Ok so I searched a but around the web and found this place to just… Idk, vent? I’ve got a lot of stuff in my head that I’ve talked to the people involved with and I can’t not say it somewhere.

First off, me (Enby/18) and this girl (F/20), let’s call her Dora, are moving from our home town to a city at the other end of the country, NZ.

The reason I’m doing it is because I’ve been clashing with my parents a lot more frequently recently because as I’ve matured, I’ve grown to be more like them and we spark.

The reason Dora is doing it is because her mother, Viv, is not exactly the best mother. She has, as of the last 2-6 months, A; shaken Dora while telling her that Dora is the sole cause of Vic’s suicidal feelings and attempts. B; thrown a WiFi modem, that Dora bought, towards Dora, intending to hit her but hitting the wall instead, and then complaining a day later why the WiFi wasn’t working after half the components weren’t working when it hit the wall. C; Minimized Dora’s thoughts and feelings about being made to feel guilty about her mother’s suicidal thoughts and attempts, brushing them off as “happening months ago, you shouldn’t be worrying about it anymore” when Dora is actively scared about her mother whenever she’s out for an extended period.

Keep in mind these events listed are days if not weeks apart, and these are just three examples. These types of things happen almost every day.

Also, Viv is loving and caring as soon as someone is in the room, until she feels they are apart of the family. Then she won’t care if they (including me) are in the room when she flips at Dora. Only that I should leave the room and occupy myself while I try not to listen through the door at my best friend getting verbally berated. Nothing more than verbal happens while I’m around, but physical stuff, like grabbing shoulders and shaking and throwing Dora through doorways happens when it’s only them two in the house.

I’m actively scared for Dora’s life some nights when I’m told about it, and not sure about what’s gonna happen to Viv or Dora when something does snap.

I just need a place to say this stuff, so I’m glad I found somewhere, and this is only one story within my friend group. I’ll tell another in another post. I’ll make it so all of these aren’t anonymous so people can follow along.