I would like to hear someoneโs views on this. Iโm that person who does a lot in any relationship/friendship and I like doing that, I donโt do it to get something. Iโve just always been the helper and Iโve realised over my therapy sessions that Iโd started neglecting my own feelings and taking emotional responsibility of my friends. Iโm now working on building boundaries and keeping myself first (very difficult process).
So, sometimes I feel really dejected and depressed that no one hypes me up as I do them or no one really does stuff for me. I think this also plays into why I canโt take compliments as they are not given to me often. When I feel like this, I just want to stop doing things for people and go into my shell but I know thatโll not help so I keep convincing myself against it. I know I should tell my friends when Iโm upset/disappointed and Iโve just done that but that hasnโt helped me as that is just who they are. What do I actually do in this situation?
Thanks a lot! Iโm trying to do that everyday. Hoping it works out for you too๐