Iโve this problem of getting attached to people easily. Under any situation itโs always me getting hurt eventually. Iโve stopped talking to people, I cry alone sometimes, I push ppl away because I think if I donโt theyโre gonna hurt me sooner or later
I wonโt say i get attached too soon but yeah i have trust issues and still end up trusting wrong people. Then i get attached to them when they donโt feel the same afterwards and yeah sometimes i end up pushing them before they leave me. I wish there was some solution to this. ๐ฅ๐ฅ
Shubham @memanticc
idk man. this is some kinda defence mechanism for me too. I promise myself everytime that this isnโt gonna happen again but somehow II always end up falling for it
Same problem i have lotโs of trust issues and i leave when they start getting attach to me ( third person)
Nancy @theweirdone
I know rightโฆ Its like either way we are gonna get hurt. But yeah we do feel less miserable when we already push them away before they do it to us.
Shubham @memanticc
but thatโs not a solution no? We canโt keep pushing everyone just bcz of our insecurity
Nancy @theweirdone
Yes you are right. We canโt. But what other options do we have.
Like in my case whenever i have let my guard down, and showed my honest emotions i ended up getting disappointed. Idk why but maybe i was ill fated enough to get all the wrong ones. They say things for fun without meaning anything.
But when we show them our vulnerabilities they get overwhelmed. Invalidate our feelings and emotions.
Not even once but many times. In those situations i get we are better off alone than being with those so called friends/lovers.
Shubham @memanticc
thatโs the question, how do you master in being alone n happy.
I mean Iโve tried everything. the only thing that seems reasonable now that Iโve to keep myself busy, so busy that I donโt even get time to think about all the negativity around but still that doesnโt seem helpful sometimes.
Hey hey are you okay.
better. ty for asking