Obviously I feel guilty I guess since that whole Eunice thing happened. I somewhat lost 2 friends in this process and many ppl had to become my listeners like rach, nye, and I lost my best friend and Iv.T. Like maybe it is my fault this whole thing happened but then again it is just really awkward between me and the other guy, with my best friend too since i rarely ever talked to them ever since that whole thing happened… haizzzzzz
Simran @st1199
Hey!
I couldn’t understand everything clearly, can you help me in a more layman language?
Also, why is it awkward and why did you lose your friends?
Like somehow Eunice thinks that I backstabbed her when in reality I didn’t and I was just getting really fed up with my one-sided concerns for her. That was how our friendship ran its last course. Ever since then I also lost my best friend and Ivan, a guy friend of mine. The friendship between us is really tense I would say but then again everyone knows that changing your own attitude and behavior has never been easy
Simran @st1199
So, what are the reasons for the same?
I mean was it only you trying hard to be friends with them and they took you for granted or the general friends fight it happened?
Well, friends do fight but this somehow went overboard so we just broke it off. Well, I broke it off with them, and ever since then, things weren’t as how they used to be. Maybe it is just something in life that I have to learn through the hard way. I will just take it as my life lesson :)))))))
Simran @st1199
Yes, certain things teach us in life.
Some things tell us that will the other person care for me or reach out in case I don’t do it.
Ik this feeling :))
It’s okay.
But is it worth losing friends though as you keep getting older? Even if you lose them at your own fault, by your own hands ?
Simran @st1199
I may not be the person to tell this since I haven’t lost any dear to me. We always have sorted it out.
I can however tell the bond has changed over a period of time.
If it’s my fault then I need to take it on myself and can’t be mad. If you did for yourself and he/she in any manner gave not a good vibe then it makes sense, else it doesn’t. For me, if they were a good friend and because of your attitude/ego/XYZ reason/somebody manipulated you, you broke it then it’s not worth it for sure to lose them. 💜
I agree but then again it could be my fault too. Since Celeste stated that I needed to change my attitude if not then I will have no friends at all. But isn’t it a right thing to be your own self?
Simran @st1199
She wants you to change. If that’s for your betterment then you should and you know that how is your attitude and what people speak of you.
There is more than 1 person who can tell you what you’re by nature and what does your attitude speaks of you.
If you know that Celeste is that person who understands you completely and wants the best for you as a friend, you should consider your attitude.
Well I am not exactly on the best terms with her at all and she keeps on texting me but I ignored her messages and left her on seen. If she keeps on doing this, she’s going to end up getting hurt in the end. Our friendship broke into pieces just like that
Simran @st1199
Then just confront and tell her.
Hahhhh, I would really love too but I just don’ think now’s the right time and everyone is quite busy recently also and I had started this year with a bad opening and was hoping that throughout this whole year I could live a peaceful and stressful school life
