Missing my ex. Seems like heβs doing very very good. And Iβm in the dumps. Physical ailments, mentally not good, socially isolated. I gave him too much power over me and now Iβm lost. Completely destroyed. Itβs been 3 yrs. Still I am not doing good so please donβt tell me time heals. I gave my all, I was all in but I really donβt know how to half love someone. I have been punishing myself and facing its consequences. I wanna run back to him cz I feel lost and he was my comfort. My logical side knows itβs not what it is but my emotions canβt catch up. Iβm torn between the extremes. I need help. Itβs starting to feel like Iβm the loser and he wins despite harassing me and troubling me alott. The villian is winning and Iβm just doomed.
It has been so long and you still miss him. There is nothing hing wrong in this but all he wanted was th seperation from youβ¦ let him be happy. I know it is hard for you, but you should let someone in your lifeβ¦ it will give you a bit relax when someone will try to make you feel specialβ¦
Actually I had to let him go he wanted to stay but as he did some things which cannot be overlooked I had to break up and tbh Iβm seeing someone and I do love that guy but uk we are not that serious and busy with our lives so it just is a lil complicated I guess. And the thoughts of my ex really donβt allow me to take it ahead
I understand. I donβt know what happened between you. But if he did wrong and wanted to stay, then he realised and you were just forced to take the action of letting him go. Sometimes, letting go is not an option β¦
But uk i gave him 1000 chances. He did things like harassment, breaking my phone, divulging my secrets in anger, threatening me and forcing me to stay. He said sorry and begged but did those things again when things didnβt go his wayβ¦so uk i donβt think holding on was the right thing to do. I had to let him go knowing that he was the love of my life.
I know girl. You know the person we love hurts us alot. And same you got.yoi accepted all his flaws⦠his bad things⦠and now after times, you are missing him because of the moments you both created⦠and what is pulling towards him is not him, it is your feelings of happiness, and memories and the attachments you both had. Now there is no going back. So you must focus on someone else⦠things will not be same but I assure you that things will be far better than previous.
I get what ur saying is true. But my heart doesnβt believe it. It feels Iβm never gonna have that feeling of happiness that kinda love ever again. Iβm just gonna be heartbroken all my life. I donβt want anyone else I wanted him and i really gave my all to make it work. Now I donβt know anything anymore.
I get you girl. But you canβt get him backβ¦ and just try to be friends with people. And someone who will like you and make you happy will be th person you will need in your life. Ant you are right you canβt get those feelings back but you can develop the bond of life which will last long with someone. It is what you require nowβ¦
Itβs like i can get him back. Heβs just one text away and thatβs what is making it very difficult uk. Cz my mind knows itβs not healthy for you but my emotions want to go back my heart is longing for love for comfort and the embrace. So I said Iβm torn between the extremes. And the fact that Iβm making this choice of staying away from him just makes it worse. It wud be different if he chested or broke up himself or it was mutual. Here Iβm accountable for breaking for taking his love of his life away from him and also mine. So my heart and brain are at war. Beating each other up. Debating as to why theyβre right. And I canβt have it anymore
Well listen to your heart now. as per my opinion it is now matter of yoir heart. so do what it says. Mind will tell you about benefits and heart will tell your happiness⦠just call him once. Things will be different but yoir peace will be with you after this.
I call him n what? What do I say??? No yrr itβs not that simple. Iβm seeing someone. And he might too. I donβt think itβs the right thing to do even if Iβm craving to do it
There is nothing wrong in that⦠just a simple HI will work girl⦠just say hi how are you⦠that enough to get a start⦠once you started with this and now again start with this⦠believe me nothing will happen he will reply you and start to talk.
