OK. So. Yesterday as I was curled up in the library, head on my best friend’s shoulder, her leg on top of mind, thoughts racing after she just saved me life (again) I realised something. I am in love with my best friend who is most likely aro-ace. In other words; I’m screwed. Every time I talk to her I laugh, every time I see her I smile. When she leaves I feel alone and when she’s touching me like leaning on me because it’s cold all I can think is how much I want to kiss her. But I know she would never like me back. There is just no way, and even if she did, we’re so different, we don’t feel emotions the same way and things are sometimes hard. But she’s the person I trust most in my life and I love her so damn much. I’m just not entirely sure how. Anyone know what to do? It’s getting harder not to just kiss her, but I don’t want to upset her or lose our friendship. I can’t lose her.
Hey
I can only imagine what you must be going through. If they are aroace then you have to respect their boundaries . But if you aren’t sure I would suggest that you don’t assume anything and I stead have a mature grown up conversation with her. If you two are as close as this post tells me you are I am sure this will just be a small hiccup in your relationship . I believe in you and I know that you will only grow and learn from this experience .
Sending you all the love and power ❤️
-N
Thank you. I know she’s liked a girl before, but I’m not sure if she really gets romantically interested in anyone. But either way, whenever I try to bring up something she says she doesn’t like labels and she just shuts down. She’s not the best at talking about or dealing with feelings, but she always knows the right thing to say. I’m so confused. Thank you for answering though, it means a lot to me :)
