Mom cooks for you stating you have to eat on time and it looks like it’s her love language. But once you eat, she starts body shaming that you eat everything and put unnecessary wishes of different dishes.
I’m an emotional eater and never a person who asked for specific dish. I eat whatever is there but tough to understand the quantity due lot of stress.
I’m trying my best to change and reduce weight too but I’m not sure when will I not be humiliated in front of everyone by my mom saying that I eat in a way that she is running out of one month groceries in a week.
This is taking a toll on my mental health and stress, anxiety, depression are funny and fancy words at my home. I’m 59kg and height 5’1. I think I am above the supposed weight but not overweight.
What you feel or think is not going to define your position. It will be decided by what people want. You mom is trying to make you feel humiliation and work towards betterment of yours not hers. Though they way is strict but the intention is not at all bad. If you loose weight that will add to your attractiveness so if you feel bad about it, it’s fine but if you wanna stay like this and want to be accepted then you are just lazy.
Sorry for being not polite with my words.
Oh god!! I feel bad for the person who was trying to express their feelings and I pity the kids you will have or have right now. God save them. Everyone looks for encouragement from the family not humiliation. It looks like you humiliate your family in the same way and you might not be able take it if someone does the same to you. You are being rude and sorry for not being polite with my words dear. I pray for you.
Hey there. Don’t want to get into this but yes being rude is correct sometimes as it is better is say correct rather sugarcoat anything. However there is a way of being rude. I’m rude too. My family always like to throw me out of the house as I’m way too straight forward. You humiliate people who deserve it not who is looking for help. There is a thin line. I don’t want to you follow or understand this but being in all these situations mentioned here, just giving my 2 cents.
I think, concentrate on getting fit instead of losing weight. I’m not asking you to eat healthy but try 80-20 or 60-40 rule. Set little milestones and please start working on yourself where others opinions doesn’t bother you. Not simple and also a long journey but give it a start.
I understand that you feel horrible that she says this to you and you feel that she’s being mean to you. Just wanted to say that it’s okay to feel this way and your feelings are perfectly valid in this context. The best you can do is to talk about your mom about it. Regarding your weight, don’t worry. 59 Kgs isn’t much. Thoda gym and having an active life will sort that out. But pehele do what’s needed.
That is talk to your mom about how you feel. It might be a difficult conversation but try giving it a shot. If you have already done it, then try drawing healthy boundaries and avoid interacting with her too much. Everytime she cooks and asks you to eat, tell her that you hope that she wouldn’t shame you now. Hope that helps and good luck.
Girl you got toxic mom like me!!! Like I know our mom loves us but humiliating is something our mom’s had faced too!!! They think it’s normal to humiliate but it’s not! Just ignore her when she humiliates you!!