Iām so f-ing tired of my mom, sheās always compared me to one of my friends, I admit it that she is way more better than me. Oh gosh Iām her daughter, and Iām not like her, weāre different but she always want me to be like her. Iām so tired I feel like I wanna leave, but idk where to go. And yes cause of my mom, I see my friend differently, like Iām seeing her not as a friend but as an enemy who changed how my mother looked at me. Well maybe itās my fault bcs Iām such a stupid daughter, I have no skill, always have a bad grade at exams.
Your grades do not define you, no matter what. Itās not who you are, no matter what anyone says. Donāt let that get to you please. Itās not your friendās fault so please try to maintain your relationship with herā¦as far as your mother is concerned, try having a heartfelt conversation with her, like you would talk to your friends? Tell her what you donāt like about the way she treats you or what you donāt like about the comparison. Rather than shouting on her, maybe try talking it out with her calmly when no one else is around?
I also experienced the same. Always being compared to my schoolmate or classmate. Sometimes she asks whatās my grade when itās exam week, then ask what about my classmate or a certain neighborhood child.
āThatās your grade? Then about (name) 's? I bet she got a perfect score.ā
āYouāre not the top of your class? Who did? Our neighborā s child?ā
āIām earning money for you guys, but you canāt even do your studies well.ā
It pains me cuz I did everything as much as I can yet Iām still compared. It affected my self-esteem cuz I thought Iām freaking worthless.
Sometimes, Iām thinking of rebutting like, did you know mom? There are different kinds of intelligence? But if I did say that, it will only result to an argument.
Due to my pent up frustrations, and I also felt sick, I cried in front of her. I ask why she always compared to others, why she canāt look to me alone, look to myself without comparing to someone elseās child.
I cried very hard, but guess what? She didnāt reply anything. Years passed and guess she already forgot it.
Iām not sure if the result is good or bad but, I could not care less about it now. I gave up caring to her comparison, and I only do my best about my own gain
