IS IT OBSESSION OR LOVE ?
so i got obsessed with a guy when i was 13. Now i m 22 and i still donโt see anybody but him. I wanted to talk to him my whole life but didnโt had courage lol. Now 6-7 months back, i approached him, we fell in love, got together and now we are going to get married soon. I sometimes thinks he has so many flaws. I just cover them up because i love him? Or am i obsessed and this obsession can dissapear anytime. I get scared too sometimes. Am i in love ? I doubt it. Because im scared what if i marry him and my feelings no longer exist :( am i just exaggerating my thoughts? Or its a thing?
I guess you are just attracted and obsessed with him
Maybeโฆ
I guess you should try to maintain a distance for a while and see do you feel for him or not and if you donโt feel then just donโt go for the marriage coz after few months or years your feelings fades away so itโs better to be sure then to rush for the things and if need of any thing we can connect if you donโt mind in thatโฆ
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It seems too soon to me . Take your time . Marriage is a one time deed
Take your time to get to know each other better
Hmm right
Yes ofcourse soon means 2-3 years
26
Yeahhh definitely
Not relative. My parents knows about him lolโฆ they have no issue rn
โLove is something, when there are many reasons to breakup, but you donโtโ
Its definitely love, he is lucky to have girl like you. Talking about flaws, in near future he will improve him, life will give him too many answers, donโt leave him.
I think like this too sometimesโฆ He is not perfect, no one is. But he got major issues tbh. Like health, job etc. But still i wanna justttt bee with himmโฆ
Ofcourse yes
Life will give him answers, he will be perfect. I had a same issue, infact I left my girl because of my issues, after that I have been through a though phase, I wish I had someone to support me emotionally at that stage. Be patient. Ask him to read books
Oh more power to u ๐๐ฅบ. I support him so much and he values it too. He need a lot of support.
Study the imperfections. Are they something he can slowly work on, does he have the minimum(not asking much) qualities and stability to carry forward with this relation and life?
Then itโs fine. Give your time though. Men often carry things, that ultimately ruin them. Such things shouldnโt be there. Else is fine.
i mean liking him for a long time is fine, but i personally feel like your relationship is too fast. like getting married, having a future with him is a very big thing and i would suggest you to think enough before jumping into conclusion. if youโre having second thoughts, i think it means youโre kind of obsessed cuz youโre not regarding his flaws and might hurt yourself in that process.
Im hurting myself tbh. i have so many better options than him but my heart just wants to be with him because i think i liked him for soo many yeara he is the oneโฆ :'(
i mean time isnโt really what matters in this case. itโs just how much love you have for him. if you keep sticking to him just because youโve known him for so long, then yes youโre definitely hurting yourself mate. please make sure you stay strong whatever happens.
Thats what i want , not to hurt myself. He is supportive tbh. He loves without conditions. I guess time will tell me what was right.
If he respects you go for it
If not let it go
He respects me and loves me soo much no doubt
Iโd say in a relationship at least one side has to be irrationally crazy about the other. Ideally, the girl. If the partner is also in love, which it seems to be in this case, then itโs a huge win. โ๏ธ๐
Im crazy for him no doubt ๐ฅด lol
You should be able to stand on your own. Take that as the first goal. Then marriage can be discussed.
U are being desperate now
