My relationship with my teenage daughter is incredibly difficult and I don’t know how to proceed.
Avtar @avtar
Try to understand her mindset 1st and try to find a better way for her to understand your opinions too.
Akash Dalal @skybroker
i can understand. why don’t you start with communicating with her starting with what she like to eat. her movies. or something similar to it.
Bani Singh @banisinghvasir
Hi @hillaryhay,
As someone who was incredibly difficult as a teenage daughter to my mother (who is the gentlest soul), I can safely say that a lot of what she might be going through is puberty, her surroundings (friends, schoolmates, other people her age etc.), her confusion with who she is in the world and a general understanding of what life means to her now that she is no longer a child. While making sense of all of that, it is perhaps most common to take out that frustration on one’s mother. I would tell you not to take it to heart. Yes, you should try to understand how you can have better communication with her, but it is highly likely that her behaviour with you has less to do with you but more to do with what she is going through as a young adult. At best, you can only try to always keep communication channels open and offer her a non-judgemental listening ear. And this happens not just with what you consciously say to her but also what you indirectly say. Any comments you might pass casually or how you approach certain sensitive topics gives her a sense of what she can or cannot talk to you freely about.
Ultimately, know that it can be exhausting and complex to deal with it, and you’re only human. You have her best interest at heart, and hopefully, it is just a teenage phase.
I’m 22 now and my mother is my best friend. We fight a lot. A LOT A LOT. But it is part of our relationship. My mother and my father never gave up on me, even during my difficult days and time. They stuck by me, even if it meant they were angry, but they always checked in on how I was doing. And when I look back that is what I remember.
Keep trying, don’t give up, it’ll all work out. At the end of the day, you have each other and that’s what matters the most.
Sending you big hugs xx
A teenage girl always search for love and happiness. Most of the time those needs are brought by her best friends. As a teenage girl im saying try to be a good friend to her which will make her proud to have a father like you and will never be shy to introduce you as her father to anyone. Good luck.
