relationship with me and it still hurts like a thorn pricking my heart. I won't lie, I was confused cuz a lot was going on in my life then and i didn't know how to handle everything and at a certain point, in the midst of all kinda confusions I got bit confused about my relationship too. But this doesn't mean i stopped liking her, i liked her even more than we started dating. So the reason why i was so confused was this diagnosis related to my mind, and the pills had way too many side-effects. 
I told her a bit about this diagnosis and she said she'll support me no matter what but within few days when i was not in good mental state, had doubts over her support(yes, i'm sorry pls), we had a little talk about our relationship, I said i'm sorry and things will be fine, we'll get better but god knows why i blurred out the confused future of this relationship if she's this inconsiderate and she said, *"if you're this confused about your relationship with me, then why not end it right here, i'll be happy to leave you when you say such things"* and everything got ended. 

Im in a much better place now, hope this line gets out of my head and she forgives me.

Supportive

Her hand slip into mine, I slip into Paradise🍃

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