Wonβt it be cheating with the one Iβm seeing
This is not cheatingβ¦ he might not have same bind which he had with you. So there is nothing wrong. Just say hi how are youβ¦ it has been long since we talked. Common talks and then you will soon get your answerβ¦ talking is not cheating at allβ¦ so go and talk yr. If anything happens, i am here to listen to youβ¦ just do it. π
I donβt think itβs right thing to doπππek kaam kro tum text krlo yarr meko as bhejna
Mera bandi hoti tohe kar bhi chuka hota πππ in fact mene Kiya bhi hai πππ€£π€£ 4 saal baad textβ¦ lekin uski shadi ho gayiπ€£π€£π€£π€£
Ye dekhoππππ kya yarr nhi kr sakti text m, jeher kha leti hu usse achha
Ajeeb ladki ho yrβ¦ Agar mere paas tumhara phone hota toh me hi kr detaβ¦ if i was your friend thenβ¦ Ek text nahi kiya jaa rha yrβ¦ kya yaar tum bhiβ¦ self respect ko maaro goli kon sa upar lekr jaaogeβ¦ kar do ek textβ¦ mzaa aayega. Strange feelings aayegiπππ
ππtum bas maze lene aye ho yaha. Achhi advice nhi h ye. Self respect hi jyada imp hoti h ππ aur m nhi cheat kr sakti yrr
Kasam se yarβ¦ tum ho badi choosyβ¦ dikh gya mujhe yeπππ ek hi life milk hai usme bhi cheat self respect flana flana daal kar khraab kar rhe hoβ¦ Kabhi is baat dil ki sun lo last dimag ki sun li thi naβ¦ result dekh liyaβ¦ ab dil ki sun kar kuchh achha kar loβ¦ πππ
Abeyy yarr Dil ki suni thi isliye toh itna suffer Kiya itne threatening aur harassment jhele chances de deke us chapadganju ko ab life atleast shant to h. Koi mere ko dhamki toh nhi dera na. Aur tumko chalega kya koi tumhe cheat kre m kyu us bichare achhe ladke ko cheat kru for someone jisne mera jeena haram kr diya
Thik hai madam jiβ¦ aap jesa chal rha hai wesa hi chlaa lijiye fir πππ or baat sahi hai apki. But baat karne me koi cheating nahi hoti me toh abhi bhi yahi kahungaππππ
π₯²π₯²π₯²thik h
Koi dikkat pade toh yaad kar lena yahiβ¦ ese hi aur bhi suggestion ke liyeβ¦ π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£ jo ki tum nahi loge dobara mujhseππππ
πππ suggestions ki tumko jarurat h bhaiπmeko cheat krne ka suggestion de rahe ho
Are yarβ¦ tum bhi naβ¦ Cheat nahi hota ismeβ¦ baat karne se cheating hone lagi toh fir ho gya kaamβ¦ i said baat kar loβ¦ lekin nahi tum nahi karoge baat cheating hogiπ€£π€£π€£ topper the kya class me ππππ
Nahiπ baat krne se cheating nhi hoti but ex k sath baat krne se cheating hoti h
Meri baat maan lo madamβ¦ ex se baat karna cheating nahi hotiβ¦ ex ek esa insaan hai jo sab jaante huye bhi aaj stranger haiβ¦ to stranger se baat me cheating thodi haiπππ or mujhe fayda isse ye dekhoβ¦ me toh chahta hu aap bus apne mann ki kar loβ¦ thoda sa khush ho jaao dil dhadka lo thoda apna fir se. ππ
πππ youβre that bad influence friend. But achha h ye negative psychology kaam arhi h. The more ur telling me to text the more Iβm getting convinced that I shudnt. Kaafi tedhi hu jo krne ko bologe woh nhi krungiππ
Haa toh isi me haiβ¦ jab koi na maane or use mnaaye apni baatπ€£π€£π€£π€£ lekin ziddi bahoot ho tum yrβ¦
Ziddi toh hu yrr π
Jyada hi hoπ€£π€£π€£π€£ akele ho tum jo meri baat nahi maan rheβ¦π€£π€£π€£ mzaa aayaβ¦ππ
ππππaisa galat advice kaise Maan lu yarrπ₯²π₯²ex ko text krne ko kon kehta h bhai.
I know sab bolenge kat karoβ¦ Yeβ¦ woβ¦ flana flana. But me dil jodne ki sochta huπππ tod to duniya wese bhi deti haiππππ
Galat logo se dil nhi jodna chahiye. Duniya jaise dikhti waise nhi hoti na. Itβs like you shouldnβt drink poison just because ur thirsty.
