I’m talking to a guy and her daughter walks by his bedroom I came over at night and she says crying to her dad that’s not fair can you please leave and she’s crying she lost her mom recently and she’s like 13 and I feel like leaving but he doesn’t want me to idk what to do please help. I’m in his house now… I feel selfish staying 

I never met her it hurts hearing that she literally said “can you please leave” with a tearful voice. 

I lost my mother too so I know the pain she’s grieving and I like the guy but we are not serious I left I felt bad staying… it hurts staying but it also hurt leaving I just feel like that’s his daughter crying for dads attention and he’s not there it really hurt me…

I think you should first try to make bond with the child 
She recently lost her mother due to which she’s not stable she needs someone close and maybe she couldn’t bond that way with her dad 

I think it takes time to accept a new person when someone is grieving over a lost parent ...I think you have to slowly build up and rapo ,with time she is gonna start liking you ...there is no doubt in that .So I think all you have to do is give it some time ...things are gonna get clear .

Adulting

I'm literally out right now because my dad yelled at me and I think this is called mental abuse? 😃He has issues with his siblings and then he express his anger to me and my family. It's so messed up. He is a good father he gives us all but mentally he destroyed us. I won't go home tonight because that was too much! I'll see my uncle. My mom will talk with my dad. I won't accept another stupid apology from him but I also need him for money lol. Help?!

Anger Issues

I hate living here. I often get told i am just an angsty teen or "no, he loves you!" But he doesnt. My father doesnt care about me. He keeps me fed and keeps a roof over my head but he doesnt care... why should he get brownie points for the literal legal requirements of being a parent, ill never understand. He is sexist and homopobic. He only talks to me whenever he needs something or whenever my grades are failing, he doesnt even bother pretedning to care about my interests, he ignores my mental health, he refuses to accept the way i dress (i prefer relatively masculine and gender neutral options) i feel as though i am talking to a brick wall when i mention these things. I am unwelcome and tired.  

Caregiver

Can I blame my dad for being selfish

Mental Illness

I hate my father. I don’t like him. He has caused incredible pain. Never understood me, doesn’t attempt to. Doesn’t appreciate me, my efforts. He’s a very pride man, wants me to surrender to him and simply follow his directions. He considers that’s the only way to go, listen to him, my elder. I hate it. He doesn’t get it that I’m a different person, an adult with my own thoughts, my values, interests, desires, passions. He doesn’t respect me, value my achievements… always disappointed that I don’t listen to him. Only expresses his disappointment towards me. Every time he expresses about his problems, I try to understand, acknowledge, sympathize with him, offer him support and solution that I can think of, but he dismisses it. He always want to give credit to my brother, his elder son. It pains me that every time I want to experience that love towards a son from him, I get disappointed. Pains me a lot!! Don’t know how to get over this terrible loop. Feel like I want to breakup with my parents, if it’s indeed a thing. But I love them, and want them and their live in my life, but don’t think that’s going to happen.

Parenting

My dad says horrible things to me all of the time but sometimes we have good times and I feel guilty and that I shouldn’t feel the way I do towards him

Family

Am i a bad child if i dont know if i have any kind of feeling towards my father? i know that he loves me its just he cant control his bad temper most of the time since i was a child and done unreasonable stuffs in result. 

Heyy
So i'm a professional tennis player and have been playing since i was 5 and now i'm 19, 'm a 2 time gold medalist is the nationals and a bronze medalist in the SGFI Asian games. My dad has been my coach since i was 7, and i am so grateful cause if it wasn't for him i would have never reached so many milestones. But the thing is he never ever says anything good he is always criticizing never once said he's proud of me,never says i do a good job and if a ask he says he's just making me stronger. We don't have a daughter father relationship, we have a coach student relationship and it hurts so much. I have also sacrificed so much never went out it was always tennis tennis tennis i love the sport don't get me wrong it's just i would like to have a dad rather than having a coach all the time. I can't have a proper convo with him without it turning into a fight and without it being something tennis related. I get so jealous when i see my friends hanging out with their dads . 
Sometimes all i need is my dad not a coach. 

i always see children with their dads playing in the park and i hate it. I dont hate the child and the dad but, my life, i hate that my dad was never there for me, i hate that instead of taking care of me he fucked up my life, i hate that he made me feel like i wasn’t enough, i hate that he would compare me to other people, i hate that he stayed in my life. I wished that he could have left my life when i was born so i wouldn’t feel this pain in my heart everytime i see a happy kid with their dad or my step dad playing and being a good dad with his kids. Why does he hate me so much that he would stay and make my life a living hell? why does he now want to start being a good father?? He would beat the shit out of me as a kid now he want to pretend it never happened?!?! The word dad has been stained by him that i cant even call my step dad "dad" who has been more of a dad than he will ever be. Even then i cry knowing im not his actual daughter, If one day my mother and step dad split up i will be dad less. why was i born into a family who hurts me or doesnt want me? i dont know but its lonely, sad, and painful. To see myself ever being happy is a dream i have thrown into the trash.

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