It is really frustrating for me that I care so much about people perception of me and I don’t want to be that way but doing the opposite is really difficult. I don’t know how to stop being a people pleaser.
Are you, by any chance, highly conscious of yourself? Like the way you look or talk or behave.
I feel like if I act like me in front of them then i will anyhow hurt their feelings which I totally don’t want so I just act nice like really nice to the point that in some cases it hurts me.
I totally feel you. You seek validation. And I think that it’s coming from inside. That may be you feel like you’re not enough. And maybe you’re very self conscious. And if that’s the case then self love is the key.