I’m feeling depressed about my love life. I never wanted an arranged marriage. But looks like that’s the last resort. I haven’t been lucky in love and my parents are strict. It’s difficult to find someone your parents approve of and try to love that person. No matter how well you do in life, the society reduces your achievements to your marital status if you are a woman in an Indian household.
It is such a crucial decision of choosing a life partner. I wish I could find myself someone. Some days my mindset becomes so negative about life I don’t want to do it anymore. I don’t see the incentives of living. What’s the point! I feel suffocated and no matter what I do it’s never enough for my parents. Is se acha toh apne Mann ki kar leti.
I can understand, what would you do if you get the opportunity as per your mind
I would take my time to meet people and make that decision when I feel confident about someone irrespective of their caste or religion.
If things will go as per your luck and you’re not able to control the situation then don’t think about it and try to Focus towards other important points, like what’s your hobby
Well if you aren’t ready or sure for him then why are you agreeing? I know you should follow your parents but still the rest of the life is to be spend by you so be little selfish that’s not wrong at all.
I know right. I’m playing tough outside like I’ll take a stand for myself but the truth is I feel a bit defeated. I haven’t found someone out yet. And they ask me what’s my plan. I have no plan. I don’t think you can force yourself to like someone. If it doesn’t happen organically, then it’s senseless.
It’s fine to feel defeated coz some it’s better to be defeated then to win and you have time to find someone but for that you have give a chance to someone in life and see there is no plan to someone it’s just happens naturally.
Haanji. Ek rishta aaya hai. Aur gharwale kaafi excited hai.
It’s too soon to say. Uske parents ne banayi hai profile. Uska involvement Kam hai. Kya pata uska bhi koi relationship ho. Na mujhe pasand hai. Aur na mujhe bura laga. Bas Darr is baat ka hai ki gharwale pehli baar Aisa profile laye hai jisme me kuch Kami nahi dekh payi. Toh mujhe Darr hai ki wo log chat mangni Patt byah kar denge.
Ek do baar baat karne se nahi pata chalta na ki Banda kaisa hai. Agar mujhe koi reason nahi Mila strong aur gadbad bhi laga toh mere parents isko koi valid reason nahi manenge to decline the proposal. Wo mujhe blackmail karke fasa denge.
Married sister hai. Aur wo bhi unki team me hai.
Ha warna abhi shadi ho chuki hoti meri mere ex boyfriend se.
Agar ap tayar nhi mitr iss rishte ke liye to ap boliye kyu ki baad mai samay nhi rahega bolne ke liye
Waiting to meet the guy. I’m hoping his parents have also made his profile without his consent.
Ye bhi ho skta hai mitr aap Milo uss ladke sai aur aage jaisa apko milkar lagega waisa batana ya uss adharit pr sochna
Haanji. Dhanyawad. :)
Are mitr ye to humara kartavya tha wapas kahi mulaqat hogi kisi post pr feel free to connect khush rahe aur apko success milte rahe…🙂
I can totally feel you
I am also going throigh the same
I don’t want arranged marriage, but finding the right person eveb for love is not that easy.
I know what I want but im not able to find the kind of person I want to marry.
And i am being asked by every single person why am not getting married and it’s really annoying.
I wish we all find the right guys for us soon.
I know right. I understand people might be concerned but it’s rude to ask this question. It’s not like I don’t want a partner. I’m so much more than my relationship status.
It is not easy. Much like gambling. Modern dating is tough. People want flings and only a handful of people out there want to actually put efforts into building a meaningful long lasting relationship.
Try to confess your feelings with your parents patiently and don’t supress your all decisions and happiness for your parents sometimes you is much important for you than your parents ❤️don’t think everything will happen that will be negetive sometimes it can be positive too ik our parents are toxic they will not accept but that’s a fact but tell em girl. .that what you did for them now it’s their turn to understand you completely ❤️I wish you good luck hope you heal soon and you will get everything you want❤️💕
Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I have sat them down multiple times and patiently explained what I have seen.
I have seen engaged people cheating on their fiance. I have seen people rushed into marriage without knowing each other and ending up in divorce. I have been dodging this bullet for about 6 years now. But as I’m getting older, the pressure is getting paramount. I’m at least open to get married now. I understand that I want a partner but I don’t want to do it just because they think “you’re already way past your marriage age”. It’s like doing something just for the sake of it. I mean I want to get it right the first time. You get me. They’re afraid they won’t be here for long and I can’t do life alone. But what they don’t understand is I’d rather do life alone than ending up in a wrong relationship.
I just wish they didn’t have 1000 filters as criteria. I don’t like the guys in our community because they’re different and a bit regressive. I grew up in a different part where the language and culture is different. For the love of God, how would you connect with someone who doesn’t even speak your language? And imagine having to take permission just to be yourself. But I will not give up. I will stand my ground. That’s what I tell myself.
I can feel you 🫂💕stay strong it’s not easy to get over it I can understand and people will judge us and blame us no matter how perfect we are so be yourself love yourself 🫂do what actually you love admire your small achivements by yourself you are the best god just decided a person for you who is 1000x times better 💕so don’t lose hope good days yet to come and it is very soon 💕you just need to believe in yourself if life is only about happiness there is no meaning for life right but believe this is the actual stage that we have to go through a lot and once we became strong nothing can make you break 💕🫂so be strong my virtual hugs to you sis 🤞💞 I will pray for you that everything should be ok 🤞💕
Thank you so much for saying all that. You’re such a kind soul. Wishing you the best. You’re right I’m going to focus on making my life awesome. God bless you.
For those who are following the post, I have an update. I met the guy. He seemed normal and wise for the first two hours until he got comfortable and spit venom like anything. He talked trash about woman he knew including his brothers wife. Asked me my bra size. Asked me to wear a push up bra. Called all the girls in our gym a whore and “asking for it”. Shared his psycho sexual fantasies that traumatized me. Dude is obsessed with his mother in a disgusting way. Manipulates and exploits vulnerable women like clothes and still has nudes from his exes. He was laughing about it like it’s an achievement. I don’t know what the fuck is he doing it with it. Probably uses it to blackmail people. He tried to get me high and when I said no multiple times he kept pushing for it. Said he wants me to be at ease… more like he wants me to be high so he can do anything he wants. The man is a walking red flag. 😑 I haven’t met such a disgusting chauvinist lowlife disgrace of a human being. This insecure piece of shit said I probably have slept around since I was wearing a dress. The only satisfying part of the entire interaction was some really deep scars on his hands and face. I asked him about it and he told me he got beaten up by someone. No shit Sherlock! I bet he deserved every bit of it and more. I can’t believe such people exist and I feel so sorry for the poor girl who’s gonna fall for his status. Such a pathetic loser. He literally told me he stared at a woman’s breasts and she threw her drink in his face and slapped the shit Outta him. His mother enables this behaviour. Outrageous!