It's 8:40 am IST and I woke up and miss my ex so much. We had breakup last month. Idk what to do.

I think she/he must not be the right one ..and chances are u were not happy ,,thats why a breakup. All these pains r part of life which checks how do we handle stress. Life tests us. Ultimately what matters how strong we have been  in this journey. And imp is how smoothly we sail through this as we need time and enery for our aims and goals in life. ALWAYS CHOOSE, to get lost and depressed or take charge of your life. Be wise,, learn from mistake. Select a partner more wisely next time. Though no guarantte in this world. But still we stand ,,we stand with strenth,

Breakup

My boyfriend gets super mad after a fight, nd doesn't talk to me, is it normal for him to ask for time and how much should I wait before texting him

3am Thoughts

A person loves me i know in my heart or has loved me. I could not accept his love for months but did everything i could gave him my time effort and eventually fell for him and he knows it too. We have had some really bad arguments and i know i have said some bad things but it is likewise bcz he creates complicated situations now. All of a sudden he is starting to back off from me now i am not feeling his love and its breaking my heart. I am having all kinds of thoughts like i did something wrong, have said some bad things, maybe he was not a good person all along but it just feels like a bad situation we both are stuck into. What approach shiukd i take now? Should i not give up on him or just leave him be? 

Boyfriend

Hello everyone,

Now over 10 years ago I met my best friend online and two months ago he moved to another country and he has trouble getting a place. So he cant really game anymore, also we are both workaholics and that makes it even harder to stay in touch. A few weeks ago I started to feel very depressed event at work, normally at work im fully concentrated but currently I'm working on a machine where I do nothing most of the time so I start overthinking things something I didn't do for over 5 years now. Also playing games is no longer fun as it used to be normally on my days off and I have the time a 10 hour gaming session was normal and I enjoyed every second now I have trouble even choosing a game or even concentrating on it.

After I told my friend about it he said I should look for people to play with. Easy said for him he attracts people without even trying we once started a new game and I was away for two hours and all of the sudden he already had 3 other guys to play with. I always ask him how he does it but he doesn't know himself. 

I know a lot of people meet online these days but it all seems so temporary. An school friend of mine also meets new people all the time but he plays with them a week and then they never talk again. For me that seems like a waist of time. I also have a bit of fear of getting left behind. I had this "girlfriend" once I also met her online but I was to stupid to see she was only in it for the attention it took me a long time to get over her she had a new idiot in the net just a week later. I'm okay with being alone but of course most of you probably understand that I want some who cares about me and some I can care about. It makes life more meaningful.

 I have even a hard time to answer when someone ask in a game if someone speaks german, I always keep talking english. I don't have a hard time to talk to new people in person but that's probably because I can't avoid it as easily. I'm also more adventures in real life then in games, in games I like to relax and in real life I joined the army as my first job where I worked in CBRN Defence and even worked with live chemical agents and I couldn't imagine something more interesting. Also went for my first time to a bar with my buddies from the army and had we had a great time overall. But none of them are gamers.

Maybe someone of you has an  answer why have so much trouble talking to people online. I feel really weird having this restriction. It almost feels like I shifted all the problems I had in real life to my online life.  

Thanks for reading and excuse my terrible english

 

Friends

My boyfriend is an airforce officer and I am a medical student ! In this pandemic situation,my study is going on in online ! This is so frustrating! I get so much spare time with myself! On the other hand ,my boyfriend’s defence duty is still going on during this pandemic and he is always busy with his works all the time as before ! We are in a long distance relationship and we barely can communicate with each other ! I try to understand his situation as he remains always in a busy schedule! But my patience remains only for 3-4 days ! After that I can’t tolerate his busy schedule ! I really want to talk with him but he goes to sleep early because he gets tired after work and don’t have time for me ! It makes me really upset! I try to distract myself by doing other things but still I check my phone after 2-3 mins if he has messaged me or not ! And I see there is no reply yet ! This thing is disturbing my focus on study and daily activities! I don’t know what will make me  happy except him talking with me ! I just want a good communication with him ! That makes me happy most ! But he is always busy which feels toxic sometimes! I don’t want him to feel that I am an obsessive girlfriend but this is getting worst ! 

