My gf is scared that i dont have any emotional quotient left for her . I hurt her unknowingly and not consoling enough. 

Please suggest how can i be consoling enough when the only means of communication is texts , calls and the situation is already tense since i have caused her pain. 

Hey mate,
I got you. First of all, we don't console anyone in a relationship. We always empathise and understand that person(which comes naturally). Secondly, before everything, should apologise for everything that happened in the past, and try to be soft with her. Because as humans we do not respect that person who is always available for us. 
I hope this brings some clarity. For further guidance. you can always book a session.
Regards,
Harmanpreet K

Love

Everything is getting worse…. she says she like me but
I don't feel that….. we haven't met yet but it's been 2
yrs We are not in a relationship, she is not confirmed
for the thing it's alright but it feels that she doesn't
want to even talk to me... if i ask something then she
just relpies back but doesn't asks back and reply late
it's all that i am connected with her, i feel it's only me
who is keeping up, messaging her, showing up
instantly, thinking every single time that this time it
won't happen but it happens EVERY SINGLE TIME. i
am loosing self worth as if she has taken me for
granted… but I don't want to lose her.. this is messing
my mental health… don't know what to dooo… ifeel i
am boring coz I don't have much to tell her... my day is
boring too, what should i tell her. there is nothing
interesting in me… and I don't understand what to do
to keep her close. i think we are drifting apart. i am
not good at communication…. but i overthink too much
too…. tell me what should i do…. and i know i can trust
her but still i have trust issues that probably she is out
cheating on me. that she is going to hurt me and i
will never be able to get over itt.… and then i feel it's
better to die… no i am not going to suicide but just
that thought..

Adulting

Feeling sad and angry because my girlfriend is just making a fuss about something. Yesterday I was not feeling ok I was confused about my feelings which i told her and after sometime i fell asleep. When i woke up she was mad at me, her point was that she had already a bad mood from a day before and today i haven't checked upon her for few hrs so that makes her angry! I said it's not making sense. I was also feeling not good about myself so asking about you didn't came to mind and when i woke up i was feeling fine but till then she was angry from me . I told her that listen only for 3-4 hrs i wasn't there and its not making sense to get mad over such small stuff but she was like why can't you consider the fact that im angry and im like babe there's no reason to be angry ! From then we've been on and off on this topic and talking. It's making me sad . What should i do because according to her i should accept my fault and understand  and should make it upto her. But my mind is not able to understand what was my fault because i was just trying to be ok in those hrs and when i got fine , I'm in this new mess .. Help suggest something. It just feels like i need to accept whatever tantrum will be thrown at me i just need to accept that even if the person is wrong !

Relationships

So it's been 6 years since i brokeup.
It was lil hard to move on,  but i moved on eventually (i think so hihi).
We still talk,  she's dating some1 else.
I cool with it
But thing is,
I cant see anyone else the way i used to look at her
That love ,it just went off
I am having a hard time to have that feelings for anyone

Today I felt something different. The girl which I talked about on last post, she tried to get in touch with me but i straight away ignored her. She even tried to come in front of me but still I ignored. 
My heart was not stopping me from talking to her but i controlled my emotions. Though I am in love with her and i can't express it to her because I don't wanna lose my respect. I don't know how to survive in this situation. She always comes in front of me and i ignore her. I still feel guilty on how I treated her and talked to her rude but also I can't even say sorry. 
Please suggest what to do. 


Frustration

Thank you for giving me your attention if you are reading this.

I will be sharing something about my connection with someone in this post today, and I would appreciate your constructive feedback on whether I am thinking in the right direction or not.

2013 was when I and the girl met for the first time in a coaching center preparing for our entrance exams. 

We never really talked though. Our batch ended, we got admitted into different colleges in our own state in the same Engineering stream.

In 2016, her exam center was my college and we connected after 3 years via Facebook. 

After a few months of chatting, she confessed her feelings for me since 2013, for the first time. Though I liked her too at that time, I didn't really commit to her for an official relationship, and she was ok with it. 

I joined my job in 2017 in my own state, and she moved to a metro city for further preparations, and she got a job for her in 2018.

We kept in touch through WhatsApp Chats, Audio Calls, Video Calls, on a daily basis, and met only twice as now, when things were a little serious between us, she used to work in a different state and could meet only when she came back for holidays.

This is where the story turns now.

In 2019, I told her that I was not ready for marriage yet, due to multiple reasons and we had to break off. 

But as it happens after breakups, the missing and emotional pain, we still stayed in touch, not as much as before, but enough to know that how much we missed each other.

Anyhow, 2 years passed in this on and off situation, and now when in June 2021 I am ready to settle and get married, as I am financially confident to support my family, I reached out to her again, told her about my willingness to settle with her.

It was then that I got to know that now she isn't ready, as first, she is in a relationship with someone, and also that she isn't ready to get married even with him for at least a year and a half.

So the conversation ended again. 

Then in August 2021, I got to know that she and her bf broke up, so I told her, that I don't care about her past and am still willing to get married to her, if she still has feelings for me, and wants to give us a chance.

We talked for a week or so, and then I got to know that mentally she is still in her past, and is not ready to move on to the future. She is an overthinker and this has led her to a partial depression in the past which affected her work and heath too.

When I sensed that she isn't willing to forget the past, and that I am bothering her and confusing her about what she should be doing in her life right now, I told her to take time and reach out to me whenever she is ready.

But at the same time, she knows that my family is looking for suitable matches for an arranged marriage.

Now, I am stuck between the family, and the girl whom I don't know is even ready to get settled with me, or even if she loves me or not. I don't want her to get into Stockholm syndrome, and settle with me now, and then realize after marriage that she was just in a negative phase back then and that she doesn't really love me.

So, should I be talking to her again, or should I wait for her to approach me when she is ready?

Please share your opinions, respectfully, about what you understood and think about the situation. I would love to know your opinions about the story.

Thanks

She's scary 

3am Thoughts

This is my first entry on here and I just want to share all my feelings since I have no one to share.. So I went to college last year in another city far away from my family, I was really bad at making friends in there but i had some "online" friends. Then I started a relationship, fell in love and stuff. meanwhile I was with her, I didn't keep in touch with my other friends. And I know this was such a terrible thing to do because I was thinking my girlfriend was the best friend that I could ever had. I trusted her, she was making me comfortable everytime when I needed like I did to her. Our relationship was so great that I felt like I didn't need anyone else but her. Then this quarantine situations happened and we started to fight over time.  We eventually broke up because I found out that she cheated on me.. After our break up, I feel like I wouldn't recover from this. It was terrible for me and took a really long time but I did overcome though. I began to be more positive, started to learn how to love myself and started a whole new journey. But this feeling of loneliness and having no one to talk to hit me hard. I feel like I'm wasting my youth away because I can't share my feelings, something that I wanna talk about to someone. I look around myself and see no one. This hurts me a lot and I still don't know what to do but to share this on here.. 

First of all I'm sorry if this entry is something triggering for someone and also keeping it this long but I thought that sharing this whole thing would be helpful

Lonely

Let’s talk. Getting much frustrated. Need to
Divert myself from myself. 

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