Aur tum bada bolre mujhe poison peene koπ₯²π₯² kya Khushi milegi tumko mereko maar k Haan? Kahin mere ex toh nhi tumππ
π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£ are nahi me tumhara ex nahi huβ¦ thik hai ab tumhare liye me tumhe usse baat karne ko nahi kahungaβ¦ππππ isse tumhe jyada shanti milegiπ€£π€£π€£π€£
Shukriya π₯²π₯²π₯²
Jaao anonymousβ¦ Jee lo apni zindgiβ¦ khush rahoβ¦ maze karoβ¦ Ab mat kehna tum khush nahi ho ππππ wrna majbooran mujhe suggest karna pdega tumheπ€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£
Nhi tumhare suggestions bade khtarnakk h, m nhi bilkul riks lungi re babaππ
Dekh lo bahoot kak log milenge tumhe mere jese jo tumhare baare me jyada sochengeβ¦π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£ lekin itna bura suggestion nahi thaπ€£π€£π€£
Trust me, bhot bura thaπ
π₯²π₯²π₯²π₯² Gazab bejjati haiβ¦π₯²π₯²
Mat do aise suggestions, poison peene keππ
Thik hai mamβ¦ jesa aap kahoβ¦ zehar nahi pine denge tumhe abβ¦ chai pilayenge ππ
Ye hui na baatππ but thank you so much it was relieving talking to you, made me laughβ€οΈπuk sense of humour hi Satya h iss duniya ka baki sab moh maya h
So you think ki mera sense of humour achha haiπ€£π€£π€£π€£ well i liked to talk to youβ¦ ππππ
Hahahah yes it was pleasure talking to you π
Thanks for your timeβ¦ you are a nice person and genuine as wellβ¦ keep this behaviour always girl. πππ Good luck for you future and wish you will always be happy ππππ
Thanks alott for reaching out and helping me! Wanted to talk about it and it helped alott. All the best to you too! Stay happy and blessed always π₯°
Heloo
Hii⦠how are you???
Not goodπ₯²π₯²still craving to text him
Toh kar do firβ¦ sochna kesa. Ek baar try kar lo yrβ¦ mann hai tohβ¦ socho mat HI ka msg drop kar do useβ¦
Fir meko pehle breakup krna padega Jo abhi h usseπ₯²π₯²ya fir usko batana padega ki maine text Kiya uskoπ₯²π₯²
Meko lagta m barbaad ho chuki hu 3 saal hogye yarrr! Bachpan m devdas meko hutiya laga tha ab lgra m khud sach m devdas ban gyi huπ₯²π₯²π₯²
Yrβ¦ tumhari dikkat ye hai ki tum extra soch rhe hoβ¦ kabhi kabhi khud ke liye humko kuchh esa karna padta hai jo kisi ko btaya nahi jaa sktaβ¦ so tum bhi kar doβ¦ kuchh to secrets rakho yar life meβ¦ kal ko ese hi mar jaaoge toh mzaa nahi aayegaπππππ
Yarrπ₯Ίππbilkul achha nhi lgra hai meko aur text krne k baad aur bhi bura lgega, usko pata h Iβm seeing someone kya kru fir text karke woh meri hi hatai krega yrr. Maine apni self respect ka gala ghot diya h idhr tumko hasi Ariπ₯²π₯² main Aisa aadmi ko kaise crave kr sakti jisne meko suicidal bana diya tha yrr
Connect krte hai yarβ¦ waha discuss karte h. real Id se comment kr do. Then letβs talk in private agar tumhe trust ho mujhpeβ¦
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I understand what you are going through. Iβm currently navigating those emotions myself. I hope youβll find that one person or thing in life that really makes you happy. I know itβs hard but believe in yourself.
Tbh I have no hope. I am tired. I need comfort and itβs him. I have been fighting this alone since three years and I think Iβm running out of strength. Itβs killing me.
I get what you mean. Sometimes itβs easier to just think about going back but always remember you left for a reason. The good memories outway the negative ones but trust that youβll feel comfortable again.
Itβs been 3yrsπ₯²π₯² I donβt think itβs working for me. I feel deserted lost stuck and everything bad.
Heartbreak almost feels like youβve broken yourself and youβll never pick up the pieces. You could write some things down about what you liked about him, and try to find those qualities in someone else. Just a thought.
Itβs been 3 yrs. I could publish a book soo much I have written. Did everything I could journaling distractions even seeing someone. All in vain. My feelings for him are still rock solid
Hey, listen ik its the worst feeling i just felt the exact same way when my gf broked up with me and i still feel the same as you are feeling. Ik time doesnβt heal anything it just gives us the power to bear that pain.
Im its hard very hard for u to go through that phase. And these are some topics which u cant even share with everyone.
I am also a victim of these thoughts ik how much it hurts and how it feels. But you just need to accept that he was not worth it.
And one more thing i am a believer of god and read this quote somewhere - god heard what u didnβt heard.
