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Disha @jennifer23

I’m in a toxic relationship with my mom… I’ve lost respect for her…her controlling nature n taking each n every decision of my life…is costing my dreams…i don’t want to hurt her…but i don’t want to do as she wishes… I’ve tried to tell her… I’ve even said her directly…but she just says that she knows better and that her decisions are better!! Wht should I do?

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alpesh damor @benzamine007

She is ur mom and care abouts you. And worried about you.

Disha @jennifer23

Yeah I get it…n that’s what obstructing me to go against her wish

rockey @sopu

You can take help of your father your father will understand you better

Disha @jennifer23

Actually I want to pursue Humanities…n even did…i rebelled n got admitted to a very renowned University… I was in the first year college…but they made me drop it…n want me to opt for medical…

Disha @jennifer23

🥲 why it’s so hard to follow ur heart here?

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Akash Roy @alanronaldo

My situation is kinda like that disha… staying in home since COVID , but i feel like jailed! I too don’t want disturb her

Disha @jennifer23

What r u going to do then?

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Akash Roy @alanronaldo

Don’t know yet, but i can help with some ideas! Can we chat in pm?

Disha @jennifer23

Um yeah

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Akash Roy @alanronaldo

Will you add me? I am new so can’t add you!

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Akash Roy @alanronaldo

Send me a request @disha

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Anonymous

See this happens a lot, and there’s only one thing to do talk to her, I know that it’ll be hard to explain what you think or what you are thinking, and may be she’ll not understand most of the times. Let’s start with you explaining your mother how you feel about everything just tell her that these things that she’s doing are bothering you so much. The part where you need to do something and she’s not listening to you, let’s say you tell your mother first that what you’re going to tell her, she has to listen it camly then think over it, ask some of her friends, who can tell about that matter and then only the decision has to be made. No offense but parents can be wrong sometimes, and sometimes it becomes our job to tell them that. The world has changed,it has evolved from many things, nothings the same. You’ll have to just explain everything camly. You’ll have to remain calm firstly to do this.

Disha @jennifer23

I’ll definitely try this!! Thanku❤️

Base Up @idol_type9

Prove your choices right, safe and healthy … And she will be happy in the end seeing you successful and well. 😊

Disha @jennifer23

Okay I’ll try to convince her more efficiently

Base Up @idol_type9

Hmm… Wish you luck… Btw may I know more about the choice that has created the all the conflicts… Only if its ok for you …

Disha @jennifer23

I want to opt Humanities…i want to become a lecturer in Pol science…but she thinks that humanities is for dull Students…n i should be a doctor

Base Up @idol_type9

If this is the case… Then just go for it… Times are changing and so are the career paths… I must say there is nothing wrong here… And being stubborn at times like this is completely ok… Mothers only wish for our best … And if you dare to face challenges in your goals, I guess this is the first and basic hurdle you need to cross… Like how determined you are for your dreams… Keep fighting… Keep working hard…
Well these are just my suggestions… Rest is all up to you ofcourse… 😅☺️

Disha @jennifer23

Thanku for boosting my courage!! Really means a lot 🥹❤️

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rohit mishra @rohitm1720

Hello disha, are you fine mai kehna cha rha tha ke hn hr bar parents sahi nhi hote or mere sath bhi kuch issues hai mgr thode alag hai mgr mai smjh rha hu mai bhi fail ho jata hu graduation iss year mai nai apna 1st year clear kiya hai or mene 2018 mai start kiya tha mere sath bhi issues hai lekin tum apni line mai best do or 100 percent do kyu ke na mai janta hu na tumhare parents ke tum kitna kr sakti ho or hn mene fail hona accept kiya but mgr fight now mai ab kafi thik hu bus disturbed hu

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rohit mishra @rohitm1720

One more thing jo sub he bol rahe tw mere taraf se bhi same ke aap unhe ache se convenes karo mai apke sath hota tw mai apke sath khade ho kr help krta but i know der se jarur mgr wo smjhegi ☺☺

M 4math @sainithin9

Do one thing if her decisins are valid or if meaning full surrender to her although you don’t like take individual decision one is mother love another aspect is self freedom here

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He @redheadhammer

i guess that depends on what aspects of your life she is trying to control. If she wants you to live your life her way completely, than that is wrong but if she is interfering in some more reasonable things than you might need to rethink or need to get advice from someone with more expertise in that area. Like if she wants you to be a Computer Science Engineer and she wants you to do Civil than you need to decide whether she is eligible to give you career advice or not. If she works in that field she may know better than someone else. I have seen so many people telling their children to learn this or that without having knowledge of that particular sector. If your problem is something like that than you should ask someone who has already gone through those phases because i believe experience is a precious gift of life and you should learn from your experiences as well as experiences.of others.

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Anonymous

See tum sono chize nhi krti you have to choose tunhe tumhare dreams poore krne hai ya moms ke dreams

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