Iโll turn 27 in a few months. I completed my post-graduation more than 2 years ago. Since then Iโve been working in a big company. At first it was a bit overwhelming but Iโm doing well now. Work doesnโt stress me much. My boss is okay. I get appreciated for my work and I achieve results.
Apart from this, I feel there is nothing going in my life at all. There is nothing to look forward to, no love life and no friends or social life.
All my friends are either married now or engaged or having babies. I have never dated a girl before in my life. And I do not know if I ever will.
Iโm really afraid that Iโll always be alone like this.
I try to do everything I can in life. I work well, I workout everyday, I go for runs, I read books, do professional certifications, cook for myself and travel to different places (alone though). I donโt like leaving empty time in my life because it makes me think about how empty and hollow it is, with absolutely no one to share it with.
All my friends are now busy with their careers, families or spouses.
Whenever I feel like talking, there is nobody I can turn to.
My colleagues are also older, married or about to get married.
Iโve never dated anyone so I canโt even imagine ever getting married. This brings me great sorrow every time I think about it.
I fear that the way I live my life, Iโll never meet/date a girl in my life.
I feel Iโll excel in my career; Iโll maintain my commitment to fitness and keep doing all the other random things but never will be able to cultivate a meaningful relationship. And at this point, Iโve almost given up and I donโt know what am I doing wrong or whatโs the problem. Iโm always obsessed with doing everything right, but somehow I donโt know at all whatโs so wrong with me that I can never find peace and happiness with anyone.
All the negative thoughts exhaust me.
I find it hard to relax and always pick up something to do. This has worked for me in my work life but I donโt think this is emotionally alright.
I just run away from any sort of confrontations on this topic and get offended at any mention of anyoneโs romantic life or even a movie or song.
Iโm just not sure what to do here. I feel Iโll just keep on growing older and older and growing in my career and earning more and but never ever finding anyone to love at all.
So, why donโt you try a dating app??
Tried some years ago. Never got much matches. Itโs a very discouraging and stressful experience knowing nobody likes you. And even if they did, then competing for affection with a 100 others.
I have vowed never to use an online service ever for dating purpose.
You will find someoneโฆ
Thanks for the thought. I donโt see much of a chance but thanks for trying to be positive.
Be optimisticโฆand try to be a positive you will find someone
I was optimistic ever since I was a teenager.
Iโm just tired after all these years now. No strength to be more positive. And positive or negative, itโs not helping me either way.
I was trying to write something here but i got a notification where it tells that your comment is in a reviewโฆ
I donโt know how to help you but i really donโt want you to lost a faithโฆ
Thanks. But sorry, I cannot see why I should still keep faith here. Or even how. How do I keep faith when I know nothing goodโs happened and it never probably will.
You should go for an arranged marriage
Never. I will absolutely never marry someone I donโt even know well. Or someone I did not choose by myself.
It is important in a long lasting relationship to embrace your decisions and be sure of everything. I cannot allow anyone else to choose a match for me. I believe in my independence and I like to make my own decisions.
P.S. About a year ago, I even stopped posting anything on social media or checking it much. I just somehow lost all interest in telling anything about my life to the world and looking at everyone elseโs life just brought me anxiety.
See, you can find someone if you want toโฆ donโt be like a pessimisticโฆ
Thanks. Itโs just that, as Iโm getting older and older, Iโm losing any optimism. As I said, I donโt live the kind of life where I socialise much with others or meet any women.
And I will not go out of my way to be someone Iโm not just to find a relationship.
Have you ever been to a solo trip aur trip with strangers??
Yes, I have been to solo trips.
I have met strangers and befriended them.
Still, no lasting friendship and certainly never met anyone I liked in a romantic way.
Ohhh okayโฆ
Ahaa this I kind of my stry as well, dw man itโs all hypeโฆUโre living the best life. Ik this emptiness but try joining dance grps maybe
I donโt see how that can help.
