Mom cooks for you stating you have to eat on time and it looks like itβs her love language. But once you eat, she starts body shaming that you eat everything and put unnecessary wishes of different dishes.
Iβm an emotional eater and never a person who asked for specific dish. I eat whatever is there but tough to understand the quantity due lot of stress.
Iβm trying my best to change and reduce weight too but Iβm not sure when will I not be humiliated in front of everyone by my mom saying that I eat in a way that she is running out of one month groceries in a week.
This is taking a toll on my mental health and stress, anxiety, depression are funny and fancy words at my home. Iβm 59kg and height 5β1. I think I am above the supposed weight but not overweight.
What you feel or think is not going to define your position. It will be decided by what people want. You mom is trying to make you feel humiliation and work towards betterment of yours not hers. Though they way is strict but the intention is not at all bad. If you loose weight that will add to your attractiveness so if you feel bad about it, itβs fine but if you wanna stay like this and want to be accepted then you are just lazy.
Sorry for being not polite with my words.
Oh god!! I feel bad for the person who was trying to express their feelings and I pity the kids you will have or have right now. God save them. Everyone looks for encouragement from the family not humiliation. It looks like you humiliate your family in the same way and you might not be able take it if someone does the same to you. You are being rude and sorry for not being polite with my words dear. I pray for you.
Hey there. Donβt want to get into this but yes being rude is correct sometimes as it is better is say correct rather sugarcoat anything. However there is a way of being rude. Iβm rude too. My family always like to throw me out of the house as Iβm way too straight forward. You humiliate people who deserve it not who is looking for help. There is a thin line. I donβt want to you follow or understand this but being in all these situations mentioned here, just giving my 2 cents.
I think, concentrate on getting fit instead of losing weight. Iβm not asking you to eat healthy but try 80-20 or 60-40 rule. Set little milestones and please start working on yourself where others opinions doesnβt bother you. Not simple and also a long journey but give it a start.
I understand that you feel horrible that she says this to you and you feel that sheβs being mean to you. Just wanted to say that itβs okay to feel this way and your feelings are perfectly valid in this context. The best you can do is to talk about your mom about it. Regarding your weight, donβt worry. 59 Kgs isnβt much. Thoda gym and having an active life will sort that out. But pehele do whatβs needed.
That is talk to your mom about how you feel. It might be a difficult conversation but try giving it a shot. If you have already done it, then try drawing healthy boundaries and avoid interacting with her too much. Everytime she cooks and asks you to eat, tell her that you hope that she wouldnβt shame you now. Hope that helps and good luck.
Girl you got toxic mom like me!!! Like I know our mom loves us but humiliating is something our momβs had faced too!!! They think itβs normal to humiliate but itβs not! Just ignore her when she humiliates you!!