me and boyfriend were in a relationship fr almost 5 years everything was almost going smooth the mistakes i did being in the relationship were easily forgiven by my boyfriend after we had arguments i apologized and he forgave and acted or make me feel like its really okay. After 4 years we decided to get in physical relationship and just after 3 months being physically involved he acted unusual he want break from me he used to say we will be good friends and he want to focus on his career and he said he doesnât forget and forgive my mistakes which i have done before which was forgiven by him at that time and at that time.I was already having insecurities about us because of his unusual behavior like ignoring,avoiding not replying nicely and than he broke up with me. He was in contact with me but he was not understanding my insecurities he called me toxic for arguing and questioning him,I was feeling devastated, cheated, failed at the same time it was feelings as heavy as mountains.I was upset and depressed and angry with him and because of all this mixed feelings i did a mistake i kissed a boy who was my friend on his cheek which was out of revenge i really donât feel anything for him and just after few months my boyfriend patchup with me. I hide this incident because of two reasons firstly i donât want to lose him again and secondly he will be hurt.Our relationship was going smooth after pat hup everything was going normal but this December he get to know about this incident i apologized to him several times and tried many time to make him understand my situation but he was hurt and he brokeup. I really want to know canât i be forgiven and givwn a second chance ?
First thing is that mark my words
Usually a guy gets bored after being physics Al and so on he gets bored, he donât love you , If he had loved you truly then you wouldnât have thought of any such thing
You did those things as he made you feel bad and unwanted, so I personally feel he isnât attached with you, he is just with you for benefits
Reply fast as am very sleepy,
I am sleepy too and so tired of all this but canât have a proper sleep because of the stress i usually wake up after every 1 or 1.5 hours alternative
Same here with me, I have to wake up early but still am not able to sleep
A person came into my life, and all of a sudden that person changed and kicked me and made me feel like I never existed, anyways I am sorry for sharing my pain
Sometimes it feels so heavy that we donât have the ability to carry it forward but yet have to carry it for our closed ones because no one cares what we feel what we are going through not even our parents
Seems like you are feeling lonely and dealing with alot all alone⌠am I guessing it right?
Yes relationship problem,career problem,family issues and mostly importantly the thoughts of how to solve all this prblms are eating me up day by day i canât able prioritize anything i am feeling devastated,complicated and extremely stressed right now
I can probably help you by helping you best solution or by motivating you enough to handle these things⌠you can ping me and share these problems in detail so that I can help you a little better⌠P.s donât misunderstand or judge me
Donât feel sorry everything will be fine
I am very much negative now , I feel I am not made for love and I should live alone ,but there come a point when I need someone by my side
But after that he patchup with me and loved me wholeheartedly and secures me but yes it was after doing all those things he didnât do it when i was needed he did when he wants too
Oh you mean he acted being good and then in return he went physics with you
Do you want to talk about your pain?
No we both were willing to be in physical and i was the one who take the initial step towards physical relationship i am not creating my boyfriend as a villian or a bad person maybe he was in need of a break but i was not mentally prepared because at that time i want to be the most pampered person by my boyfriend wants his all attention love care
Whatâs bad in wanting to be pampered, if you are dating someone you deserve everything
Whatâs the current situation now?
The question is wrong in your post⌠he was the one who lost interest in you, so question should be if I did a mistake by giving second chance to him, the answer is yes
He blocked me from everything except Snapchat on my request
Itâs very complicated
Right now am also in a bad phase, and mainly breakup, so I also wanted to talk thatâs why I am here in this platform
I want to know everything
Obviously i am in need because after hearing this incident all my friends detach themselves from me every single frnd even my best friend thinks i am cheater
Itâs like his heart wants to forgive me an give me a chance buf his mind Donât and i Donât think itâs wrong because i was the one who hurt him and secondly i believes every person has their own perspective so if i am thinking ki i can forgive him if he do so than he can also forgive that will wrong right ?
Same here I want to talk to someone too, letâs talk if you donât mind⌠and letâs talk personally not here, as am not getting notification now
We should talk a little bit deepz so that I can understand it better, I didnât get this question well
Like on any other platform⌠As I have alot to share and I canât type everything here in text, I would prefer sharing through voice notes
Mtlb itâs like he is having a battle between between his heart and mind
If you are not busy and free to talk then we should talk , and hopefully I will try my best to make you feel better so that you can sleep well
Never ever , I have faced a similar situation and I think differently. You are overthinking and defending him indirectly⌠try to see things clear as it will give a clarity
I canât share my personal details openly here we can talk here this platform is made for talking about our prblm
How?
