Okayyyyyy…
So I caught feelings for someone random stranger on an app called chatous, And I feel stupid. I feel so because of the following reasons :
1) I met him online, I have never met this person in real life
2) he is in different country, hell different continent
3) sometimes I doubt whether he is a real person or not because he is 20 and does not have any social media account. Suspicious?
4) he has this annoying habit of just vanishing for days and replying to my 4 day old text as if he wasn’t Mia. Like dude if you busy say so, if you are about to sleep say so, but don’t keep me hanging, because I have feelings for you so I’ll wait for your text even thought I’ll have to wait for hours and I hate myself for thatttt… Ughhh
5) sometimes he’s all sweet and all and is like move here, as if it’s so simple and I just don’t know.
Like do I trust him or is it just some another 50 year old. We have been taking since July 2020 and it’s April 2021 now . Help me out here guys I’m so confused.
He also says that when this Covid situation is all better he will visit me, and I’m scared that he turns up to be some scamster, but I kinda like him.
I’m soooooooooo stupidddddd
do not be quick in deciding, take time check facts and get in though its cute one sided love story but be aware.
Okie thanks:))
Big red flag. 🤷🏽♂️
Ig I have to embrace the harsh reality… This sucksssss😭
I get the feeling you are getting you might think you are in love, but trust me you need to let go of it. How does he not have any social media account , do you really think any 20 year old of this generation won’t have any social media account? If he is randomly starts ignoring you for days then no way he is interested in you and really sounds some fake guy honestly. I know its hard to accept but I hope you let go of him before you end up getting more feelings and it will be so much better when you let go. Hope you understand!!
There are people who don’t have a social media account. Like I didnt have one until recently… But yeah Ik what you mean, thank you for:))
Okay so I’m not in love with him. I know that for sure , because I’m not capable of falling in love , but that’s a completely diff argument. Anyways lmao I’m not crazy about him, its just some small infatuation which I’m having trouble letting go of😭😭. Even I hope I find my true one, possibly not on internet😂
As a person who’s kind of been in a similar situation, I would say that we all want a forbidden fruit. We all think it’s the sweetest fruit. Girl, run, run like the wind in the other direction and don’t look back. His behavior is sketchy and I only say this because I understand your side. But take your time and don’t let shit like this affect you. More power to you. Take care.
Sometimes even I think it’s sketchy, but you know when we talk it just feels so real…i mean ughhhh, I hope you you know what I’m talking about. It would help if you tell how you got out of this?? I wanna get out of it without hurting his feelings, because a teeny tiny chance that he maybe real?👀👀
Well, I will tell you the mistakes I made. Maybe you can learn from them. In any situation it’s always 50-50. Remember that. When I gave 50%… He only gave 10%. So to cover up for him … I ended up giving 90% and he was barely giving me 10%. That’s the biggest mistake I made. He would just give me enough to keep me on the hook So that he knows I won’t go anywhere else. I took it as his immaturity. But girl, was I wrong. And there are so many clear signs that I missed coz he was soooo attractive and I wanted our relationship to work so badly. But I forgot one thing: ME. I forgot myself. I forgot how it was not okay to keep me hanging like that coz I’m a self respecting adult. And if it really means something …it’s shouldn’t be this confusing. The moment you are confused it’s already the time to move on. “Thanks but no thanks. Ok bye next.”
Again, these are just my experiences. Take what you feel is helpful and TRUST YOUR GUT. ALWAYS. 👍😊
Well my gut told me to end the chat so I did. Ik there’s may have been a 50% chance that this may have been real. But he was becoming distracting for me, and I could not let that happen to me when I’m so close to my goal. Or I really made the right choice, anyways I think he was not the right person for me. Thanks for sharing your experience, and I really hope you find your the one, who will give as much as you do! 💖💖
You go girl
