Iām in yr 9 and I can say that i have a lot of friends. In my school, they donāt really allow phones and I am very happy about that because everyone in my school has a phone but I donāt. I ask my parents for one but they said no and I canāt have one till I go to uni/ college. My parents also donāt allow me to use or do the following:
Makeup
Paint my nails
Use multicoloured extensions (I can only use black and black is a little bit boring alone)
Wear crop tops
Wear ripped jeans or even tight jeans
Wear shorts outside the house
Other kinds of stuff.
And Iām a teenager and all my friends are allowed to use all these things and I feel a little jealous. I asked my parents why and all they say is itās a form of distraction and I honestly donāt understand what they mean by that. They are really strict about the clothes I wear and I hate that.
Plus I have dreams of being an actress, dancer and singer and I know it would change but whenever I tell them they always give an unsure look and say it might change later. I donāt want to hear that my dreams would change later I just want their support. They wouldnāt let me train in my dancing or singing or acting skills all they said was wait to you move and go to college then you can do whatever you want.
My mum lets me use her phone just to talk to my friends but because I donāt wanna feel left out I kind of lied that I got a phoneā¦ I have a laptop not a phone and I feel bad for lying and Iām a Christian. But if I tell themā¦ I donāt know what would happen.
I also feel like the odd one out in my classā¦ There is this tv show that everyone watches(itās kind of inappropriate for teens) I donāt watch it cuz I hate it and even though my parents would never let me watch it and Iām happy they donāt.
Since my mum lets me use her phone she also reads my chatsā¦ especially with boys and I hate that. Itās not like I have nothing to hide but there are thing we talk about that she wouldnāt understand but when I tell her I donāt like that she says"Iām your mother I need to know what you do". I love my parentsā soo much and Iām happy that I got them but the rules are too much and it makes me feel jealous and less than my friends because every teenager has and does all the thing Iām not allowed to do and I feel like Iām just really ugly sometimes when my friends wear makeup and look really niceš.
Sign ā¦
I really need help
Iām 16 years old and Iām a Christian tooā¦ I know its hard being the only one not having a phone when everyone else does i went through that tooā¦ and I canāt wear makeup eitherā¦ sometimes parents can be suffocating with all their rules, sometimes it kills meā¦ its ok to feel jealous sometimes I feel like that too. But God separated you from the rest because your specialā¦ you are not ugly and I dont need to see a picture of you to tell you thatā¦ this day and age girls what to show off their body, that why your parents wonāt let you wear crop tops and ripped jeans yeah those girls get boyfriends but those relationships donāt last, they will just go on to the next pretty girlā¦ I had to use my mom phone to text my friends too and I told them it was my moms and they were understandingā¦ if they are real friends they will understand and if you need someone to talk to like a big sister figure I got youā¦
Thank you so muchā¦ you have no idea how happy I am that someone understands. Iām glad I can come here and let my feelings out and get advises from amazing people.
Thank you so much :)
I never experienced something like this but the only thing I can say is just to follow your dream. If your parents are unsure about your dreams, then make them feel convinced. Learn from people who are experienced in those fields, make your own research and do your best to work on your dream. Your parents saying your dreams will change later sounds so discouraging and you shouldnāt keep that in mind. This world isnāt systematic for your parents to decide something like that in the future. Make your hard work and talent prove them wrong. But still, donāt hate them too much. Theyāre still your parents and you love them so much but you also need to be honest with yourself for you to move forward.
