I've been in love with my best friend for 4 years and he's in love with someone else and I feel hopeless

One Sided Love

i thought we would be okay and happy alk the time but throughout the months i am really not feelings the connection i felt w him its just so overwhelming. love isnt supposed to be this overwhelming and painful. whenever i think abt him i feel a sudden pain in my heart and i dont feel happy. its not like he doesnt love me. its just he stopped trusting me w his issues and i thiink he started to build a walla b/w us. we were so happy and i just want to be happy again with him. i may not be understandin him well or maybe i just dont wanna understand from his point of view. i dont know whats wrong w me. ill try to understand him more. kaybe we need break and time to improve individually and then work on the relationship 









 understanding him well 

Relationships

How to get ove someone who made you feel special once and now behaving like you mean nothing to them

Breakup

Things have been very hectic in my marriage.. I have been thinking about divorce for a very long time.. And me and my husband have spoken about it a lot.. But lately we have both not been mentioning it even tho things are still going the wrong way... 

So for my husband's birthday I planned a travel we have both been talking about before we got married.. I booked the flight tickets, then life happened my economy got hit before I had a chance to book the hotel.. Today I thought to myself that the best thing to do is probably to talk openly with my partner about it ( I know he was excited, I didn't wanna make him sad but communication is key right?) so I was gonna ask him if he could just lend me half the money.. I didn't even get a chance to explain myself he said "let me guess, you don't have money and now I have to pay for my own birthday travel huh? If you don't have money don't buy me gifts you can't afford, I don't need these travels and gifts you keep giving me.. Don't wanna sound ungrateful but keep your money"

I feel so hurt.. And stupid.. He never really payed a travel for me or planned a surprise for me.. And here I am going out of my way to make him happy over and over again to hear "keep your money"... I am starting to wonder if I shouldn't just go with a friend.. Cause how can I even enjoy the travel with him after what he said...

I feel like if he meant this in a nice way.. It just wasn't the way nor the moment to express this...



Marriage

Overwhelmed-Confused-Lonely

I am with someone for the past 6 months now - dating/relationship sorts and stuff. However he says we are “exclusive” and not in a relationship (basically not wanting to give his commitment) and needs time come to the commitment phase. Is 6 months not enough to not be sure of someone? He was also the one to suggest of getting together and see how things go. 

I have known this person for 2+ years now, platonically and he really  is special to me. I am just out here thinking and thinking over this, not realising how long does this have to go in for? Is he just wasting my time and is this his way of getting what he wants by keeping me all to himself without  any commitments from his side? Am i being paranoid? And stop thinking and just go with the flow. Has anyone dealt with something similar?

Anxiety

I don't know who needs to hear this but why you are stoping your life on your X. That person is not in your life now. I don't why people stop loving stop their emotions and everyone is not same. So just stop loving your X and move forward and do some self love you deserve that. I don't why people stop there life for that one person who don't even deserve them. Your X will give you a stupid reason and you will stop your life. I think everyone one has their soulmate but you have to wait for right time. First you have to love yourself and then start loving someone else. And if someone is reading this and he/she is in relationship just ask your partner you can marry me or not because I don't want after 3-4 years of relationship you are listening my parents say no. I think everyone knows their family situation. Everyone knows their parents will say yes or no for love marriage. So don't get fooled by my parents say NO please. So please ask your partner because they know the reality of their parents and I think if someone loves you he/she will be fighting from EVERYONE it does not matter his/her parents say No they will say we will fight for our relation. I was in relationship with someone and my parents caught us 3-4 times but I always choose to continue our relationship because I love him but after 4 years he blackmail me for something then I have to leave him. The reason was not my parents I loved him but he blackmailed me and blackmailing was taking my peace and no one has rights to take our peace. Please say NO to that person who is taking your peace. When you get in relationship that person is supposed to add our happiness not to be happiness. You have to create your own happiness 2nd person will increase you happiness and if that person is not doing that let him/her go. And if you love someone and that person has left you please don't stop your life there please. Don't become heartless person you are human not machine so please let flow your emotions and start loving yourself. When the time will be right the right person will come and will be giving your proper love, care, attention and everything you deserve. But if you become cold hearted then that person can not help you. Please don't be harsh on yourself for someone who don't deserve you. I think when we love someone and meet our soulmate that person reciprocate our love back. And if the person is wrong he/she will be only taking and giving us nothing. I know love happens and you can not think but just don't loose your peace for someone because our soulmate provide us peace not take ours. Sometimes it is difficult to forget our past and we know healing takes times. You can not love someone if you don't love yourself. So first love yourself and then other person. And if a person is right he/she will trying everything to be with you. Because reason are just excuse to end relationship. They don't love us. And if their are excuse then their is no love. And stop wasting your time in loving someone who don't love you. And also stop wasting your time in 4 5 6 years of relationship if they can not marry you. You are just hurting yourself. Love yourself and the right person will enter you life at the right time. 
Best of luck 😊 and give some self love and wait for the right person and don't waste your love on useless X. 

Overthinking

I had a few relations and few flings..then i had this friend of mine whom i really trusted alot n shared things for morr than a decade.He knew about everything n he never judged me through these years. I would just open up my heart to him. N then v fell in love( well for me it was love..i dont know about him anymore) . We became intimate. N then all of a sudden things went wrong between us. And everytime he used to bring up my past broken relationships. He said this not once but many times that iv slept with so many guys that i might have given him STD. Iv been in mental trauma for more than a year listening to such things over n over again. Wen i refused to have sex or send nudes he used to yell at me saying i had no problem sleeping with other guys n why m i refusing to sleep with him. I need help. How could he do this to me?? I never lied to him. He made his own decisions. How can he blame me for everything. N now he has broken up with me saying m not good enuf for him. Really?? 

Depression

I am in relationship from last 8 yrs and I am not treating good he insult me every day anywhere  and he is telling  I will not  marry u  because u r not  my type  what should I do?

Confusion

I love him. I still love him. And I love him badly. And he did too. But with time, situations complicated and drive us apart. Even though we tried our best to be together, the issues just separated us. We broke up. BUT I JUST CANT GET OVER IT. I CANT BELIEVE IT. Everything is still the same. I JUST WANT HIM BACK. I want to be with him. I want to spend every breathing second of my life with him. He is the sole purpose of my life. I want to support him. I want to help him grow into the person that he has always wanted to be. I want to be his pillar of strength. I want to wake up next to him. I am so much addicted to his love. He is the reason I try to stay alive. He is EVERYTHING. He is the only thing that makes sense now. I just want him back. I do have a lot to say but I can't just put them into words. I just love him. I want to be with him.

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