I’m in a relationship and I caught my bf cheating with the same girl for the fifeth time,he lies a lot,i want to breakup with him ,but i cant because he blackmails me about our pictures chat n our intimate moments n says that he will inform everthing to my parents so that they will lock me up and I wont be able to continue my dreams,this blackmailing has been happening since months,I really want to tell my parents about this,being from a very orthodox family i dont how they will take it,as of now my parents knew that we broke up,i really cant do it because of blackmailing .Someone please help me.
Look best thing would be to keep things black and white because if there no future to this relation why to elongate things I m sure you don’t want to be with guy like this! you tell your mom and dad reality because trust me this my sound cliche but parents are our real power, I know your parents are orthodox but they are your parents they just want you o be happy and out of trouble you apologise to them for being with wrong guy and explain them that you don’t want to be in this and once your parents know everything he cannot back mail you…trust me I never lie to my parents about anything because I know even if they are orthodox they accept things for their child’s happiness so just be honest to them and after you don’t need to afraid of any shit in this world.
As someone who has lost both parents i can say they are our first line of defense against the harsh world.
Thank you,I really want to inform my parents and get it done,but then i don’t think they will forgive me because i had stayed with him and they will not allow me to study,probably they will get me married,if they get to know about it .
okay okay so this like problem of very orthodox family… sorry to say but your boyfriend is psycho… you know what another way is do things slowly like just don’t tell your parents about this stay silent I know you will have to suffer but you know just break things slowly like talk to your boyfriend normally but in way that he feels no interest in you… to be in face “no more intimate moments” meet him rarely like once in a month tell him you’re busy with something like helping mom or studies whatever and mind it don’t change your behaviour suddenly just slowly change your behaviour in way that he will be no more interested in you and find out things that interest him in you cut them down for him like you already said he is with some other girl and is blackmailing you so this clearly indicates he has no feelings for you so cut things that may be sex or anything too yeah just do it slowly and make him feel that another girl is better for him eventually one day he will leave you… like make him irritated of you but not aggressively in a different way like he should feel you’re a rock who gives no active response!
I have been trying this,but he is not leaving,its like he wants someone else to hangout and stuffs like that but cant leave me .I still dont know why he is not leaving me completely?Isn’t he leaving me because he loves me?It’s complicated .
I don’t think it’s complicated because bro I loved my girlfriend and I she cried only once because of me trust me i felt so bad soo yeah according to me it is not love and yeah ofc your boyfriend is a different person soo he can more insecure but this blackmailing and all is definitely not love because he said you he will destroy you if you breakup with him like he loves your relation and your togetherness and not you as a person soo yeah… if my first opinion is not working go with another one tell your parents! That’s it! But you have to tell things in a really great way… (why don’t you bluff with your boyfriend saying that you told your mom dad everything and thry took away your phone and you cannot contact him now and just shut down your social media for a month)
I’m sorry to hear that. I would really suggest you mate, to talk to your parents about it. You should not be with a guy who will continue to ruin your life and make it miserable. If you don’t trust your parents, at least talk to someone who you trust, maybe your best friend. Along with that, go file a complaint against this person. Go to the cyber cell and file a case. Do not fall into the trap of the blackmailing. He deserves to rot in prison and you deserve to live a life full of happiness.
Thank you,I have talked to a friend about this and she helped me and told him not to blackmail me,he agreed and then he shouted and called me names and warned me not to share the problems in our relationship to others,he restricts me a lot,due to him i have lost friends.I attempted suicide .
That’s great. You took the first step towards recovery. To be honest, this guy seems to be someone who won’t stop his horrendous ways to ruin somebody else’s life. So you should really be prepared to talk to your parents and also go to the police. And also buddy, please realise that this person is not the one for you. You should not spend your entire life with a manipulative coward like him. You deserve better and you will definitely get better. So please, do not think of committing suicide. Life does get better if you give it a chance, and you seem to be a kind, loving, caring person. The world needs people like you. Parents can be strict, but they always put their children’s needs and happiness first. Talk to them. Since they knew you were in a relationship with him they will understand you were manipulated by him. Also, please do get therapy, make sure you stay away from him and go to the police. Blackmailing is an offense and this will be taken seriously.
Wishing you success and happiness! Girl you deserve it!
I wish I could do it,but then I’m scared like what if my parents won’t let me study,what if they get me married ,what if they kick me out ,keeping all those thoughts its hard for me to tell my parents what I’m going through.
Buddy, I would like you to stand up for yourself. This is mental abuse and nobody should go through it. Let your family know that you made a mistake, and they are the only ones who can help you come out of it. Let them know that you’ll study hard, get a good job and make them proud. If you have an older family member who can help be a mediator between you and your family, somebody who you can trust let them know. So that they help you all take a proper decision which won’t affect your studies and your life. Stay strong.
