Like how should I start …I had been married since 2 years …n since they I had been diagnosed with pcos …I had severe insomnia , depression and lot more anxiety and all …I don’t know why …but I always feel alone and broke …I think he doesn’t care enough for me …he never likes to spend time with me … …he likes to hangout with his friends…but I love him alot…n its hurting me …it’s worsening my situation …n I have to live with my mother in law …know she never liked me from the start …she doesn’t want me to get married to him …as I m still a lot young…n still studying …and I have never felt like being at home there …is always tough for me …even if I try my best …she would always say something to make me feel that I m wrong …n my husband doesn’t care about …as he’s always busy with his friends n work. …I don’t want see her face anymore …both my husband n mother in law …would go out when ever they want to …but not allowed to go out …he never took me out since our marriage …it’s exhausting for meh …I can’t figure out what I can do. … it feels like hell to be there …n I can’t even see any other face other than both of them …I feel like I had been locked to something …I too want to go out … n I want to go out with my husband and all …
Tho I’m just a teen, i dont realy know the truth but just hear me out…try doing this, try seeing things from your husband’s prospective as we’ll as your mother in law’s prospective .like see from them to you. I mean see from their prospective to you .think like you are the husband alright and see what you expect ,what you think
and all. from your wife,
now then think yourself as mother in law and then see what you expect /think and all from your sons wife (idk what to call) and then by do things accordingly it will give them happiness because it will fullfill thier expectations, thier beliefs and all. Idk what I’ve said is correct , why dont you try this thing out to check it yourself. If its working… And also relax , calm down, and then think. , ✌
Thanks for your concern …I try it out…but I also thought about that earlier …but it doesn’t matter anymore …cos …I struggle in lot things …like it’s not easy to maintain my studies n Marital life at the same time …but I have always been doing my best in everything …n my pcos freaks me out … N they really don’t give a fuck about. …how much effort I put on to make them happy …but it turns out that …all my efforts are in vein …😭🥺
Thinking (Things you have done are in vein) its not actually true you know. You did put effort rght after putting in effort and doing things nothing has changed right. (Its not true) now you know that doing those things which you have done is not the things that make them happy . . Just an example how the blub was made, it was on 1000th try he literally failed 999th times you know what he said about those 999th time failed. He said those 999th time i ve learned or got to know that the buld is not made by doing those 999th things. .
okay idk if its the right thing to say. ur husband seems like an asshole… im sorry. hes fuckn neglecting u ur his wife hes supposed to spend tym with u make sure u r ok n support u especially when u hv depression insomnia etc. He doesnt seem like a good husband. Pls never gv up on ur studies maybe tell him u need to stay with ur parents fr a while n take time fr urself. u seem to b in a very very toxic environment. ik it does’nt seem practical but u really need to get outta there and rethink ur marriage. they have no right to keep u in. if its really bad then run away to ur parents call em up n ask for their hekp. pls u need to get outta there in rethink ur marriage
Yes… He never supported me…nor encouraged me…he always says things were too easy for me n I m the one who complicating things …he thinks I m happy at his place …which doesn’t even feel like a home ( never had such warm and affection at his house) …I have been with parents since I had exams …I was doing good here …away from him …but he cals me everyday and speaks like nothing had happened …I had a rage of fire in me building up since the marriage …I had huge fight with him n his mom the last day I spent there ( before coming to my hometown ) …my family always had my back …but I couldn’t say them the situation which I had there …and husband aslo didn’t spoke a word about the situation we had … and he came to home like nothing happened and gone… I really don’t know what should I do …?
please talk to your parents. Hes neglecting the problem. I think u should rethink he doesnt seem like the right guy dear im sorry to say this. But he isnt doing anythn a gud husband shud do.
Dear,
You are special 🌟
Firstly, I want you to take charge of your life. You need to tell your husband that you want to learn and work (If you are interested) and you need to voiceout outloud and firmly.
I feel you have given control of your life to your husband and your MIL. They have started to take you for granted. You need to be the one who was 2 years back, the one your husband was trying to Marry.
I know you are confident lady, who have own brain. You need to be independent and they should know your important. Don’t be needy.
I’m sure things will be back to track.
Need help I’m here for more.
Hey …thanks for making me feel better … I m still persuing degree ( undergraduate ) …I have been studying 5 year law degree …which feels like it’s gonna take a whole life time …( Lol I m gud at studies …n after inter I took law degree it’s my 4 th year now ) I sure that I will work …n get away on my own …n it takes time a lot of time …n I don’t want to be back in their house. …it feels like I had been locked their without a key …I can do wat I want …but only in my room I can’t even see the faces in neighborhood ( I only know 3 of the people who visits our house regularly) …it’s been 2 years already …my husband didn’t even take me out atleast once in this 2 years … I had no one to talk n share how I felt …I only had few friends ( I do share a lot of things with them but they can’t be available sometimes ) …
You are in path of growth dear, you have felt it and you are doing your best to study and be vocal for what you feel. Share with your husband and you try to go out on your own either alone or with friends. If he sees that he will feel like accompanying I’m sure. Start with going on daily evening wake, going to malls…etc.
You focus on your growth ( study and fitness). I’m sure things with change. It need time.
Hey sweetheart, I feel for you. I have been through something very similar. It took me a lot of time to come to terms with the situation and I wish the best for you. From one hurt woman to another, all I can tell you is make yourself priority. I know it seems impossible and easier said than done but that’s the crux of it all. Go out if you want to go out. If your husband is more interested in his friends then plan something with your friends. Once he sees how much fun u r having on ur own, he might get more interested in u. Sadly it’s true for most ppl that the more you ignore them the more they find you interesting. So instead of depending on him for ur happiness, cultivate ur own with the ppl who appreciate u. As for your MIL, nothing you do will please her if she doesn’t want to be pleased, so leave her be. You do your own thing, irrespective of what others think. You can’t change what PPL think of you, so y bother. Once you start being happy, ur anxiety and pcos will be easier to deal with. Not bcoz their severity has lessened but bcoz u hv become stronger, happier. I know it’s very difficult to put in action. It took me 4 years. So don’t expect instant results, things might get worse before they get better. Just keep in mind that no one is more important than ur peace of mind, not ur husband and definitely not ur MIL.
Thanks for being kind to me …I m 18 when I got married ( I m 20 now ) …and i had never gone out alone in all my life ( as I bought up by my strict household ) and I had no friends there in his hometown …n never been out to make some friends …I really don’t know wat should have fun with … But I really want friends 🥺…whom I could share things …and can have fun with …n he’s not a type of person who can be change easily … But for sure I m gonna prioritise me in the first place …and yes I can’t control what they think of me … I try to be happy as much as I can and I ll too hard to get over my anxiety and stuff …thanks a lot for ur kind words 💜💜
In a world where you can be anything, try to be kind!!
I don’t who said it but it’s golden. You be kind to yourself and others. Take care!!
