Last February, I started dating a guy who is amazing. I love the time that I spend with him and it’s mostly giggles and laughters. However, I was in my final year of postgrad and the pressure to get a job was high which is when I started having high level anxiety. It apparently disturbed him a lot as well and he proposed breaking up. I suggested that I can work on my mental health and fix things and I did, but now I feel that my emotional bandwidth is higher than he can cope up with. Further, he sometimes pokes me to not talk about certain things like something as random as a future possibility, or what a friend is upto etc.
I love him but I am not sure if all this is okay. What should I do?
Take your time out and think about and don’t rush for overthinking.
anuj @anujvohra
Take responsibility of your mental health and life. Decide yourself if you can work together. It always best if things are discussed and done together
Bhavna P. @bhavna_pande
Hey Sweetie,
You’re in a challenging situation, navigating the complexities of a relationship while also managing your mental health and career aspirations.
Firstly, it’s commendable that you recognized the importance of addressing your anxiety and took steps to work on your mental health. That’s a significant accomplishment, and you should be proud of the progress you’ve made.
In relationships, it’s crucial to have open and honest communication about your needs and boundaries. It’s concerning that your partner is not receptive to discussing certain topics and seems to be limiting your emotional expression. A healthy relationship should be built on mutual respect, understanding, and support.
It’s Important to reflect on whether your emotional needs are being met in this relationship. Are you feeling valued, respected, and supported by your partner? Do you feel comfortable expressing yourself authentically without fear of judgment or rejection?
Ultimately, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel heard, understood, and valued for who you are. It may be helpful to have a candid conversation with your partner about your concerns and discuss how you both can work together to improve communication and strengthen your connection.
If you find that the relationship is causing you more distress than joy, it’s okay to reassess your priorities and consider what is truly best for your well-being. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel happy, supported, and emotionally fulfilled.
If you’d like to explore these feelings further or discuss strategies for navigating this situation, I’m here to provide support and guidance.
Take care,
Counseling Psychologist Bhavna Pande