I understand and respect your choice, I respect you and also I want to make it clear that am not asking personal details, we can find a medium where everything will be safe, your personal details and everything⌠how about tahcpans , or margelet ( read it reverse)
Right now he is the victim not me i had hurt him he is the one who is hurt he trusts me and i had promised him that even after he left me i will never approach other boys but i did and that is why he is hurt
Can i ask if you are a maleor female?
Itâs your emotional behaviour that is making you doubt yourself but the reality is different
I donât know i just want something which makes me feel safe and secure and gives me a hope that my relationship will definitely work and he will forgive me because i canât imagine my life without him he is very precious to me
Again your emotions are overlapping the reality⌠anyways can you install a ap li cation so that we can talk more freely, it wonât reveal anything
Are you a elam ke elamef ( read reverse)
Does it matter?
Merely its not but i Donât want to get personally involved if you are not okay its fine you donât have to and secondly i think i get my answer
I already mentioned that I have an another way where you donât have to share anything, it will be like this platform, you will be totally anonymous⌠the only difference will be that I will send voice notes there
The platforms you are suggesting are not anonymous
Are anonymous *
I havenât suggested yet, the name is wafa
The platform name is wafa
Ehy you requested
He broke up and block me from everywhere but on my request he kept me unblock from SnapchatâŚdo you guys see any chances there that he will come back?
You should not chase him
See i seriously donât want to talk to personally we can talk openly here
Am not getting any notification and also while scrolling down the comments are freezing
Itâs ok, I wonât ask again, and I already asked in good way so leave it,
And i had replied in a good way as well
I think you are sleepy, good night
Hey is all good now? Do u need someone to share ur pain and talks?
Yes i want to i am feeling devastated and comfused and much more complicated
Second chance to mil jayega lekin jo second chance apko dega usse ap pr bharosa to hona chahiye na
Barosa maine thoda hai tkh muhje hi kuch krke barosa dilana padega atleast a little effort which secures himm
Toh ap wo effort kr rahe ho lekin agar aap ne unka bharosa tora hai tab wo dubara believe nahi kr payenge agar ap unke jagah hote to kya ap unhe second chance dete
Haa deti kyuki uss time hum dono hi normal situation me nhi the or na hi hamera relationship tha and uss doran agr usko bhi aaisa insecurities hoti or main deal nhi kr pati or usse hota toh main definitely chance deti haa main barosa pura nhi krti uspe woh rebuild krne ka kaam uska hota
Last wala line jo aap ne kaha wahi ho raha hai apke saath abhi
Yes that is my situation right now
Toh Apko lagta hai wo purana trust wapas wo kar payega aur agar kr bhi diya to usse wo baat strike karega
Purana kuch nhi sab kuch naye sire se ussi person ke start krna h jab hum apma purana ghr chorte kyuki usme hume dikkt ho rhi thi tab kya ghr ke sath sath ghr walo ko bhi chorte h,nhi na?
Hum bas makan chorte h or nayr ghr me sath reh rhte h or ussi ko sajate h sawarte h sudharte pr ussi me rehte hai ,like wise relationship me bhi yhi hona chahiye
Lekin agar wahi koi ghar wala dikkat dega to ap naye ghar mai bhi jaoge to wo dikkat hoga hi
You shouldnât be forgiven, you say got cheated on but the fact is you are the one who is a cheater
How? We were not together at that and most importantly i used to beg him for understanding me help me to come out the situation i was facing i was having my boards at that time do you think handling all this stuff during your exams are easy ?
I am not blaming every person has their own thought and this is yours,itâs completely okay but you are judging me on the basis of th mistake i did not the situation i was facing, a thief doesnât become a thief from his birth his situation made him to do so, i was also in that kind of dilemma i was struggling from a lot of things and i did a mistake i had apologized several times,i am also a human we made mistake and we learn from it
A person becomes a âthiefâ by their own choice - they do not have enough wisdom to tackle the situation. There always exist a way thatâs not wrong.
You said you had your boards, shouldnât you be focusing on your boards rather than any other thing? Should the board supposed to be your priority? But what you did??
You are putting your time and efforts on unnecessary things. If you have enough wisdom then youâd understand this harsh tone and criticism, if not good luck!
