My girlfriend of 4years broke up with me because she doesnt love me anymore, but i still love her. I feel like crap and i dont know what to do. 

Be sad about it. Mourn the relationship that ended with your love still stuck in it 

Omg, same here, i understand you, i hope you get out of it soon, although a can't 🙂

It happens to most of the people reason vary though
But in ur case I guess its part that u can't make a person to love all over again when they decided to leave .
When u r in relationship atleast once a while people should do some activity together and spice up once in a time 
It could be anything
That would help to have ur roots strong in that .
Also go with the person who no matter what stands by u ( when it is right) 
If its wrong make sure they know about it and help them work towards it.

Relationships

I thought she was cute 😤

3am Thoughts

I just love her too much , I don't know but maybe I'm too much controlling? idk I try to make her happy always , I get rude sometimes and my tone can get high sometimes when I'm genuinely caring for the other person , we've been together for 4 years and i just cannot live without her and I just miss the old her who just couldn't get enough of me , i love her alot. How to just fix myself for her and how not to be rude and not to be controlling or maybe I'm I'm just too much concerned about her I just want her to be okay and I'm trying each and every day. Just please I want answers and how can I sort things out ? 

Love

A month before my 21st birthday, out of nowhere, she asked my how long since my last escapade in sex?  I told her it was with her, nearly 2 years back. She chuckled and told me she had one a couple of month back. And she went on to explain how I shouldn’t be affected and that it was time to move on.
Dear reader, now its getting dark. My eyes have swollen. Things I am recalling, haven’t been said or thought of, by me, ever since that fateful night in February 2019 when we said our goodbyes . I used to be smart, elegant, kind and loving. I have spent 2 years in loving a woman, and a year courting her. I feel as if someone took my heart out and squeezed it. I have seen things in my life, but I was never hopeless. I was always looking forward to something. But with her gone, out of my life, I do not see the reason to live. My past will soon catch up with me. And when it does, I don’t want to go out like a shadow of a man. I am nothing now. I study, I work and keep myself busy. But every second, I feel , dead. She was the only thing keeping my alive and happy. And someone up in the fucking clouds, has taken my happiness away for the last time. I am lost without her. For some reason I have this constant pain in my lungs. Or heart. I don’t know. All I know is that cigarettes will push your loved ones away. It would take away your sense of smell. All I try to do now is try and finds her smell. But cigarettes have made my sense of smell weak. I cant even remember how she smells. I cant. I want to. Its getting dark again. Too dark to see

Breakup

I'm seeing my life fall apart.
I've exams coming this Saturday 3rd of April and I did a horrible thing on 24th March.

I shouted on my girl, about she giving up her career and sitting home if she doesn't want to come back in afternoon for 2pm lecture, as we were left early at 11am, she felt it tiring to go home and comeback at 2 as it was sunny. I was rude on my tone, I know I apologized on 25th 26th 27th and today too. But things have got worse, its killing me inside, she ain't talking to me like before. I am giving her space and time to forgive me, I'm apologizing to her everytime. I even tell her that I miss her a lot, but there's no reciprocation of my feelings from her end. Its breaking my heart and I don't know what to do. She doesn't like gifts, she doesn't go out with me, she ignores my texts, and I'm sorry for my impulsive behavior, all I meant was I want her to be with me atleast during college hours as her family is strict and conservative, she cannot leave her house after 6pm. ;.; I'm sorry, but I don't know what else to do. I realized my mistake, after knowing her for the first time I had decided to not to hurt her feelings at all. I had promised myself not to hurt her ever after knowing her life. I failed. I could not even impress her and make her comfortable with me. Now whenever I see her in Parking or College, I make myself scarce around her and even around my friend circle to let her be with friends and me being with them might make things a little awkward or people might figure out about our relation. My hearts breaking and my life's falling apart Finals are coming next week. 


