okay so um, here it goes, when i was 14 i had a very toxic relationship with a guy that completely distroyed my confidence, self-love, and broke my heart into a lot of pieces. I’m fully over him because i know that he wasn’t good for me, and for a while i thought that every problems that he caused in me were gone, but now i’m kinda feeling like they’re not gone at all, i’m starting this new relationship with a guy who is actually really nice, respectful, and that is always making things to make me happy, but the problem is actually me, im constantly afraid of the fact that he might get bored of being with me, that maybe i’m a bit annoying sometimes, and that’s everyday, i trust him, but i think i don’t trust myself to realize that i’m good enough for people to don’t get bored, and i just can’t help but think that i’m not okay, that i need help, because i feel like sh*t everyday, when i trully shouldn’t
Hi, you should feel exactly how you are feeling. Ask yourself, what would make you more at ease?
When I was starting with my husband, I felt just like you. I had bad experiences with guys - one even physically ran away from me because I’m not a skinny, beautiful female.
I started to ease up on myself when I realised my husband wants to be here for me. I started to open up to him; not just about my past but who I am now - things I’m feeling and thinking.
We all fear rejection or being used and you can’t truly predict how someone truly is deep down but you can trust yourself and your own judgement. It comes with age & experience.
Just start by being honest with your new guy & see where it takes you. Maybe he will be there for you, maybe not but either way, you’ll be growing as a person.
Thank you so much, i really appreciate your words <3
Remember if he is with you, he wants to be with you. Do not make him feel sad by accident (by perhaps pushing him away because of your inner fears).