Please lemme know how do you guys deal with your own insecurities practically?

Secret Guy

Make sure that we face it instead of running away from it

i stopped worrying about 'log kya kahenge' and it made all the difference.

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Insecurity

  How much hours should I maxx study? Being a science student 🙂.. 
Cause Im not able to foucs

College

I feel like I am loosing my best friend, he has now started sharing things to my friend whom I introduced him to and i am the second one to know, tho he tells me that all the important things are known by me only!! I feel jealous or what idk but it's kinda bothering! 👀

FOMO

Anyone wanna talk ?

3am Thoughts

I met a guy[N]  in college via mutuals. He used to Like my college best friend but my best friend wasn’t interest in him. He was sad and depressed craving for the love. I helped him to move on and focus on himself and his career . But in no time he had fallen for me . Though I liked him too but I wasn’t in a phase to have a relationship with him. We had really deep emotional connect and somehow he was pushing me to be in relationship Bcus he was insecure that I might go for someone else.I asked him to give me few months because I wasn’t ready for that phase yet. But soon after so much fights and trying to make him understand that I need time, he didn’t understand and I had to block him from my life for a while. Months later I got to know he hooked up with my best friend. I was shattered but it made me hate him because whatever he used words like “I love you I want you in life forever” didn’t matter to me anymore. It seemed he was in his temporary love phase.
I had to move on so I started distracting myself , started talking to another guy[A]. He was sweet and almost 6-7months later we were in relationship. There were instances when N saw me with A and it became awkward and he seemed upset. There was one time when N verbally abused in the corridor in front of my best friend out of his frustration but then apologised over the text later.
I didn’t react but I was very hurt . 
3.5yrs later we met again but this time over a trip . We are well settled Software engineers . I was still in relationship with A but I wasn’t quite happy because of lots of conflicts and  communication gap and his unambitious nature. Over the trip to Goa , N started flirting with me and he didn’t know I am still in relationship. so I told him before he could think that I am available. Though travelling is my therapy and it really made me think that I don’t want to be in relationship with A anymore Bcus I cannot take more of it . So soon after the trip I texted him we cannot continue all this anymore and I had to leave him without explanation because I was tired to a saturation, tired of always being a communication initiator and his approach towards life and career. I gave up on him after struggling so much. 
Soon after I started living happily , no waiting for texts no replies nothing. But N was somebody who got the spark again but this time we both were the ones who were not interested in any relationship. So he had love symbol “physical touch” so he offered me situationship without quoting it. He indirectly said I feel peace with you and I told him I just got out of the relationship and I need time to find myself again for my healing. Few months later I told him let’s meet for a cafe brunch kind of. He said let’s do night out. I was little hesitant but we planned night out and had to book a stay . He got me a t shirt as a token of gift and he turned on the Netflix and moved closer to me in cozy blanket. I told him to let’s go out and have food and drinks coz I want something for tummy. We came back from cafe bar by 1am and I was so much drunk that I barely remember how did we started undressing and got naked and started rubbing each other off. Next morning I had regrets not because Of what we did but of the fact that he isn’t looking for a relationship and Bcus I might soon develop a lot feelings for him soon. I started avoiding his next offer for night outs. I told him to meet for brunch’s and lunches Bcus that is what I felt is comfortable for me. But things didn’t go well. Brunches or lunches never happened .He wasn’t ready for emotional intimacy and didn’t want effort it seemed until it’s physical.
After our sexual activity on that night I was kind of afraid and stressed , months went by and he used to comment on the snaps I used to send him. He showed king of interest which I felt and one day I sent him a snap of me partying with my colleagues and he asked for her insta id and I got jealous and I still let him know insta I’d and told him to connect with her anyway but  I was too overwhelmed that I told him I hate him.
..we had few fights( May be only me fighting one sided)
He said I am just looking for good times. I am not looking for any serious relationship. You and I have different wants.
Though in middle we had sexting too! It was such peak that we wanted to see each for physical intimacy.
But just in a matter of month I saw he removed me from Snapchat and Instagram and when I asked him why he did that he said because he got in relationship with someone and it might give his partner anxiety for his past still being revolving around him.

I was like what !! Was he ever interested in me. Was it just a game . He was just having good time with me and to the new person he is relationship.

The night I got to know that I almost choked because my brain couldn’t process all that.

And it still shocks me to see all the reels he kind of used to share me months back.

I don’t know I just feel so terrible now 

Confusion

Is it me or is everyone afraid about ending up being alone

Anxiety

Hello to everyone who are reading this.. 
I'm an introvert from outside, but extrovert from inside. I know that's not possible, but trust me, it is. I'm a talkative introvert. I don't really have any friends, or hardly anyone. I secludes myself, cause that's what people demands of me to, not verbally, but I think as if they don't want me to be there.. not that I enjoy, but everytime, I have to do so..  they say human beings are complex beings, and I'm a complex human being with more complex emotions. Just need someone, who can appreciate, not hate me, but love me, care for me because I know, I have a lot of that in me. 
Thank you.

i am so fucking done with school i got 16/77 on my science test😐

School

My best friend confuses me.. Sometimes shes like the best person ever to exist and sometimes shes too cold... she kinda moved to diff country last week... and i miss her a lot but she kinda seems completely fine... idk wats gng through her head but... and sometime i feel like i care about her too much but she doesnt for me.. like her chat is pinned in my whatsapp..its not the same case for her though... and.. i feel really hurt becuz of her words like "ok" "so" "so wat" tat i end up crying really hard... wats wrong with me..? 

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