Kaveri Murthy @kaverimurth...
It is so hard to communicate with my boyfriend and whenever i do he just doesn’t understand . I’m so sick and tired of this relationship. I’ve started to distance myself from him . He is a good man but he isn’t something i need . He is always there for me but i always feel like something is off about the relationship im in . I feel like I’m not heard or understood. Every girl will probably wish for a guy like him . He is loyal and I’m loyal to him but he gets jealous easily and he wants to know everything about me . If I’m in the washroom he takes my phone and checks all my texts and i know that . Its okay with me but one time i heard him saying he checked what i texted my dad and I felt bit off about it . I don’t know why he did that . Its absolutely fine to check my phone but to be curious about it always makes me feel like he is insecure or something. I don’t make a big deal out of it and I’m always scared to say something to him because he is very judgmental and I’m scared he might judge me or fight with me . Because he always fight about small things . He doesn’t tell me whats in his mind . And when i am outside buying stuff I don’t feel free to buy it even if its my money , I’m scared he might say something more than that he will make sad faces or don’t say anything at all . This makes me not to buy something expensive for myself . How do i fix all this ? Will he change ? He sometimes act like he is so understanding. He says so many things but when i need him the most he doesn’t react the way i expect him to .
One time someone lost something and i had to post it in a whatsapp group so that they would collect it back from me . I did that and his face went low coz people keep texting me . If I confront this he will lie about it . But i just know how he thinks about something. How he doesn’t like something. After being in a relationship with him for 2 years i think i know him . But rightnow i feel like i need to distance from him .
Checking your dad’s text is bad, why don’t you say all this in front of his face so that you can see if he is willing to make things work or if he is ok to leave you
anuj @anujvohra
Discuss and communicate with your friend about this in a firm, polite way. I am sure you can find a.middle ground. See if the insecurity is because of something that has happened over past or some experience. Dig deeper. May be you will find an answer
Kaveri Murthy @kaverimurth...
He did have a past, he was in love with this girl and she was loyal too . She didn’t cheat on him so I don’t understand where he is getting this insecurity from . But she didn’t give him attention for a long time . It was more like she took him for granted. And then he found me . I don’t talk to any guy or I don’t do anything to make him feel insecure but he still keeps acting that way . Even after confronting him so many times and asking him to trust me . I feel like it’s impossible to make him understand certain things . He expect me to go his way while he takes so much time to understand what I’m trying to say
anuj @anujvohra
Okay. Discuss the same and find a solution if possible.
Kaveri Murthy @kaverimurth...
Yes , thanks 😊
🍀 @magnificent
Telugu ah midhi?
Girl i have gone through something really similar and one thing I can say is please don’t date people who are insecure. My Boyfriend was,and due to his habit of getting angry and jealous things took such a bad turn I cannot even explain. He is a good person but his personality got weirded and weirder around me and he ended up being a really immature person. A lot of happened between us and he ended up making me a bad person and played such a victim card infront of others. Please save your mental health and be away from him. I know it will hurt at first because you were attached to him but then you will realise that you can finally breath.
Kaveri Murthy @kaverimurth...
I think You are right , sometimes what he is doing is making me look bad infront of others . Its kinda traumatising to me . But he comes back and be nice again so it’s making me to forgive him without actually addressing what happened. I’ve done that so many times and I haven’t got my answers . Its so weird
It’s manipulation , my ex also used to do the same. Don’t fall for that. People don’t change they just pretend .
Kaveri Murthy @kaverimurth...
That’s right
