I’ve been becoming jealous of people. Idk whyyy…but it’s just happening. Example, I had a friend…we used to be on the same level, but now she’s roaming around with her bf, having better academics,she has good communication skills, so, she’s living better life than mine…
Another example, my hostel roomate, we don’t share a good bond, and she has not many talents, bt even she is having a good relationship, she’s has luck on her side, living good…
While I’m stuck in my home in this lockdown, single, having not many people I can lean on, and struggling to get my academics right
Some help, suggestions please
Akash Dalal @skybroker
jealous becoz people around u are getting in relation!! i understand but you shouldn’t be because you are lucky to be single. even i also wanted to be in relationship but guess wat i m still single and i m not jealous becoz i know the person who will come in my life will have an impact on my mental. social and physical health so it is okay if its a delay. dnt be in a rush. take your time and enjoy the time you are having now. and it is okay to be not like others. you are doing just fine, i think even better than me. :)
No it’s not only about being in a relationship. It’s about- I wish to have people I can lean on, correct the mistakes I’ve done, roam around…and enjoy…but im unable to enjoy (even I like being single and am in no rush to get in a relationship)
Akash Dalal @skybroker
for that you have to talk about it. only than it be done. becoz people tend to understand more words than our body language or action.
BiniBini @binibini
Here’s how i changed my mind
There are people who will always be better than me and similarly in a state not as good as me. It goes same for the people who i am jealous of. Do you think they don’t feel jealous? Maybe they do, maybe they don’t
So it is not about the presence of a better person than you that makes you feel jealous. It arises because i myself is not happy with the state i am
You must have heard of fake it till you make it yeah?
This is what i do. I tell myself that i’m happy for my friend got a date with her childhood crush (yes he really did and it went dope!) When i did this often times, it really flipped my mind to think this way
I see a young 17 year old guy already earning more than me-I say, wow you are really talented. Congratulations dude!
I see my classmate going on a trip to Sikkim-Amazing pictures folks! Tell me more, where did you stay etc
Try it and let me know how it goes
And last bit. Please stop comparing. That’s the most toxic thing you can do to yourself
:)