Sorry I cannot help ANYONE out on NOWandME

One Sided Love

Why am I so unsure of myself and my girlfriends love. Everything can be fine and the second she says something even a little bit degrading or better that she used to have it makes me fold. I just don’t know how to accept that she had better and now somehow wants me. Is it easier for me to be just alone even though we both love each other

Anxiety

I got together with the love of my life at my sisters wedding in May 2019, I’ve known her my whole life (we were babies together, as our mothers are good friends). We also went to high school together and were even in the same class in our final year. We both turned 50 the year we finally got together, our families were ecstatic.
Our problem at the time was that she lived in South Africa and I had moved  to Australia years earlier. I love this woman with everything. She was the shoulder I leaned on for emotional support during my divorce in 2011. Without her, I don’t know what I would have done. I proposed to her in 2019 and she said yes. 

So, I made the decision to move from Perth Australia back to South Africa to be with her…I visited her for a long holiday in October 2019 and made plans to be living with her by early 2020…but then Covid happened.

For three years, we spoke on the telephone every single day for hours. It was always after 12am in the morning on my side, but every minute of her time was worth it to me. I was getting to sleep between 1:30am and 3:00am everyday, but I was ok with that, I adjusted my entire life to suit this schedule. My friends though I was mad.

In December 2021, I was suddenly afforded the chance to move over to finally be with her when I was offered a job on a mine in her town, it was very sudden, the time scales were very short because they needed me to start at the beginning of March 2022. Needless to say, I jumped at the opportunity. Jobs in South Africa are very very scarce.
I sold up what I could in Australia, threw away what I couldn’t sell (thousands of dollars worth of furniture) and gave away the rest of everything I ever owned in life in preparation for the big move. I have nothing left of my life in Australia.

I left behind, my two adult sons, my great job as a surveyor, my friends and my beautiful dog. I climbed on the plane at the end of March 2022, a month later than I should have, and flew over to start my life with her. 
The expense was huge and I admit, it was difficult for me, the move was one of the most stressful times of my life, but one of us had to make the sacrifice and I did it.

Cut to the present! 

I was told yesterday that my move over was too fast for her to comprehend and that I hadn’t given her time to process everything. She said the move was entirely my choice and that she never asked me to do it. She said to me yesterday that when we got together, she was a broken woman and that over the years she has gotten herself into a better position in life, that she was thinking that maybe I was no longer a part of her plans going forward. She said she loved the solitude of being alone with no drama. She says I brought drama because I expected a relationship! Since I’ve arrived here, I’ve tried everything that a normal couple would do, with no luck, she just sits behind her computer and works morning to midnight, every single day. This has been my life since arriving here. 

I must now wait until she feels she might want to continue any kind of relationship, wait until she thinks or feels it’s time to move forward. I’ve already waited since April, it’s now almost January. 

After giving up my entire life in Australia, I stay in her spare room, with all of her junk.

I don’t think I will ever trust another soul again, how could I? I trusted this woman with everything, I never thought I’d be living in this hell. I’m hurting like you won’t believe, I’m beyond humiliated, embarrassed and full of self doubt. 
I have become a broken shell of the man I was just a year ago and I am too embarrassed to talk to anybody about it, because as men we are not expected to show weakness. 

I had a long talk with my girlfriend this evening. She barely talked to me, mostly did her own work and stayed silent. And kept asking me to talk to her. What I understand that she only kept me in line so that she can cut the phone in the right time and go on to talk with her new crush. She is continuously flirting with him and denies it on my face. I love her to the moon and back. And she never loved me or cared for me. I was and am her pass time choice. 

Lonely

I feel horrible currently.. 
I'm into toxic relationship.. I think I have lost my peace.  So I n my girlfriend keep fighting now n then.  It has become daily routine now.  Everyday block n unblock.  I know she's toxic to me.   But I cannot help myself. I feel like talking to her n forget everything.. sometimes I feel.. it's okay to be suffering daily. But I would be with her.  We fought 2 days back.. n she has blocked me everywhere.... I don't know what to do! I guess I need some advice or someone to talk to..  

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