One of my closest friend, he was just feeling lonely and in the night, in his weekest hours, he asked for a no strings attached physical relation but in this process friendship should not be hampered, it should be the same as of now. And the very next day he was afraid of this and he said no to this benefits and also he don't want to loose our friendship. The very next day after lots of discussion he was again okay with benefits. And the other day he concluded that I don't like your body and you don't have any sex appeal, I don't know how to tell this to you and that's y I'm confused all this while. If this is his opinion y did he even initiated at the first. Now I'm fucked up I feel bad because of my closest fren. I feel insecure
And vulnerable . Do I need to talk to him after this much drama. Is he even worth of my friendship.

He was dying to have it for a moment and the very next moment he was making me feel bad because I don't look in the way he wants so he doesn't want any benefits. He is my closest friend now I'm broken of all these conversations and is not going out of my head.

Even I wanted to humiliate him and show his position but he is my closest fren and I have seen his bad times and I stood with him And I don't want to make this a big issue and be the girl who is making big issue out of this conversation bcoz he again points at me because he can't take humiliation.

Thanks for your suggestion. I feel the same but I'm broken now. It is not going out of my head.

This means a lot. Thank you for being there for me:)

I was going through breakup all these 2 years as my ex broke up with me that's a different shit long story. Its pretty long journey all these 2years I stood for myself, I'm being happy now and I moved on in my life. Though I still carry his memories but I'm fine without him in my life. And from then I decided not to enter any such relations that will play with my emotions and expectations labh labh labh. I have a very short circle of close frens hardly 3. Out of this 3 one is this guy, so we used to have a good rapo we talk we care we help each other so the frendship is cool with no expectations and no loss of emotions. So at first when he asked I was surprised bcoz I don't love him and he knows that and he don't love me and I know that. But then after lot much discussion I was like fine if it is only benefits but if it leads to any emotional loss I thought I better don't go into this as Im not ready to loss my friend. But day by day when his wrds are changing and observing his mind is flickering I have decided it's better not to get into this and be happy with what we r now. But then it ended up abusing me of my body.

The direct answer I can give is I like him but not in love with him. I liked him because of the way he has taken care of me and how he treats me. All these days he never judged me for my views or opinions, he respected me for what I am. I feel secured but now when I was okay for what he has asked now he made me feel insecure and that is the reason I'm feeling worse.

Depression

Anyone please tell me how to get over someone. This whole time will heal thing isn't working, it's been MONTHS for godsake. 

Life

Years ago I got a proposal from a family for marriage. I was a very simple person , believed in love truly... I was totally into him, his simplicity won me but that was just apparent, then I got to know about his lavish lifestyle, party and friends , still my liking for him didn't changed...and then I was devastated by his rejection, understood love for self is so much important, started loving myself like never before, I am a very changed person now (though I still get crush on  people sometimes)...
 Presently I have  a proposal from another guy, he is lot more accomplished in his career (even when we compare to that of the previous guy) and trying to make it even better, he is intelligent and understanding, well behaved person, seems down to earth, and it's evident he is interested in me, to figure out if we can make it but still I don't feel any butterflies for him, I am not attracted to him, knowing that he can be a nice husband, and if I marry him may be i will not be happy because I don't feel that way and so would not be in a position to keep him happy... I wish I had met this man earlier before the guy who rejected me,  because I believed in romantic life earlier , I would not have been in a dilemma like I am in right now..... I asked my family to turn down his proposal

#28..........Days passed by and I kinda moved on from Mr. A and mean while Mr. B contacted me few times but I blocked him because I understood he was just trying to use me. He called and texted me few time just to ask if I wanna meet him again and stay the night over at his place. I directly said NO! And said I'm not the kind of girl he thinks I am. I thought of him as a gentleman but he turned out to be disgusting. Funny how men can fake things so effortlessly.  
And throughout this time be it my personal life problems or academic Mr. P always supported me and we kinda became like best friends. I didn't knew about him but I once stated feeling like I was attracted to him but then I brushed off those feelings thinking about my past experiences with men, I didn't have the courage to be hurt again by another guy. So I never told anything about those feelings and kept out friendship going. Moreover he has this situation with another girl going on where is was treated like ab option by the other girl. So it was better if I didn't stir up the mess more..........(to be continued) 

3am Thoughts

Why it is so  difficult  to  move on  !!!why people  we love can't love  us  back! I love  a boy who was my childhood friend .He  used  to  date  my friend  !! I confessed  my feelings to him things  went bad they broke  up  because  of  me ! He hates  me  now  ! It has been  3 years we haven't  talked  to  each  other ....but this  3 years  were so difficult  for  me  Still I can't  stop thinking  about  him !I am always  dream  about  us being  together  ....I tried  to  date and hooked  up  with  a  guy just to erase  his  memories  a way to move  on  ..Eventually  he  left  me as we couldn't  get  along  as  I still got 
feelings  for  him  that gave  me  one  more  wound!! After  3 years  I  got to know  he is dating  one  of  my  good  friend  .....It feels   like  somebody  is  killing  me  making  cuts  on my body whenever  I  see  them  together ...It is hard to avoid  them !!the way he loving her adoring  her is affecting  me!I should  be  happy  for them  but I can't  imagine  myself  with  any  other  guys...He is the only  one  for me idk why I can't  vibe with any other guy!!