Long Distance Relationship

Me and my boyfriend live far from each other now ,he moved in another state but we still talk.He had meet a woman that he hadn’t seen in 11 years and he was looking for a place to stay and she invited to her place to show him her house.I felt that night that something is wrong and I asked him if he had sex with her and he told me that he will answer to this question on another day that is not the right time and today I asked him again and he told me that No,they did not had sex but he just touched her breast in jacuzzi for 3,4 seconds because she told him that she has silicone and he was curious how the silicone breast implants feel (at touch I guess). Should I believe him that he didn’t had sex with her or no?is this normal that he wanted and touched her breast? I wasnt there and I dont know if i can believe that this was only a 3,4 seconds touch…he said that she did not take her bra off and this was only few seconds…can this be real or no?is this normal that he touched her breast because he was curious how silicone breast implants feel?i would appreciate an opinion….

Relationships

So i'm finally doing it!!! I met this guy X in january. Things vibed. Later in march he went to bangalore. I was not sure that our bond would survive. We had a fair share of fights , arguments and love. Long back in may he came back to my hometown. Things were good. We were so into each other. But he has girls around him. When i say girls i mean a lot. I knew trusting him would be hard knowing things about his past. I eventually built my trust. But there was this one girl who loves him a lot , she's the only person he can never ignore , saying she has been with him in his lows and he'll never abandon her. Thats the only thing i was adjusting. Fast forward he had to visit pune. This is where that girl lives , and all his friends. I knew he would sleep with her or kiss her. I knew it. He has a long past with her. But if i have shown courage to love a person with past i have to accept these. We were on on and off communication when he was with his friends. I value space in a relation. When he returned i had moved to a different city for a vacation. We connected over calls and he  clarified that he didnt sleep with her nor kissed although she had blocked him cause he told her to finally get over him and adjust as friends. Well i am not sure i believed him. But what else i could have done . It was visible from his instagram , all the tag and comments suddenly stopped. Moreover i got busy enjoying my vacay and he got busy with ofc life. But every night we would talk for few mins and sleep. Every day changed to , in two days to thrice a week. I told him a week ago that our spark has died. Our craziness has died. He accepted. I knew he would give up and propose to live separate lives. Even i would agree that too but he said he will fix this and since there is just lack of communication and not feelings he'll fix this and we will be the same. I was overwhelmed. After 1 week he told me he got a job in pune. His dream job. I am happy for him . But i also know when he went to pune we didnt interact much for days and i guess we spoke over call for just 3-4 time in a month. Now the thing is i am scared. For this limited interaction will start once again. He has his friends here. Especially the girl. I know(assume) things will spark again. I just dont want him to feel pressurised that he has a girl so he cant enjoy his life. Certain things hurt me , but i will not let him be responsible for my feelings.
So i have decided to limit my interaction until he feels that i dont love him anymore. So when he moves to the new city he can start fresh. 
Its not like i dont love him, i do a lot but i dont wnt him to hold a burden of this love. 
This is the sacrifice i did today.
I know there is a possibility he might find someone , well everything is still possible when i am with him.
So i will just free him for the love and responsibility and enjoy his prime years of life.

Any suggestions are welcome. 

Okay so there was this guy on ti*der, arrogrant mf guy, said he was kinda attracted to me, but at the same time told me a lot about his personal life and we kind of connected on the notes of the good advice I gave him as I’d like to believe, he did the same and told me stay away from bad guys and even though he flirted a bit and I dodged all of em, he was subtle. Whatever be the story, I started liking him, or whatever and I made this small joke of asking for his netflix, as he had mentioned in his bio. To which he asked if I wanted a separate id or a profile on his and I said on his and he didn’t reply for some time and unmatched. Like for f**k’s sake I obviously didn’t want NETFLIX ughhhh I was just gonna make a joke out of his bio coz I was pretty sure he wasn’t gonna share the id and ughhhhhh I hate this. He was the only guy put of about 120 guys that I kindof liked and he freaking unmatched 😒 now I need closure coz I want to just say this out loud i dont freaking need netflix. Idk maybe we would’ve unmatched later anyway still I liked him. Sorry for the rant guy. I know y’all have real problems out there but its been 3days and i cant forget him

Frustration

So two days ago I ended everything with the guy I really wanted to be with! We dated for couple of months, oh! Everything was so perfect about that relationship. We used to share a great bond, he used to understand me like nobody did.. 
But suddenly two months ago he stopped putting any efforts, was constantly ignoring my texts, didn't even call me a single time! But never told me what he wants! Felt like he was just keeping me as an option! So distancing was the only option left infront of me.. as he was not clearly saying anything. And it was making me anxious like hell!!
But now I just can't stop thinking about him, I'm feeling extremely sad. I've exams tomorrow, but I can't read a single word! Feels like I'm lost... Please help!
(We both are 21)

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