Need genuine advice guys
I was in a relationship with a guy from last 3 years, i was madly in love with him. Infact he promised me that he will talk to his parents regarding the marriage and all as we both are 27 age but suddenly out of nowhere in February he told my father is not well ( he might again get paralysis attack ) and he wants me to get married in next 2 months, he told me he talked to his parents but they didn’t approved also they asked him to leave his job though we both were earning quite well had a good career then he got married last week but now i feel cheated was he playing with my feelings did he ever wanted to get married to me or. it’s all lie that he talked to his parents about me about his job also i don’t know as in IT sector it’s still wfh i don’t whether the reason he gave me is true or not if it’s true than i am ready to back out but what if he lied to me regarding job his marriage i could not understand what to do i love him so much feeling so depressed it’s feels like killing myself without him Could not understand what to do. Genuine advice needed guys i know he can’t come to me back but atleast i deserve truth how to find about his job and whether he really loved me
So there are two things might have happened
1. He actually had issues and was not able to marry you, as far as from anyone who is really serious about other person for marriage they will never do these things suddenly! Infact they become little selfish that whatever happens I would marry this girls/boy only that’s how anyone who really wants you will think! I am not really sure why he didn’t look this in that percepective but all I can say is if that is not his perception then he didn’t deserve you anyway, he might want to marry you but lost it in the end! Ye hua hoga max to max
2. He lied to you all along, if he really lied to you all along then surely karma will hit him back hard! So don’t worry about that! Many people get cheated in bad bad ways so just think ki u r one of the victim and try to move on!
Whatever it was you have to accept the fact that you have to forgive him, not for him but for you and ur peace of mind so that you can lead you life! I know it’s hard to implement as you are so curious and want so many answers but all I can say is time heals everything! Just think a lot of bad luck/bad life has gone with him!
God has some great plans for you trust in him! Lots of strength to you ❤️
Broken heart @deserted
If the reasons he gave to me are true i am ready to forgive him as whatever the things even if he lied also i cant hate him as I loved him so much the only thing that i just needed a closure to end all this i know he got married he moved on but i am standing at a same place from past 3 months
Broken heart @deserted
I do believe in God thanks for your advice and words it was getting so heavy inside that could not understand what to do not able to focus on my work also it’s affecting me so much
Again might be a long and boring response but I feel I have to say this
I completely understand that you deserve a closure for sure! But are you getting it by any means? If so please try to get a good closure of that! But if you are not getting it even after multiple trails tho why to hustle? Hustle karne se kya mil jayega aapko! I know how it feels atleast you deserved to know ki what exact reason you have to feel bad, did he cheat or he has his own reasons! On what point to cry or feel bad! This curiosity will never die But why to run behind something which you will never able to catch! Trust me the sooner you will give up on this the better you would feel! Love never dies! Just let it go with a smile! Sometimes you have to believe in god as well why you always need logic behind things? Sometimes it is better to go with the flow and trust the process
Oh I wish I could take some of that heaviness for you! But no one can do that for you! Calm down take a long breath! Calm yourself down! I know it’s all easy for me to say this on internet and hard to implement but life is lot more than all this! There are people who got cheated after giving dowry I am not comparing your sorrow at all! But just think how blessed you are in other things some good moments and just relaaaxx
Broken heart @deserted
Thanks i will try to get over from all this i know it’s not so easy takes time let’s see what future holds
