Married with the love of my life expecting life to be very beautiful like any other gal. But life always has its surprises… Mamma’s boy, unaware that he’s bound by the invisible boundary drawn by his mom has no time to realise that the love in our life is fading… I’m stuck in this, where MIL has more time to barge inside our room, always expecting us to sit in front of her eyes, always do entire chores at home despite the fact that there is a maid (I’m supposed to be the unpaid maid for the hired maid), take 1000 permissions to meet my parents, if I fall sick I get to hear, “LEAVE YOUR WORK AND STAY AT HOME, HOUSE IS NOT RUNNING ON YOUR MONEY”, if I don’t say I’m not keeping well, I get to do all donkey’s work… Why MILs become so cruel towards a daughter in law? When their daughter comes home and stay for weeks together, to get rid of her MIL the same MIL is so happy, but when I need to go to my parents house there are so many reasons to stop me…So called husband just listens to my cry and does nothing, because the mother shuts his mouth…Such a misery😞 Do I really need this life?
How long have you been married
5 months
Ohh still your husband doesn’t take your side… that’s absurd
Bhavna P. @bhavna_pande
I’m truly sorry to hear about the challenges you’re facing in your marital life. It sounds incredibly tough, and your feelings are valid. It’s disheartening when expectations and boundaries become sources of conflict, impacting your well-being.
Navigating complex family dynamics requires sensitivity and understanding. I appreciate your courage in sharing your experience.
Engaging in open communication with your husband, expressing your feelings, needs, and concerns is essential.
Taking small yet practical steps on the family front is crucial. When our boundaries are gullible, it becomes easier for people to overstep. Consider discussing and establishing clear expectations and limits.
If you ever feel the need, professional counseling can be an option, but it’s important to explore it at your own pace. Your well-being is important, and I hope you find the strength to make choices that contribute to your happiness.
Wishing you resilience
Take care,
Bhavna Pande
Counseling Psychologist
Make it realise your husband that your are the sole companion till his death, may be your MIL will leave him in few years…how ever ask him to give you good memories which can be cherished in your old age…tell him and ask what and how you want your partner to be with you…
I have always discussed with him, sometimes very calm, many times cried and few other times fought with him to make him understand. He promises to correct these things, yet nothing changes. I’m just giving more chances and time is passing, but nothing changes
kumar datta @energetic_nes...
Talk to your MIL. Start conversation with her, take care and love her. No women on this planet will be so rude when u take care of her. Treat her as your mom( not being tooo friendly with like our mom) and do this for a week and she will surely open up to you… say her that u love his son a lot and you never want to split them. She will understand no problem… just try this
I appreciate your suggestion… But do you think I would have not tried this before opening up with so many unknown people?
kumar datta @energetic_nes...
Try one more time. There is nothing wrong in it. Dont think them as strangers if u think like that what ever you do will make nothing sense to thsm. So just be natural and do
