My boyfriend and I want to get married after dating for almost 10 (on and off) but parents are making me choose between him and them. There is absolutely no problem with regarding anything just because he is my boyfriend they don’t want him . 

Hi 
If there is no problem then there is no reason to chose they should be happy with your decision and support you or there is reason that's concerned. Or you should ask them and clear it out. Moreover if you get married tomorrow you need both if them because they are your family you are ready to start your own family...there is some clarity needed

Love

June 1, 2022

So there’s this guy... We met more than a month ago. We were getting along and were enjoying each other’s company. Until one day, he admitted that he likes me and wants to pursue me, and being someone who likes to say, "Why not?" for the chance of experience, I agreed. Things escalated like that, with him being sweet, understanding, patient, (can I say that he’s smart?) and with every green flag available, he raised and waved. I also opened up to him about my oath to myself of not getting into a relationship until I became independent and stable. He’s all for it. He’s willing to wait. And so he asked me if I could trust him and wait with him. I said yes, but was already perplexed internally. Slowly, I got this feeling of pressure. The dilemma starts here. It’s just that it feels... surreal and quick? I mean, he always puts forth the effort to let me know where I stand, and I do appreciate it. I really do. I do like him too. That was why I agreed when he asked me out in the first place. However, eventually, I feel that I can’t reciprocate the same strong feelings as he does. It worries me and it makes me feel guilty, since I know that somehow, I am responsible for what he feels. Also, I was open about this with him and we even discussed it again last night, but you know what, every time? He’d reassure me that he understands and he’s not pressuring me, and that no matter how much of a mess I am, he will help me untangle it. However, I still feel confused, unprepared, and guilty. What to do?


Conflict

I love him but i know he’s not loyal. He makes me happy and I’m scared to let him go. I’m just getting to a point in my life where i feel like i can’t take it any more. I feel
Empty without him and i know the right thing is to let him go. I tried looking pass all the unfaithful times and all the lies but is tearing me inside. As much as i try to let it go and not think about it i know i deserve better but i don’t know why I’m so in love with him. I tell myself every week “Kim this is the week you have to put yourself first and let him go” but i can’t never take that step. Every time I’m not with him i miss him, when i hear his voice i smile, and every time i see him i still get the same butterflies in my tummy since the first day i met him. 

Relationships

I miss him. He makes me feels better when I'm around him. I thought that we had something special. I guess I was wrong. He choose her. I am not good enough for him. When we're together it makes me feel fulfilled. Like there's nothing else in this world. Now he knows that i still love him. When I looks at him it feels real. I want him to feel the same. But that will never happen. He was a part of my small world. I don't want him in any other way. When I looks into his eyes there is nothing. I am more sure abt I miss him. But he don't even miss me. He wants her. I was the only one in his relationship with me, he never was. He don't want me anymore The day I stopped doing Efforts, that relationship also ended....🥀

Breakup

New to this app. this boy and i are in love is what i think. he is my neighbor and we go to the same yg. and we used to hang out every day. my parents love him and his mom used to love me. well recently since me and this boy have been growing closer his mom stopped us from hanging out at all. we only see each other on Sunday’s and Thursdays from events we both go to. we text all day but my parents have tried talking to her and she is just ignoring them. it’s making me feel like something’s wrong with me and i’m constantly overthinking it. me and his mom used to be so close like she texted me and asked how i was doing everyday etc. i just don’t know what to do.. any advice?

Overthinking

I'm feeling sad today, I wish that I could breakup.He has said that he will not marry me unless his elder brothers does so. One of his brothers lives in a foreign country.When he comes here, he will start a job, then he will get married.Do not know why it seems that all these will take a lot of time.After that the brother between them will get married, and then ours.My parents are old I have two brothers younger than me.My parents are waiting for my marriage.After that both of my brothers will get married. Do not know that there will be a lot of time in my marriage while waiting.Don't know in which year my marriage will be done.My expectations are slowly decreasing.ाIt seems that until my marriage number comes my parents will not be there.I will not be able to bear this sorrow.I like this person very much, I do not want to leave also he neither me earn much to start a life together, Sometimes there is a desire that I get married to the parents' choice and break up with him But I know this is not good to do with anyone.I am very confused thinking about my future.I feel very scared thinking about the life ahead.


i thought we would be okay and happy alk the time but throughout the months i am really not feelings the connection i felt w him its just so overwhelming. love isnt supposed to be this overwhelming and painful. whenever i think abt him i feel a sudden pain in my heart and i dont feel happy. its not like he doesnt love me. its just he stopped trusting me w his issues and i thiink he started to build a walla b/w us. we were so happy and i just want to be happy again with him. i may not be understandin him well or maybe i just dont wanna understand from his point of view. i dont know whats wrong w me. ill try to understand him more. kaybe we need break and time to improve individually and then work on the relationship 









 understanding him well 

Had a toxic relationship
Emotional turmoil was too much for me while he lived happily and had multiple relationships at a time and always said that I was the only one in his life while sending me screenshot of different girls, who he said we're is ex, telling him that they loved him or proposing him for marriage. 
Went through the on-off thing many times
Told him that soon I will block him
For the past couple of months had negligible contact. Was able to move forward and think about myself. Be happy in my life. 
Then he msged saying he suffered heart attack and I felt bad and cried a lot but didn't keep msging him as I didn't want to get attached again. 
Yesterday he msged saying he is better now, taking rest and now I was free to block him as I wanted to and was waiting for him to feel better. 
Now that he told me that I could block him I don't want to do that. 
I know this is toxic and it drains me and affects me a lot yet I don't know why I cannot remove him from my life and live like he doesn't exist. 
Any help on this? 

One Sided Love

Three years back I liked a guy and him too.. But we were never in relationship but things ended worsly.. And few months back.. after years we started talking again like good friends as we were part of a program so we used to meeet every single day and we used talk late night as well.. And within few days he confessed that he still likes me.. And i didn't wanted things to end up like three years back.  I didn't wanted anything worse to happen ever between us.. So i acted as if I m not intrtsted. All these time.. He was there in my troubles as my mood changer . He did everything which made me fall for that person more and more.He gaive me lots of hopes about future And all although we know ota gonna be tough from family side And later I confessed about my feelings. And now he is saying he is not ready for relationship neither we can ever be together. I kept on trying but he didn't agree to me.. Meantime I become the person I never wanted to be.. He brought that vulnerable and emotional person out of me. I have even thought of cutting my veins in some worse situation between us. One dayhis parents caught us aata his house when they were out of house and I was there to sort our matter. And things got worse and I stood there with him and he made an entirely different story where it proves that I was there for wrong intention and which brought my image very down ans he told this parents that he had no idea that I was about to come.. I saw a very difficult side of him I begged his parents for our marriage as all these time I was trying to make him understand that I can talk to his parents about us and make them understand and make them convince for us.. I tried a lot on that day.. But things gone in a very different route and ended up worsly and still I waited for him all these time that he would be back and laat month i shared this with an elder person as I was getting into trauma. And this elder person was a friend of him and I got to know a different face of him.. I was shattered like anything because although I like him a lot, he was like my best friend, there was a trust, there was beautiful bond. And I got to know that he was just having fun all these time as he was getting attention from me and he was just enjoying and we finally came to a closure where he was talking to me very rudely like a person whole I have never met.. Never loved.. He was not the one whom I loved.. It's been two month since the closure.. My situation is that I m not happy deep inside.. I want to do things which would make me busy and engaged.. I have that thought inside but m unable to do. I m unable to smile. I m anable to be the person I was few months before. I m not able to be that enthusiastic person I used to be. It has just shattered me like anything .. 

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