Is anyone here good friends with their ex? Do you think it’s possible to stay friends with your ex if they were your best friend before you started dating 

Breakup

He compared me to his ex, I hate that. I hate it in general when people compare to other people. It reminds me of them, how nothing I do I really good enough and how I can always be as good this person and that person. But this time, Kai said it like I’m a terrible person. I asked how and he hasn’t spoken to me since. Alcohol has been my best friend since, I miss him. And I think I love him, he told me he loves me, but if you really love someone would you ignore them? I’m not entirely sure, my parents love was harsh and sometimes cruel, they said they loved me tho. I don’t know what to feel, I’m not going to beg for his attention, but gosh I just miss having someone to talk to. I wish he would tell me why he did that. Did I do something wrong? And if so what? 

This has to be one of the bad days post breakup... I'm trying my best to heal but one thing that strikes me still is .. I was always there for this person..considering that the way he ended things with me over a text ... we had a really healthy relationship of 7months . He said he had to become selfish etc bullshit when I called him. I wanted to say a lot of things to .. which I still want to say. I really feel like saying everything that I kept back considering his feelings but I feel like saying a thankyou over call, just to end it hurting him the way he did when I was in midst of a wedding with a sprain.. Idk...it's really bard to keep back from the feeling of saying how grateful I am for him to end it over call just the last time. What do I do? ..

How do you start to get over someone you never even dated? But you loved still?

My ex and I, we broke up 5 years ago. There are days when I still miss him so much. He is happily married now. The reason we broke up was because of religious differences. There have been times when I really wish I could talk to him but I control myself. In a year, I get to talk to him twice. One is when I wish him for his bday and when he wishes me for mine. Other than that we don't talk. I see his stories and he sees mine. I have really tried to move on but it's been 5 years and not a day goes by when I don't miss him. I am still holding on to the past and I hate being this way. I feel so happy when I see his name on my notifications even though I know he is married. I keep waiting for either his bday or my birthday every year. 
I dont know what to do anymore.

3am Thoughts

We all break our rules for someone. That's what I did. Though we are not dating, still we belong to each other. We were wet due to rain. It was his birthday. We had no idea about what might happen in evening (bad weather). So, we decided to spend some more time with other and went to a room he had booked for his birthday. I never thought I'd go somewhere like this. I too wanted to be with him, fully. I went to the bathroom and my upper being completely wet, i asked him to switch on the fan and let it dry. I was in the bathroom only, but it was going to take too long. I asked him if i could come out. He said yes, sure. I had my towel over me. While i was moving out, he was talking over a call. He pretended the conversation to be going, till i crossed the path. I guess he was trying to make me comfortable. He turned around me after the call got disconnected. I wasn't feeling uncomfortable and so felt weird. After a few minutes, i asked him that he should let his shirt dry too, and so did he. Now we were comfortable around each other. We sat, and were scrolling in our phones. Then, he came and put his head in my laps, with a pillow. We were soo closee, like something i never thought about. My childhood fear of being touched by someone haunts me, and so i never ever imagined to have it by my own. I was as much involved as he was. We didn't cuddle, or even if we did, we didn't realise. We took some pictures, which are in my phone. I never ever had an idea to be this close to him, or anyone else. This was my rule, and i broke it. We gave each other a warm hug, as i had to leave. Again, we were damn close, his hands over my waist, me looking into his eyes. We could have kissed mannn! But we didn't! Or maybe we could not! Whatever that was, it made me feel something too deeply. While he was holding me now, he gave a kiss on the cheek, he had given it before, but everytime, i used to push him back. This time, i did not push him back! I was so lost in the moment. The more i am thinking, the more i m feeling. It's gonna hurt, when he'll leave! I never felt this hard before. My mind is just hvng a flshbck of all  those times. I broke my rule! And don't know how to feel now. Was it okay? Having these mixed emotions is valid? I don't know if i love him or i am jst gtng attracted. Is this the moment that is making me feel like i love him or do i really love him?

Love

I have been in a relationship twice earlier. Both of them broke my trust. It was really difficult for me to trust somebody again. During my lat relationship, when it almost ended, I came to know that one of the closest man in my life also did something similar (he is family member). This just broke my heart, I had no hope for love, commitment and trust into somebody, especially men! Since then I am suffering from depression and anxiety issues. It took me almost 2 years to realise and process what all is happening with me, I am now much aware about these conditions and can help myself at times.

But while I was into all this, I met a guy at a friend’s wedding. I had seen him earlier in the same common friend’s stories too. So I was trying to see whether he is the same guy or not. Then after the wedding he sent me a friend request, we chatted for almost whole night, 5-6 hours at a stretch. Exchanged numbers and talked for almost 2-3 hours. We instantly vibed! I dont know why but I had an amazing feeling and he felt the same. We met the day after, spent almost 5 hours together and felt amazing!! We chatted for almost 2-3 hours the same night. We met again on the other day, spent 3-4 hours again! The connection was instant and I was already in love with him. But he wasn’t sure about it because it was just 3-4 days and he felt like I am getting serious for him and he isn’t. He told me someone left him after being together for 6 years, it was long distance and did not work. So he was afraid as might have to move out cause of his career choices. That was the reason within a week he said I don’t think I am ready for any sort of relationship right now. Thats it! It was a long text and everything was over. Did not even felt the need of meeting and talking things out. I felt devastated and it was so disheartening because the way we had a time together was totally different then what we were going through that time. I felt bad about the fact didn’t he feel the need of meeting and talking things out and giving a closure so that we both can move on in our lives, it might have been easier than what I am feeling right now! 

Now I am very much afraid to even like someone. He being so mature and understanding person, can do this then how do I trust people now. Whatever I felt with him, was something I use to fantasise about, I never thought I would meet somebody who would be that much compatible to me. But then destiny wanted something else, altogether. Everything was finished on a message note! 

Memories

A few months ago, I confessed to my friend that I liked him. He said that he did not think of me in a romantic way and we continued to be friends. A few months after that, I met him at a work conference. He was being extremely sweet and expressive. He asked me if I missed him, what made me like him in the first place etc etc. I have known for a while that he has attachment and commitment issues as a result of childhood trauma and growing up in a broken family. Therefore I had made peace with the fact that we would never work out. At the conference, he took me out on dates, was extremely sensitive and expressed that he shared a comfort with me that he did not share with anyone. I would continue to go on dates with him and I’d repeatedly tell him that what we were doing was not logical. He’d ask me to live in the moment. When I asked him about the future… He said he didn’t know what would happen but he enjoyed spending time with me. After we parted our ways, he said he wanted to remain friends but was not sure if he would want to be in a relationship. He said that he never felt the need of having someone by his side and that I should not be hopeful. He asked me if we could remain close friends. After this, I spoke to him and told him that it would be impossible for me to think of him as “just a friend”. I told him that he cannot have the best of both Worlds and that it was either going to be all in or nothing. As I reflect upon this, I think to myself… Was I too harsh? Maybe I should have given it some time. But again, why dwell in ambiguity and hope. There’s so much more to life. Was I stupid and impatient?!

Relationships

How I tell my parents that my boyfriend is foreigner?
And we want to get married.

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