I understand all that still I crave him. Even though he was hella toxic still wanna go back to him text him n ask him to take care of me. Cz I canβt do it anymore
Listen i also want to text my gf to take care of me. I am also fed up of everything but if god removed them from our lifes then there has to be a reason for it.
My gf was my happiness my rsn to smile my everything.
I loved her more than anything. I loved her more than my family. Each n every second i used to think about her. Her happiness. She was the person i want to get married for the rest of my life. N at this point i am so fed up of her becoz what she did to me was not at all expected from her.
π₯²π₯²I totally get you yarrβ¦what happened between you guys?
Damn that was so pure. You formed the emotions that I had in my mind. I can tell you really cared for her.
Yes i really did more than anything in this world. I was ready to do anything for her. Idk will i be able to love anyone else like her becoz the way i loved her and the way she broked meβ¦
Dont want to share at this platform.
If we will chat personally then i will.
Btw whats ur age may i ask?
Iβm 23, you?
22. Lets talk over on any other platform. A little bit more private? If u likeβ¦
Share your id
Which one ?
Michael @mmerlihan
Like the ID on the app
I replied with the platform but they put it under review. Share your id of the most common social media platformπ guess it now
goodboy @kartikmangal
Oh ok got it
goodboy @kartikmangal
I am the on who asked ur age
Two people replied. Which one is which Iβm confused now
Michael @mmerlihan
Not me, Iβm the one who was talking earlier.
Yeah me too
Hey you gone?
Hey dude, sorry for how you are feeling , but you just canβt make someone fall for you , I know itβs sad but what isnβt, right?
I think the problem here seems to be the acceptanceβ¦I think acceptance is the most crucial thing , if you accept the fact that he is not with you instead of imagining that he should be here, I know you will be fine , u r a warrior.
And remember itβs OK to feel sad
Yeah the reality is too harsh for me to accept, itβs like i need him. More than anything rn. Iβm literally craving for his one text one call one comfort
Thatβs where you are making yourself suffer, trust Iβve been there.
You can fall in a deep pit if you donβt accept your life as it is going.
If you have tried everything in your power then itβs OKβ¦its ok if you dont win every fightβ¦just spend more time with your family, there is no way that man could have loved you like your family wouldβ¦
Just accept yourself , accept the fact and trust me you will be really fine
Well he did loved me goodπ₯²π₯² come from a toxic household so not really emotionally close to anyone. Thatβs why Iβm suffering he really gave me a place which no one else gave but like it came with conditions it was all good as long as things went his way
Does he wanna come back to you??
Yea
Aditya @hoosierdaddy
Then where is the problem?? You also want him, he also wants to come back to you
He was toxic
Aditya @hoosierdaddy
Then he doesnβt deserve all this β¦you shouldnβt degrade your health for a guy like that
My heart doesnβt understand that
I know making your own heart understand something is the most difficult thing, but life is the definition of a series of complex and difficult things, right??
And people can overcome it, and when I say this I am saying truth
Trust me I ve been through all thisβ¦and how got out of I was through accepting the factsβ¦and focusing on myself
Iβm. Focusing on myself but just becoming bitter why heβs doing better than me and why am I suffering when it shud be reverse. Why good people suffer
Always just think about it this way
Can you do something about it, if you can then do it
If you canβt, then just accept the fact that you canβt and you have done everything in your power.
Iβm telling you again and again acceptance is the biggest thing and the best thing
Yes i think this helped. Youβre right cannot change which is out of control I shud focus on what I can. I was just being a baby i guess whining but just sometimes u get tired of being strong and alone for too long. Needed some comfort some comforting words. Thanks. And uk itβs like not really close to anyone to talk about it or feels anyone wud understand cz my friends know what he did so uk they kinda ridicule me for missing him and theyβre right abt that but just sometimes u need someone to see it from ur perspective na. Like ik he did bad things but isnβt everyone bad? Everybody messes up doesnβt mean we just stop loving them right. But its also important that I love myself more than I love him but that doesnβt come easy to me. Always been loyal to other even at the cost of losing myself
Aditya @hoosierdaddy
You are so strong ,
U know I heard somewhere " you can love someone and still you can let them go"
And that is the bravest thing one can do
And I am soo proud of you β¦and obviously of you ever need to talk Iβm here
Yes that is true. Itβs really the toughest thing to do, to walk away from your love your happiness. Thank you soo much, Iβll reach out. Thank you for reaching out and taking out time to help
Aditya @hoosierdaddy
Obviously
Take care πΈ