I’m in a ldr
Earlier, when we were in the same country with no time difference, my guy had all the time in the world for me
Now I’m asking this cause I really have a lot of feelings for him
So he has moved abroad for higher studies and he says that he has too much work and because of that he is mostly busy and doesn’t have time. I understood in the beginning 1 month. But now he calls once in 3-4 days and never texts me. Even after repeatedly telling how how and what I’m feeling it’s like he is a completely different person now with so much pressure from college and managing things on his own.
Recently he said that he doesn’t have the same feelings like he had earlier. Now I don’t know should I hold on to him or let him go.
Because he sees you as a burden now, let him go. Nobody is ever too busy, no matter what. Believe it.
This is just to hard to believe
I’ve seen him here with me the amount of love and care he had
Now he acts like this. It’s so hurting :(
Been there, done that. When someone tells you they no more feel the same, it can never be the same like before. I had to go to a therapist for a day to let it out so I know it’s hard, but it’s not worth staying at all. 🙃
I’ve just been anxious since then
Idk what to do
He is a nice guy but this behaviour of his is just killing me
You got to let go.
It’s so hard to do that
I’ve never loved anyone like I love him
I still have so many feelings for him 😔
Ik. It will be hard imagining how life would be without him. You will think you can’t , but you can. It will take time but you will heal. You will grow thru it. You got to put yourself first. You got to take care of yourself. And for that, you must let him go. It’s sad but its the truth. You deserve better.
Why do you want to keep on hurting yourself staying in it when you know he’s not the same anymore? It only hurts more to stay. You don’t want any of that.
Ig staying hurts more than leaving the person. It might hurt at first, but then eventually it will get better.
I don’t think I can love anyone like I love him. It’s so weird I just can’t seem to let him go. It’s always me who is calling and texting while he is busy and doesn’t even answer to my calls or texts
That’s exactly why I guess I want to hold on so that I don’t have the blame on me
Any tips that can help me do that ?
But just the thought of not having him makes me anxious. Imagining life without him is so painful to think
We’ve had so many good memories I can’t decide on anything 😔😔
I’ll try to do that. But I’m not able to concentrate I constantly think about him
He made me feel so loved all the time. And now this. Ugghhh😭😭
I can totally feel this rn!!
It will do , ofcourse it will be hard to imagine , it’s normal to feel like that, it’s human to. But you gonna start imagining, start getting used to a life without him. I’m sorry but that’s the truth. We can only accept it. It may seem wrong to leave him now , but in the long run , that’s what’s right.
I still can’t seem to decide
Thought of leaving him makes me so bloody anxious but on the other hand he can go days without talking to me
I tell him what n how I’m feeling and I try to understand him but he isn’t fucking willing to do anything it seems. It’s always me doing it and then I start to feel that I’m nagging him too much. He has time to go out clubbing but can’t stay and talk with his girl for a day even when she has repeatedly told him how and what she is feeling.
I can’t seem to ignore or not talk to him
Everything is so hurting. My sleep cycle is fucked. Everything is so draining. I can’t concentrate…
Why do people change
Why the fuck can’t they make things work
I hate all this. This is the reason I thought I’ll never be in a fucking relationship. But he was so caring and loving and I thought let’s give it a shot. N here I am again
Hurt and he is just going through his life just like that.
That’s how it is. They care and love you , and when they see you fell in love , they start to think they got you and start losing interest. I’m not saying that happens everytime , but it does happen. Sadly.
I know right
This is just so fucking bad
What is this even. Everything is just hurting.
People can move easily. It’s always one person who is hurt and everything while the other one just moves on like nothing happened.
Thank you so much for this.
I guess I’ll take a day or two and then just break it off.
You guys have been really helpful in all of this
And you are right, he doesn’t deserve me and everything that I have to offer. I should focus on me
I hope so :)
This is the same reason why we broke up too. Priorities change and now we’ve to make ourselves as our topmost Priority. I’m not going to ask you to practice self love or such things but rather try to sit with these emotions it might be scary at first but once you sit with the pain you’ll get a clear picture on what to do. Remember light shines through broken pieces.
I understand what you are saying
But how can these priorities be something that you can leave a person who loves and supports you every path of the way
I mean are people that selfish that they can focus on everything and leave a healthy relationship for all these shift in priorities.
People do things to keep people in their life but some people just want to run away from responsibilities I guess
It’s so heartbreaking man 😔😭
I guess it’s just life you know. We can’t make them choose us. All I could say is please don’t prolong the pain. It’s going to be so hard but it will be worth it in the end. Please do take care of yourself.
I’ll try to do it
Thank you so much for this :)
