Monday morning second thought: 

What people provide is not love, affection, acknowledgment, etc. What they provide is a solution. 

We are selfish about the solutions they offer, provide or promise. 

When we miss someone, it's the solution.

But solutions are possible when we learn processes. Techniques, skills. 

Hence to all young aspiring lovers, be honest. And in order to prevent post break trauma, focus on improving yourself. Learn the processes that give solutions, rather than depending on people who promise you solutions. 

Best wishes. 

Don't sel




Adulting

Hi guys! So I’ve been in a live in relationship with this guy for around 2 months and we got pregnant immediately after we moved in. We planned on keeping the baby after so much discussion and debate and decided to get married soon. But I miscarried at 6 weeks 4 days and he started acting unsure about the relationship suddenly. He says that he had feelings for me because i was pregnant and that he doesn’t know if he loves me. He keeps going from ‘I love you’ to ‘I’m confused on how to proceed’. I wanna talk about the pregnancy to my family as it’s consuming me day by day and i need help. He isn’t looking after me while I’m dealing with postpartum irrespective of me saying i don’t feel loved or supported. My parents will talk to his family if they get to know hence doesn’t want them to know. I wanna be supportive of his plans but I don’t know who is going to take care of me. I’m emotionally drained, questioning everything, losing sleep and crying from time to time and he seems untouched. He asked for time and space to decide but i don’t know how to hold on and support myself till then. I’ve always wanted to be a mother and it’s killing me that my baby isn’t with me anymore. I doubt if I’m falling into depression, my family has a history of postpartum depression. What should I do to overcome this and should I wait for the guy or move on?

Miscarriage

My friend invited me to the wedding of her sister but she doesnt live close so I had to take an airplane ticket in order to be there. Now, I am here and my dress is long and by mistake when I wanted to stand up and someone helped me because its long I stepped on it by wrong and a part of material broked. I was sad because my dress cost 800$ and I could not dance because of that . Here are 80 guests invited. After that I showed this to my friend and she said : dont panic its not visible. But I am not blind it broked 4 inches and I really can not dance because I see and for me is visible and extremely ugly. And I was at the table where we all should eat and my eyes were in tears only but I did not start to cry and she said : you know what, please stop this isteria right now , my sister told me that you are gonna hurt her wedding today because you are isteric and I told her no, but now you are starting all this.. she added: you have to be happy because she will think that something is wrong and you are envious and you have to dance but try somehow to take the dress in hand or something … but I swear Im sure someone will observe and is ugly broked I really dont want to dance. She said you have to dance otherwise my sister will say that she knew it and I should stop the isteria. I did not do isteria I just had tears in eyes and said her that I dont dance now cause I feel ashamed. And she makes me feel guilty like I am always wrong, like something is happening and I am not normal like all the people and that everytime something happens .What do you think about her behavior? For me its sad because I payed for ticket , for dress that material broke and for gifts and now she said those words? Please let me know your opinion.Thank you

Friends

My mom's sister and my grandma called me a hooker for having big boobs, apparently having big boobs means that I want to get raped. Oh I try to hide it but it's not like I can hide something that's natural

Body Dysmorphia

I am sitting quietly in my bedroom thinking about Meredith. I miss her like crazy. ￼

Depression

Dear Val,

Starting a fandom was just a you and me thing. Remember when it was just you and me? Sending posts and GIFs and pictures about the fandom back and forth? Remember when I was THE person you'd send anything related to that? Remember when you felt lost and confused and beaten up, I was there? When you felt uncomfortable in your own friend group, I was there to include you with me? Remember those times when we use to hide away in the library and talk about our favorite show and anything and everything? Remember when you offered to match icons in tumblr? Remember when we'd talk until it was late night/early next morning? When you needed me, I was there. When you texted me, I answered you as soon as possible. When me sending you tik tok videos about something made both of us talk about that thing for hours. I was your safe heaven when you were at your lowest, but what about when I was at my lowest? You forgot me the moment you found someone else, now he is your go to person, and it kills me to look at that and be okay with it, just so that I dont seem like a selfish person to you.  I see you getting closer to him and I wonder, was I just a holder? A place holder for someone better? But no matter what happens, you'll always have a place in my heart, and I'd do all the things that we did previously when we were close, in a heartbeat, cause I'm a fool when it comes to you. Being friends with you is something that I expected, but falling in love with you? It's something very surprising to me and its as sacred as anything worthy in my life. So, thats why I'm feeling like this huh? It's not because you're replacing me as a friend but it's me slowly falling in love with you when you're already so far away...... I just hope you have a great life regardless if I'm in it or not. 

Love forever and always, V

Loss

Need some freinds🙂💔

Breakup

Some time I have no feelings but some time I have an idia when we think of a person as gaad an we come to know later that he is not good but he can be trribal for us,then why is it so sad🙄😔

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