My bf left without any closure after relationship of 6 years and I am feeling so lost 

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MY BEST FRIEND JUST REJECTED ME

I met Erick 3 years ago, since then we've become best friends. We talk every day on the phone, and tell each other everything. For a while now (like a year) I've known that I am in love with him. This is no crush or infatuation, I really love him. It hadn't been a problem, so I decided to conceal my feelings. However, he moved away to London to study his masters. We kept calling each other daily, but now the conversations involved him telling me about his dates and sexual encounters. It started to be too much, and I felt like I was not enough for him. After asking him many times not to tell me that sort of things (but he still kept at it) today I told him why I couldn't hear anymore about his other women. "I know you may not feel the same, and I don't want anything else to change, but I know I am in love with you and this is making me feel sad and less of a person". He understood and told me "I'd rather change and adapt than loose you". But now I'm scared he won't look at me the same way. I really feel like I can't loose him. He is my favorite person in the entire world. I'm scared, and very sad. I had a small hope that he would reciprocate... and now I can't stop crying. 

We both want to marry with each other, but my parents are not allowing.. there is 0.1% chances that we will be together.. still talking with each and exploring and knowing eachother better will be right thing or not?

Confusion

I've never been prioritised, no one ever put me first, not my parents, not my friends, In one or other way everyone always made me feel like an outsider, For once I got a person who did give see me as a priority, and now he's away from me too. Without him I feel so alone, so empty, it's like he went away and he took the happiness with him. Now what I have left is hope, Hope of him coming back

3am Thoughts


We broke up like 8 months ago. I can’t seem to forget about him? Or just he’s always in the back of my head
I often visit his social media and he makes posts that feel directed towards me like posting pictures of himself and gifts I gave him and captioning it like hope she seeing this or commenting on my nail techs post of the nails she did on me shit like that and it always keeps me coming back to his social media
It’s been a rough 8 months it was a horrible break up. We took a break? We got into a arguments and broke up we talked things over and he said he wanted to focus on school and tht I should also focus on school and try bettering myself for our future together although I was sad about the break he assured me we would get back together and I asked if we were still exclusive and he said yes ofc so I was completely fine with waiting for him. We spoke very often still FaceTime calls and he’d still say he loved me and kept telling me to wait for him after a while he become distant
and rude and well didn’t put up with anything he thought was bs from me i loved him so I still got a bit jealous when things felt off

about a month into the break I noticed that his best friend had left a friend group group chat and they had unfollowed each other I ask asked his best friends Bc we had known each other and were pretty good friends and he was reluctant to tell me at first but he told me that my ex/boyfriend idk had phone sex with his girlfriend
I was heartbroken:( I confronted him and he denied it his best friend gave me proof
I was angry told him I hated him other pretty mean stuff
So did he
Said he never loved me blah blah
He started crying afterwards begging me to tak him back blah blah yk said he was gonna hurt himself the same day he had phone sex with the girl he told me tht he reallly loved me and we FaceTimed after they did that shit with was reallly disgusted to me how he could do that

I reallly loved this dude so I gave him a second chance I asked if anything else happened he said no his best friend had already told me hooked up with another girl a week after we broke up
He claimed he never agreed to being exclusive and was just living his life saying I wished I was him I asked him to apologize and cut off the girl and that we could work things out he said he wouldn’t apologize because he had done nothing wrong it was really just a lot of up and down Like ok let’s get back together and then we would fight and say no and then yes and so on I tried really really sad to get him to apologize it’s really all I wanted and I just wanted him to show any tiny bit of remorse he didn’t and he said I wasn’t allowed to tell anyone about what he had done Bc “it would be embarrassing for me” annnnddd I didn’t all “our” friends still love him I ended up cutting things off with all of them
This break up caused me a lot of anxiety and panic attack i was very cheerful and I reallly loved everything my life has always been very nice nothing bad had ever happen to me which is why I thing this effected me so much I just didn’t think it would ever happen to me I guess my life was kinda perfect. I was insecure for the first time in my life because of him I felt as if I couldn’t trust anyone. It was just months of depression I was looking at some old messages and I just feeel so bad for myself now that I see things without love in my eyes seeing how hard I tried even after the pain he caused me to see good in him and I really just hurt myself even more I still miss the amazing person I was with he was an amazing friend and he was a good boyfriend idk what happen to him both his ex best friend and I agree he is not the same even after everything I can’t seem to hate him or get over him there’s like a part of me waiting for him to come back to the way he was before
We’ve graduated now I wished him congratulations after not speaking to him since I cut him off he was still very cold toward me and now makes more post directed towards me
Just tried of this dude mentally but my heart is still hung up on him I just wanted to talk about I hope this helps me I hate that I actually listened to him and didn’t talk to anyone about it I was so dependent on him
Why won’t he get outta my heart :((( he’s so mean I never liked mean guys like that he become everything I don’t like so why do I still want him

Breakup

So when your parents make you meet the boy for arrange marriage , what do I say to him unn 5 minute ki conversation me ki wo mujhe reject krde ?

