Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
If someone says they care, but leave you alone during a breakdown or anxiety attack and call you after a while or remain calm even after knowing your situation, what does it mean?
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
Yeah he asked like any other person would have after knowing what I am going through at the moment. I didn’t share and he was unbothered by that. And I cut the call. He didn’t call again
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
I guess I need to spend some time alone. I don’t know what to do with all these rn
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
But he didn’t care at the moment. Why will he care now?
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
I just needed a bit of reassurance nothing else but ig I was wrong.
Your mental health is yours to deal with alone. It is not his responsibility at any point to coach you thru it. My friends leave me alone until I’ve calmed and want to talk about it. He could be just trying to give you your space and respect your work YOU need to do. As for staying calm, if he doesn’t have anxiety like you then you’re gonna feel he’s downplaying it no matter what. What’s better when you have a fit, someone who has no idea what to do or someone who stays calm?
Either way, if you don’t communicate then it means whatever anyone wants. If you need something different from your partner to help w your anxiety, that’s ON YOU to communicate that with him.
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
He called after I had calmed down. I respect him for that. But if he was actually giving me space then why didn’t he ask me then? I said u don’t care, do you? He said okay I don’t. And left after that.
What the… Then that’s your answer dumbass lmfao.
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
Yeah ig he is tired of my breakdowns now.
And that is totally not something anyone can blame him for. You know how hard it is to live with. That’s a lot to ask another person to deal with. Get better tools to deal with it if you want to be a better partner and keep em around.
Good luck.
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
He is with me from past 3 months jisme se yesterday night was the second time I called him during a breakdown hoping he would reassure me. Is that too much to ask for?
Yes. Your mental health is YOUR responsibility. Absolutely NO ONE has to help you with. Together 3 months and youre already depending on him for emotional support thru breakdowns?
Yeah. You ask entirely too much. Get more help before entering another relationship.
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
I just wanted him to do his own part that is saying he would not leave. I didn’t expect him to handle me. I have handled this on my own in the past and I can do it now also. But as he is present in my life rn can’t he just say these few words?
After 3 months he’s suppose to promise to not leave you, and he’s just starting to learn what that would mean if he dated you long term? You PYSCHO.
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
Okay thanks for the judgement. It really helped
You poor kids these days think Everything is a judgement just bc it’s not what you wanna hear, even tho you asked lmfao. Your behavior is not healthy, too high of expectations and dependent of others and not enough accountability of yourself.
Good luck.
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
You don’t know me personally. You just know a part of my life that I myself decided to share. And no it’s not because what you said was not what I was willing to hear, that I termed it as a judgement. I welcome everyone’s opinion.
I don’t have to know you, and I’m not claiming to. I’m responding to what youre saying, which is particularly disturbing, if a guy said shit like that to me I’d run for the hills too. I don’t sugar coat a thing. Being that codependent can be dangerous for you, lead you to unhealthy men who will def do you more harm than good. Just bc I’m not sprinkling daisies and sparkles around doesn’t mean it doesn’t come from a place of care.
At least take some time to speculate a little bit if you may of expected too much too soon.
Good luck ✌️
Anchal Sharma @blessedmess
Yeah I will take my time. Thanks again