Hi, I just joined here and I am kind of confused as to how I can explain what I am feeling. Let's just say this weird feeling in me started 3 years back. I was dating a guy who was my first boyfriend and he cheated on me with 3 different girls. I was naive enough to forgive him each time since I hadn't actually gotten physical with him. He was 2 years elder than me and hence when he cheated on me I justified his behavior by saying that maybe he needed something I couldn't give him. Every time this happened, he used to come back to me by saying that he loves me and he made a mistake. 

Today, I am dating one of my then best friends and I know this boy is the right one for me. But because of my relationship issues with my ex - I have insecurities and trust issues with my current boyfriend. Am too scared that I will mess things up. I am constantly crying or have a sinking feeling in my heart and I think it has started genuinely affecting my physical health too. I am anxious and have panic attacks from time to time. Can someone help me with this?

Cheating

After being alone my whole life I found my first true friend that eventually became my boyfriend. He could literally read my eyes. He was the only person that had my back in this new city. My friend, my boyfriend, my family he played each role for me. He could never even think of hurting me. He did so much for me that I could barely do for him. He never told me No for anything, he was the person who used to take care of my little little things and remember each minute detail of what I told him. We started dating in August 2021 he literally was the perfect person I ever had and most importantly I could trust despite having serious trust issues and high emotional instability. He calmly handled my every mood. It is always said that trust the actions not the words so I did trusted the actions and thought I found my man.

But the things are changing on his part he says he has problems in his life so he is unable to give his 100%. But the fact is Even I suffer from my problems and tried not to mention them so I don't put my stress on him. One day I needed him in my lows I needed him just to be with me and he showed up for a certain time in which he ate his food without bothering that his girlfriend hasn't eaten since morning and he went back . When I told him that I needed him at that time and I already told him that he has to be with me I am feeling very low. When I confronted him he said that I should understand his problem and it's my fault . But I don't find him like this in front of others. He is the same with them that he used to be before. He said that he can't take care of me 24×7. And that I could leave him if I want. He come to meet me and then boasts like he has did such a great thing by meeting me. But I think he should meet me because he wanted me too.He is changed now and he doesn't accept this.  I don't know what to do? I explain him my feelings so he could know how much all this hurts me . He bothers for a second next time he is doing the same. He clearly says that he can't handle my moods my attention seeking attitude and can't give all this he can't be the way he earlier was and if I want to leave him for this then I should.

 



Hi,

I got married last year after dating for a year.
I knew my husband had insecurity & trust issues but I overlooked it all because I was in lovr and thought that after getting married things will change.
One month before the wedding he started telling me that I was not ready for marriage and for me everything is just a game. He said that if I want I should take time and call off the wedding. I convinced him that he's overthinking and you don't give up on relationships.
We finally got married. But things were not good. He checked my phone. He did not trust even after marriage. He kept saying that I was not ready for marriage and if that is the case, it's not too late.
Once we had a massive fight because he thought I was into someone from my office. He broke a lot of things and said a lot of hurtful things. Though there was nothing of that sort, I apologised trying to keep our relationship safe. All this made me loose the trust and love for him.
It impacted our relationship very badly that I couldn't feel anything for him.
3 months back I was diagnosed with severe Anemia. I kept telling my husband and his family that I'd been feeling weak but they paid not attention to my health. All they wanted is for me to take the responsibility of the household chores alongwith with my regular job.
I told my husband multiple times that I'm not happy and I feel depressed. I don't feel like I am a part of the family. His reply was that it's all because I don't consider them as a family.
Ultimately, it's been 3 months that I staying with my mom and my husband and I have not spoken. Things are leading to a separation and I'm not sure, because I love him but I don't want to go back to the same unhappy and depressing life I had after marriage.
I don't know what to do.

I know a guy....who was born in 2001...and till now doesn't he doesn't touch a woman nd he doesn't drink alcohol nd he doesn't smoke... every time he got that thought he thinks abt family...and the parents feelings....hi parents still live in 90s in this 20s also..due to this his parents doesn't allow to anything on his own and doesn't allow to speak with girls also they feel like they are giving good future to his son...but that son feels bad every time. becoz...when he wants  too go anywhere they won't allow him..nd they thinks that his son will get spoiled....but that kid always...wants to explore new things..new people...etc...by keeping this situation...he lost intrest in everything and he can't give an eye contact to any girl ....till now he remains single...now by seeing all these gen z girls he lost interest in marriage also........what ur comments abt this guy........
Is he really fit to this generation?
Or else what he should doo to sustain in this generation?!

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