Is it normal for a guy to stay in touch consistently for over a year with a girl without any feelings?
Quick context- I have been texting a guy from my undergrad ( we graduated in 2015) for almost a year recently. We live in different countries and due to time constraints we only manage to catch up over the weekend for long conversations. This has been consistent for a year. We are almost alike in terms of interests,hobbies and opinions. We even met during his visit to India and spent around 6-7 hours just chatting. But when I expressed my interest in dating him, he turned it out stating long distance as a reason (even after I indirectly hinted that I can move to his country )
yeah it’s normal
Aaaah okay. I thought I and him had some special connect
Then ask him out and clearly state you’re willing to move. Guys can’t read minds
I don’t want to spoil what we have. What if he thinks I am desparate
I am long done with not trying things coz someone might call me desperate or bad or anything else. My approach is - A few years down the line the regret of never trying will hurt wayyy more than getting rejected. And what if he accepts … so upto you take a risk in the short term to mitigate long term regret. The most common regrets are I wish I had tried it. Upto you now
That’s true. Maybe sometime later I might convey it directly depending on how I still feel about him
If that’s true why are you scared of trying? … It’s not like going to mars anyways
Doing it is lot more difficult. It’s like giving him assurance
assurance of what?
I don’t know how to put it in words. I have to be clear about how I feel about him first
ok
I dont think he likes you that way. He just thinks of you as a friend. This is evident from him rejecting you even after you stated you can move to his country as he was not willing to get into long distance relationship. My suggestion would be to look for someone else to date (tell him that and see his reaction )
Tell him you are looking for other people to date and see his reaction . Btw i genuinely mean it when i say you look for other people to date and not just lie to him to see how he reacts.
Yeah I get it. I will try :)
