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Anonymous

My boyfriend often has opinions about what I wear and stuff like that. He thinks wearing even little amount revealing clothes is nothing but to ask for attention. When i asked him what problem he has with me wearing something that makes my cleavage visible, he said he didn’t want any guy to stair at my cleavage. I totally agree his concern is right and valid. He asked, “why do you even want to wearing revealing clothes if you don’t want the attention and stairs?” But I’m still confused if I’m being controlled and not being trusted enough to let me wear whatever i want. What do you all think?

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Anonymous

Being a girl… i wouldn’t like anyone controlling me or dictating me what to wear… and what is with this that you want attention??? That’s what he said… right??
I guess he is insecure… it’s totally upto you… you must have seen his behaviour… you can tell what did he mean when he asked you that why would you wear such clothes.
Were not you wearing those clothes before getting into a relationship with him??? If yes then how could he expect you to stop now?

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Açha Bacha @soft_forest_2

Wo aap pr trust krte hai lekin duniya pr nahi aur wo apki care krte hai agar apko wo control krte to only dress ke liye nahi har chiz pr kehte…

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Anonymous

He is insecure. He doesn’t like other males looking at you. This is in no way mean he wants to dominate you.
The status quo can never remain the same, before and after relationship.
The prime facia here is, listen and look if his concern is real or not. How you would have felt if you were in his position? Relationship works on negotiation. Talk to him and negotiate about things.
If anything works to save your relationship and you are not at disadvantage or suffering because if that, why shouldn’t you consider his concern?
Negotiate and don’t let “if i am being dominated” though into your mind. Many people will tell you to listen to yourself but sometimes we even don’t see what should and act without contemplation.

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Abhijeet A.K @akabhi

Are you a law student or lawyer? Just out of the topic just asking if u don’t mind

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Anonymous

No, i am not

Sanket @sanket

Very decently put forward

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Abhijeet A.K @akabhi

For this my suggestion would be better sit and talk to direct and say all ur interests or ideas or love to work even after marriage and tell everything about you the way you want to be and then see his answer for each one of that and he should day something not that he doesn’t want to give or ask him how you want to be in everything bcoz he just spoke about only dress now.
Later may be ask not go out of house or don’t meet friends so better clear it before going to next step.
If u want to talk more ping me.

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