i would love some advice from anyone :))
so i’ve been talking to this guy for near enough 2 years on and off. he’s from a different country so i’ve never met him but we’re meant to meet up this summer.
however recently i’ve realised that i feel like i’m a lesbian. i have no idea what to do or where to go from here.
he’s an amazing guy and truly does not deserve any of this and i feel so much guilt because it’s like i’ve put him through this with me. i’ve said so many things that are gonna seem like a lie to him (like me admitting feelings etc.), but i genuinely thought that i felt those things at the time of saying it. i just feel bad because there’s no way he’s gonna believe that.
i also don’t wanna lose him because he’s genuinely such a great person but i believe i will if i tell him that i’m a lesbian. this sucks.
I did it with a friend of three years. He was fortunately accepting and is in the process of moving on. I felt bad at first but it’s better than having to continue feelings you don’t feel anymore.
thank you sm for replying :) you’re really brave and i admire you so much for that because i understand how hard it is.
i definitely need to tell him, but i’m just trying to figure out how to do it.
I don’t have anything to suggest since you’re the one who knows your relationship better. Good luck, really!
Rachel @treesinmay
I think sexuality can be surprisingly fluid. Maybe you do really like him and could at one point see yourself with him but now you want to explore relationships with women. It happens.
that’s true!! i definitely agree with you :)
my advice would be, to be honest. come clean and just pour your heart out - tell him what you’ve said on here; that he’s a great person, kind soul, etc. i think what you should also do is talk to him a bit in person and confirm to yourself if you’re bi or lesbian ; however, he sounds like an amazing person, and while there’s a chance that he may get hurt in the process, its still better than leading him on. i respect you a lot for planning to tell him. good luck, and i hope it goes well for you <3
thank you so much that meant a lot to hear!! that’s definitely a good idea i think it’s just best to tell him as soon as i can.
