My boyfriend and I broke up because I apparently didn’t know how to regulate my emotions. My emotional bandwidth was too much for him. I was going through a very low phase where I was working in a high pressure 24*7 availability internship with no job security. It was taking a toll on me and I would start crying out of nowhere. After our fights grew, I sought help professionally and got better, but then it seemed like he just wanted to censor a lot of things
Like he wanted a perfect person with a perfect life and I am really trying that I do not go in a spiral and avoid dating at all.
Further, he wanted me to not share things with him which were trivial as per hum. For me, they were not trivial.
Okay. Take a decision if you want to go back to him. Either ways, sort out your mental issues if there are any. It will help you. I am sure you will be do well
Going back is not an option. I don’t want to go back either. But I think I felt like I cannot open upto my partner here
Speak to ur partner
Trival means
As in the things that were big and affecting me, seemed very minute or easy to him
Kya ap jab unhe incidents batati thi jo apko affect kr raha hai to wo usse sunkar kuch solution dete thai ya only hmm hm krte thai
It’s good that you broke up. Not everyone can be emotionally available. The guy not understanding your emotional requirement wouldn’t be a great person when you need him the most.
May be. May be I didn’t know how to regulate myself then. But I genuinely was going through a tough time mentally.
If you are dating someone then the other person should be able to understand your emotions and not invalidate them. Being an emotional person I know how hard it is to tell people what you’re going through with the fear of being judged and not understanding
May be. I just don’t want to fall in a spiral where I stop dating at all. Of course I will take time, but it has happened before that I have refrained from dating only
Do whatever you feel is right. As it’s important for you to be comfortable with anything around. Take things slowly
I’m also going through this condition 😞
I hope you are okay. Please take care
How long was your relationship?
A year exactly. Including the 3 month get to know each dating phase
When was the last time you talked to him?
Been a while.
If major things of yours aren’t major for him, it shows he’s not that much understanding. Was it a long distance relationship?
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