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Life is complicated!

I am 31 years and mom of 2 kids and married since 10 years. But me and my husband have never been happy together and we fight often . He never trusts me ,in one word I am not myself after marriage and whatever I talk is wrong to him and ter is no understanding between us. His family also blames me and supports my sil andy husband evn the mistake is on my husband’s side… They like my kids and my husband and they totally hate me… But i always feel disappointed because I trust people a lot and finally get disappointments. I actually want to leave my husband because I hate him ,but can’t leave him because of kids… Sometimes we ll be happy and again we ll fight…this is only happening regularly… Above all he never supports me and never opens his mouth in front of his dad.I hate life. I thought money is enough for life but feeling irritated to be trapped in this relationship…Help me please

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Anonymous

I don’t want to involve in this thing because I don’t know anything about marriage. But as the last person said u both need to understand each other.
It’s been beautiful 10 years for you both. If there is love there will be fight. Fighting is not bad but don’t do it too often it will effect you both by health wise. As per me marriage is a beautiful commitment for both him and her. Just start talking to him slowly don’t rush otherwise he will suspect anything else talk about your beautiful marriage. First day of your baby walking etc. Everything will workout stay strong stay healthy God loves you

Anonymous

there was a tagline of airtel and it was amazing.
baat krne se hi baat banti h.
whatever happened cant be changed but try to talk to him about this calmly and lovingly when you both be happy.
and this learning about money,save this learning to teach your children so that they dont get trapped into this sort of situation.

Anonymous

I tried all the ways to talk to him… He ll be nice fo a day and again start controlling me, blaming me , etc…

Anonymous

Moreover tat tag line won’t work for us…he infact hates me if I talk

Anonymous

a man/women is product of his/her lifetime so it would would be hard i know but is there another way!

Anonymous

you dont hate each other,you just dont understand each other and dont agree together.

Anonymous

S u r absolutely right

Anonymous

In tat case one should give up and I am sure he won’t give up…so it should be me who sacrifices all thd time…
Also I hate lies and he says too much of lies… I am straight forward and he never shares anything with me…I was a silent type before marriage and now after marriage I am totally opposite… became short tempered becas I expect the same love from him tat he gave me in the 1st year of married life …

snktmore
@snktmore

You know what is right for you but your are feeling tied down because our your kids. Getting a divorce is easy saying than being done especially too emotional when kids are involved.

If you don’t want to take the rough path the only option is to sacrifice for your kids and make yourself mentally strong. Which I strongly oppose to.

You need to find a way & good timing to talk with him and his family and discuss what is that they are holding against you. You can also seek help from marriage counsellor. Involve your parents if they can help.

This situation will only improve with healthy communication.

Anonymous

Thank u …,.s I hv to make him understand but only with a healthy communication… So I’ll work on it…thanks for this valuable advice