My boyfriend is going to be a medical student soon. He is preparing now. I try to be patient with him and not be demanding. We hardly talk and he hardly call. I finally got annoyed and send him lots of messages and calls. He convinced me that he is serious for me but it’s just that he is facing lots of issues. He was frustrated. When we were done with call I asked him few questions on text. When I demanded him to at least send good morning each day, he got frustrated and said good bye. Few days after I again messaged him but he didn’t reply . And after that one day I send him lots of messages and calls. But then he texted me back too rudely and told me to leave him alone. Where am I wrong? I need to communicate each day. That doesn’t mean that I am not serious about mine or his career. I don’t know where am I wrong.
Rahul R Nair @elite_gentx
Redflag.
These are the red flag things I ignored in my relationship, which cost me almost 2 years of my life. Get out of it, nobody is too busy. Leave now, or cry later.
Comment seems rude, but that’s the reality which u need to accept.
Don’t listen to this sh… Medical students go through a lot . I agree love needs communication but don’t listen to random people’s comment who’s eyes will only see negativities … no one is green flag or red flag here. don’t ruin your relationship. He needs some time let him finish his studies . If he says he is serious just trust him and wait. Just think positively.
Rahul R Nair @elite_gentx
Haha… Very good use of words. What a positive comment. I’m not a street person, I’m also a professional aspirant. I know about the struggles while studying. But if you give priority, you will give time. Nobody is too busy to say a good mrng. Relationship does not work like a robot. It needs reassurance if the other one needed. And I’ve experienced the same in my life and wasted so much time. I know tbe pattern, I studied about this, I heard many people’s stories, studied a bit of CBT from Upgrad, even I’m about to write a book on the same relationship issues along with professionals. Its ok to critisize, but replying to my comment in a very worst culture is what you learned from your family. Anyway, let your belief make you better. And the discussion ends here. I’m not going to reply further. Have a nice day.
When you post something on social media people will comment. If you don’t want to see it, uninstall and leave. You said dont listen to random comments , then who the hell are you 🤣 You are also a random person to ignore. Whatever someone comments you judged him like a negativist. So pathetic.
Are you really blind? It’s sure that he is ignoring him. And you think your comment is a top one. You are talking like you know her bf so well he needs time. And using abusive words don’t listen to this shit… The real shit is your comment.
What are you trying to prove here… am not blind just think from other person’s perspective too. What if he is genuine and she miss him. Don’t advice something bad and ruin others life. I am talking to her who the hell are you in the middle. Just shut up
But if he is genuine why can’t he say gm to me everyday. I want the gm so that I can feel that he is in my life. This thing to not talk for days is really new for me. Idk if it’s right. But I know that I am obsessed with him.
What will you do if he is in army?!! Do you still wait for him to say gm or you go on with your work?
🤣🤣 You shut up look at her last comment. You lost the dignity, shut up and leave. You lost here 🤣🤣 Your imagination when you commented: Hero
What others see: Joker 🤣
That is more hard for me. I don’t know if I am still ready for that. But my affection for him is too strong now.
Again proved, brainless. What a comparison 🤣 Really are you mad?
Please don’t fight. I respect all of your suggestion. It’s good to know the pros and cons. Btw he already told me before that he will join army.
This is what toxic positivity sounds like. I think you have never been in any relationship. Relationships don’t work the way you said. No knowledge about that and still commenting with confidence. And I’ve read your all replies, that soldier wala thing too was nonsense.
You still didn’t stop yet… ufff carry on. You brainy 🧠 jobless commenter. Bye
Now you are commenting like a new person. What’s wrong with you? Are you mad? Get a life. You’ll not get any more replies.
Yep you are brainy. Do some good thing with that brain rather than commenting here and laughing at your own comment joker 🤡
Sometimes ppl fail to manage things at a time. And its natural. I think u should breakup with him and moveon if you cant kp up with this behavior of his.
I like him a lot. I wish he could have understood me.
You want him to understand you, and he wants you to understand…
Him
I don’t know how to communicate with him. Should I just wait for him to call. But what if when I need him. When I am emotionally drained? He have to understand that too.
I don’t think he is in a state to understand your feelings rn.
Maybe we are actually right person at wrong time. I don’t want to give up but I know this is not a story book but the real world.
Yaaa! Wrong time indeed.
Girl …he needs space for sometime. He needs to resolve his own issues …
My ex boyfriend used to do this to me, at the end I left him.
Medical exams needs preparation yaar hasi mazak to hai nhi na …
Your ex? Does that mean I have to break up with him? And can’t get say gm to me everyday? Just gm?
No …see whatever you posted here…we all are giving our opinion according to it. And I think you just need to focus on yourself…your career and studies. Once you started giving less attention to him …then he’ll be able to focus and may be when he clears his mind he’ll come back.
And if he don’t…leave him and move forward.
Yes you are right. For now I should let him be. Anyways I am not mature to his level. I definitely won’t understand him in future too. I should let him be.
U should also focus on your careee as well let ur self busy .OK…
Very true…if he is true for her …he’ll definitely wait for her.
He actually clearly told me to move on and he is serious about this.
Then you should move on… Because i dont think ots just the study pressure he is facing he is going through something else aswell… Which is making him not to txt anyone ( u know sometimes ppl doesn’t feel like talking to anyone out of anxiety n all.)
But i can assure you one thing! Ome day he will miss you! He will realise he has lost a gem. 🫂 Girl you deserve the world. This time be careful while you choose a guy. Like make sure what are his priorities n all.
Yes he told me that sometimes he just want to sit alone. He don’t like talking to anyone. He have stopped almost talking to his family and friends. But he goes to gym in the evening and if possible sits with his in city friend for few moments.
I don’t know if I can think of someone else.
Are u the one who proposed him first?
Yes. I confessed first but he agreed that he too like me. Infact few days back he indirectly told me that he want to spend the life with me. But suddenly he just disappeared by saying good bye.
He seems to going through some tough time! 🫠
If it’s only him no one else situation for you. Then sis i suggest you to give him space and help him share his feelings with you ( feelings like his stress, low moods, troubles thingsike that). Tell him that you are not leaving him!!! No matter what. Amd tell him that u are there and you will get through this together. And let him call u and text u whenever he is free. Pls be patient with him. And see how things will get better and u won’t have to lose him. And the day when he is finally doing fine he will give u all the care n love u deserve. Alll d bestt. It’s going to be hard but i believe that your love for him will give u strength to deal with all this.
See that’s how idiot I am. I just don’t understand. I simply felt that he is ignoring me. I felt that he is not into me at all. Even his latest message in which he asked me to move on were too rude. Actually he deserves someone who have a mature mindset. I won’t be his strength but weakness and a burden. I definitely should break up.