 Hi everyone...
I'm new here, not rly sure how this works, or who's gonna reply, if anyone is.. But here goes 
Well.. This is a sort of.. "relationship problem" 
So there's this guy i knew since i was 13-14, we went to the same school and had mutual friends ... Knew him for a pretty long time.. But anyways, we were always friends, but the past 2 years we got closer and closer, we even became best friends, great bond, feel like i could rell him anything, en vice versa too. Then the whole pandemic thing started, en because of that, i was able to hang out with him more, because we didn't have school (we go to different schools), we hung out more n more, started hanging out alone with just him, instead of a group. And boom, u guessed it, feelings caught. Well we admitted it to each other pretty quickly, because we already had a pretty good bond. En well, feeling were mutual, was the first for me, cuz i never actually had anyone like me back haha. Aaand this the part where it kinda goes downhill. Went to his place pretty often for a while now, we did did all the stuff a normal couple would do.. So i kinda wondered like... Shouldn't.. We.. Maybe be one too? ... Soo we talked abt it and he was a lil... hesitant(?) well.. We technically both were.. So some time passes.. Like a month or something and we have the conversation again... Buuut this time, he explains why it can't happen. He's moving (out of the country) in 6-7 yrs for his masters degree and he doesn't plan on coming back, pretty understandable, cuz the country i live in isn't doing so well financially. Allot of people will be moving and studying abroad because of this reason, most, if not all of my friends. Some sooner than others. But anywho, the thing is, i won't be going, me family doesn't have the funds to send me. Soooo i will basically.. Lose nearly everyone.. Well i could still talk to them online, but they'll surely have other friends too, there's a 5 hr time zone difference, and i won't be able to hang with em. Well... Back to the boy...he said he doesn't wanna start anything cuz he's moving away, and he wants me to still be able to date en find someone here, but we can still keep going with the romantic shenanigans, because he does like me, en he knows I do too. So we could just enjoy the years he still has here together, kinda like a friends with benefits situation in a way, or a situationship. At first i was fine with it, it could be fun, en i never actually experienced anything romantic (because im extremely shy, and have high standards i guess). But it kinda got a little... Tiring... Now.. I get anxious alot... Over dumb things sometimes... Aaaand over this too... Heee could leave me any moment if he wanted to, or found someone else, he could basically do anything he wanted to.. En i don't have any right to get mad over that... It feels like im being too possessive, en i shouldnt be feeling this way. Then again, he is gonna leave at some point, sooner or later, and there's rly nothing i can do abt it. Aaand that makes me even more anxious, because i am gonna lose him in a way, that's certain, i cant change that. I've lost... Alot of.. People and things in my life, en i don't wanna.. Really... Go through the feelings of losing someone again. It kinda scares me.. Alot actually... So i resorted to the good ol "leave them  before they leave me" mindset. I've avoided seeing him for more than 2 weeks now, bailed on him, wich also makes me kinda... Idk.. Sad.. Cuz he deserves better than this.. So i told him about it,told him this makes makes me anxious, and im getting tired. And he said...its only been a few months, and he doesn't wanna stop this... But if i wanna do it, we can go back to being just friends, alltho it would be hard for him.. To get over it, and stop doing lovey dovey around me. So the thing is, i don't rly kno what to do, i do like him, alot, and this is the first time i actually experienced this sorta thing. But at the same time, it's making me extremely anxious too, i think about it constantly, and i cant sleep because of it sometimes. So... What do you think i should do, should i end this whole thing right now?, or should i just keep going. 

So I am in a relationship it's been 4 months with him we genuinely love each other but then in these past months I didn't realise and neglected his services and good deeds fro me a several times not that they were intentional but it just happened he's really been lovely to me but now that it has been too much on his plate as in my behaviour towards him he feels i have kept people before him and have not keep a check on him according to him I am People's pleaser he also says that he has given his all and neglected fam for me he feels really bad rn and is just not ready to accept that he is priority and others come after him like now if I am in my college group I am scared to socialize what if he feels bad that I am not giving him time he feels i talk to people more easily and i have topics with them to talk on and not with him also he always feels i like people more than him that's absolutely wrong I am always concerned about him and i do love him I will loose him if i want prove him wrong he's been there for me no one has and no one has loved me like him he is now very pissed at me like from the past one week he's blunt you did this that and he is just waiting that I prove him wrong if not we shall apart I so want to but I feel again unintentionally I do some small mistake and that's caught and ruins every good thing I have done please help me guys!

Stress

Guys what do you suggest for marriage if a girl is not willing to settle in abroad due to many reasons but her parents liked that boy who lives in abroad due to other  complications in marriage , so I am really confused what should I do? 

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